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Ally&Tommysmom · #1 (**permalink**) 04-28-2005, 10:41 PM

Is your child interested in training or do you feel like you are always trying to con them/bribe them, etc. to go on the potty chair?

Do you have your child use a potty chair or the toilet?

Is your child afraid? If yes, completely afraid, or just afraid of the potty chair or just afraid of the toilet?

What signs do they show that they are ready?

What do they wear during the day? Diaper, Undies, Pull Up/training pants, nothing?

If they are in a diaper/pull up how often to you take them to sit on the potty (usually)?

If they are wearing undies or pull ups and they know not to go in them (or at least know they aren't supposed to and try to make some effort not to), do you just take them when they show signs of needing to go, or still take them at usual intervals or shortly after drinking?

If they are wearing undies or are not wearing anything, do they hold it well?

What do you do if they clearly need to go, but they sit on the potty but refuse to let it come out or they are doing the 'potty dance' naked or in undies needing to go, but holding it? How long do you let this go on before giving them a diaper?

If they are sitting on the potty chair but nothing is happening, how long do you let them sit there?

If they go a tiny bit (like a tbsp) rather than emptying their bladder, do you reward them/praise them or do you say something like, "that's good, but let's keep trying, you have more in there and you need to get it all out"?

If you reward, what rewards do you give if they empty their bladder completely or poop?

Do you give the same reward whether it's pee or poop?

Do you give a reward for effort even if they don't go?

Do you let them play with a toy or read a book to them while they are sitting there on the potty chair?

Thank you in advance for answering these questions. I really need your help. I'll answer them below and include my concerns.
Christy

Ally&Tommysmom · #2 (**permalink**) 04-28-2005, 11:00 PM

I posted some of my story on another thread, but here's why I'm asking the questions above. My daughter will hold it for hours. Today she was in undies for 3 hours in the AM and didn't go once. She didn't act like she needed to go. Then during naptime she was in a pull up, but she still did not pee during nap. Then after naptime I put undies back on her and by 5pm she was acting like she had to go. She holds it really well even when she obviously has to go. At 5:30 she accidentally dribbled in her undies...just a tiny bit. I told her that she needed to sit on the potty and I would get new undies for her. She sat on it (screaming and crying that she didn't want to at first) for about 20 minutes while we read a few books. She didn't go at all. Then I let her get back up and put the undies on. I told her to tell me when she needs to go. She went until about 7:30 holding it and doing the potty dance the whole time (sometimes crying and asking for a diaper) and finally dribbled about a TBSP in the potty chair. We praised her and rewarded her with a little gift, but still told her that she wasn't done yet and she had to get the rest out. She screamed and cried that she wanted a diaper and by 8pm i was worried about the fact that she hadn't had a 'real' pee since before 9:30AM and gave her a diaper. She peed a ton immediately. I just am at my wits end. PLEASE answer my questions above. It will really help me. I'll answer them myself below.

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Is your child interested in training or do you feel like you are always trying to con them/bribe them, etc. to go on the potty chair?
She is not interested, but she shows signs of being ready (being able to hold it, knowing when she needs to go and when she has gone, being interested when mommy or daddy goes to the bathroom, wanting to flush tissue paper, etc)

Do you have your child use a potty chair or the toilet?
she only uses the potty chair. She is terrified of the toilet...don't know what i'll do once she is trained and we are in public.

Is your child afraid? If yes, completely afraid, or just afraid of the potty chair or just afraid of the toilet?
yes. I don't know what she's afraid of, but although she shows signs of being ready physically, i don't know if she is ready emotionally. She cries out of fear, NOT control or defiance. Her behavior is showing us that she's scared, not mad or independent and just trying to make her own decisions or anything.

What signs do they show that they are ready?
being able to hold it, knowing when she needs to go and when she has gone, being interested when mommy or daddy goes to the bathroom, wanting to flush tissue paper, etc

What do they wear during the day? Diaper, Undies, Pull Up/training pants, nothing?
undies most of the day, Dora pants (like pull ups) at naptime and diaper at bedtime.

If they are in a diaper/pull up how often to you take them to sit on the potty (usually)?
before this week, i would just try every now and then. She would scream and cry so hard when i would even mention the potty that I didn't feel like it was wise to keep taking her every 30 minutes, which is why now, beginning at the end of last week, i've been putting her in undies (which she will not pee in other than maybe a minor dribble accident) and telling her to tell me when she has to go or watching for signs she needs to go.

