I'm so frustrated with Madison...she'll be 3 on Tuesday.....

If we are at home and I don't put any clothes on her from the waist down, she will do fine and go to the potty....but if she has underwear on, she never goes to the potty and just pees/poops on them....

Did you just keep putting them on the kids and let them keep having accidents over and over?

Do you let them sit in it for a while or change them right away?

I'm so frustrated with the whole thing....I thought she was going to be trained right around 2, but we ended up having to move long distance twice in the last year and the twins being born just before that....messed her all up! Now, #4 is due in November and I'd really like her potty trained a few months before that so hopefully she won't regress again!

TIA for any suggestions!

Wow! I feel your frustration!

There is NO magical thing done to say how Jordan was potty trained! I was getting frustrated with him because I KNEW he knew what to do. He just didnt want to 'comply' and would pee and poop in his too! Until I just 'gave up' appling pressure. and HE decided to 'do it'.

I know that's not the answer you want especially with the twins and another baby on the way!

All I can encourage you to do is continue encouraging her and reminding her OFTEN with her undies on "do you have to potty?" and saying things like" Mommie will be sooo proud of you if you potty in pot."

Words of praise is what excites Jordan. when he finishes on the pot the first thing he says is, "Is Mommie SO Proud of Me?" and I respond, "OHHH YES! Jordan I'm SO VERY Proud of YOU!"

Again, I sorry I'm not much help! But keep us informed of her progress and what techniques you use.

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It is taking Vanessa a very long time but it is going slowly. She was driving me nuts at one point but I just decided it is not worth the stress and she is slowly imrproving. I guess each and every kid is different. Wish my mom knew that. She said I should have started years ago. Vanessa will be 4 in October.

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I don't keep Eleanor in wet training pants because it's bad for the carpet and she doesn't care whether her pants are wet or not.

We just started training ourselves, so my advice is limited. Finding the right reward helped. At first we tried candy. She's never really had candy before, so we thought that would be great. Turns out E doesn't really like candy. So, applaude and ring a bell when she pees. That seems to work much better.

I just praise him alot when he goes and when he does he immediately will say "I went pee" something like that. I just keep telling him that if he keep's going potty that he will get to wear big boy underwear and I will ask him if he has to go and sometimes he will say no and i leave it at that. I'm just letting him go with it and not pushing it on him kwim?

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I am also interested in any and all advice that can be given! My son will be 3 in October, and so far he has shown little to no interest in using the potty. I was not concerned until yesterday. When I went to pick him up from daycare, his room teacher told me that he is the next one to move up to the next room, but since he is not potty trained, he will be passed over. Basically, he has to be trained before he can move up to the 3's room. I guess I can understand their reasoning (they take many field trips in that room, etc.), but I feel bad that he will be held back. He is advanced in every other area and would definitely be ready to move up intellectually and socially. So we're going to start putting him in underwear next week (both at daycare and at home) to see what happens. I know he knows exactly what he's doing and when he's doing it, especially with pooping. So I'm really hoping that he won't like being wet/dirty. To this point we have only suggested it randomly, and we do have a potty chair out and available. We have promised him the moon if he goes potty on the potty (candy, new sticker books, a new movie, etc.), but so far none of that has enticed him.

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Hi, I am almost in the same boat as you And loking for help. I have a 4 year old (he will be 5 in oct.) and a 3 year old (he will be 4 in jan) and neither will use the potty. I have tried everything you could possbly think of with my 4 year old since the time he was 2 and he has just gotten even more resistent as he gets older. Now my 3 year old is different he is actually doing really well in trying to tell me when he has to go. he doesn't like the feeling of being dirty or wet, but for my 4 year old he doesn't care. He will go get a pull-up and hand it to me and lay on the floor for me to change him. when I go to take him to the bathroom he starts screaming and telling me know. I am at my wits end and extreamly frustrated on what to do. Does anyone have any advice for me. Cause I have tried the sticker charts, candy, rewards, and even the little games. PLEASE HELP!!

Thanks Deon
mother of Ricky 10/12/99
Kenny 1/26/01