If they are wearing undies or pull ups and they know not to go in them (or at least know they aren't supposed to and try to make some effort not to), do you just take them when they show signs of needing to go, or still take them at usual intervals or shortly after drinking?
Take her when she shows signs of needing to go, but she gets up and down. She might sit for 20 minutes and then get up and play (while doing the potty dance or crying for a diaper or sitting for a minute and then getting up and crossing her legs, etc).

If they are wearing undies or are not wearing anything, do they hold it well?
she holds it like a camel.

What do you do if they clearly need to go, but they sit on the potty but refuse to let it come out or they are doing the 'potty dance' naked or in undies needing to go, but holding it? How long do you let this go on before giving them a diaper?
I just have been telling her not to go in her undies and trying to get her to sit on the potty chair and go (by bribing her (telling her she'll get candy if she goes, etc), by telling her it will make mommy really happy, etc) We let it go a long time tonight before giving her a diaper. I don't know how wise this is.

If they are sitting on the potty chair but nothing is happening, how long do you let them sit there?
20 minutes before letting her get up (or earlier if she just happens to get up on her own) but if she does get up w/o going, i still tell her not to go in her undies and to tell me if she needs to pee pee. If she does have an accident, i don't punish or yell at her. I just tell her to sit on the potty and try again and then we get a new pair of undies.

If they go a tiny bit (like a tbsp) rather than emptying their bladder, do you reward them/praise them or do you say something like, "that's good, but let's keep trying, you have more in there and you need to get it all out"?
I do praise her and tonight i gave her a little gift. I don't know if this is a good idea or not. I then tell her to keep tryiing to get the rest out. She's never emptied her bladder so i don't even know how much should be in the potty chair if she empties it completely. She has only done a TBSP or so each time she's gone in the potty (only 3 times).

If you reward, what rewards do you give if they empty their bladder completely or poop?
She has pooped once and she got skittles and nerds. Tonight she peed a tiny amount and I gave her a little gift. (I bought a 5 piece toy set for her and gave her one of the pieces). Another time she dribbled a tiny amount and I gave her a new book (that she was going to get anyway).

Do you give the same reward whether it's pee or poop?
I switch the rewards around... sometimes it's candy, sometimes it's a book, sometimes it's a small toy.

Do you give a reward for effort even if they don't go?
In the beginning I would give her one skittle for trying. That didn't really work. She's not motivated by food that much so she wouldn't really give it a try for a skittle.

Do you let them play with a toy or read a book to them while they are sitting there on the potty chair?
yes. Sometimes she plays with her little potty doll adn sometimes I read to her.

Farmer_Manda · #3 (**permalink**) 05-02-2005, 04:47 PM

Do you have your child use a potty chair or the toilet?-both

Is your child afraid? If yes, completely afraid, or just afraid of the potty chair or just afraid of the toilet?-neither.

What signs do they show that they are ready?-he goes sometimes but often never will tell me he has to go

What do they wear during the day? Diaper, Undies, Pull Up/training pants, nothing?-currently im trying undies and just pull ups at night. Its a long stretch and my steam cleaner is getting a work out but i think it will work out

If they are in a diaper/pull up how often to you take them to sit on the potty (usually)?
whenever i remember
If they are wearing undies or pull ups and they know not to go in them (or at least know they aren't supposed to and try to make some effort not to), do you just take them when they show signs of needing to go, or still take them at usual intervals or shortly after drinking? He doesn't seem to care if he has to go or not always. Only sometimes he tells me he has to go

If they are wearing undies or are not wearing anything, do they hold it well?-Depends .. sometimes he pees a bunch showing he held it.. othertimes only a little

What do you do if they clearly need to go, but they sit on the potty but refuse to let it come out or they are doing the 'potty dance' naked or in undies needing to go, but holding it? How long do you let this go on before giving them a diaper?

If they are sitting on the potty chair but nothing is happening, how long do you let them sit there?5-10 minutes. Sometimes it bring good results.

If they go a tiny bit (like a tbsp) rather than emptying their bladder, do you reward them/praise them or do you say something like, "that's good, but let's keep trying, you have more in there and you need to get it all out"? I pat his back and celebrate!

If you reward, what rewards do you give if they empty their bladder completely or poop?

Do you give the same reward whether it's pee or poop? usually no rewards unless i have tic tacs nearby

Do you give a reward for effort even if they don't go? nope. I tell him next time

Do you let them play with a toy or read a book to them while they are sitting there on the potty chair?

Farmer_Manda · #4 (**permalink**) 05-02-2005, 04:50 PM

forgot the last question. i let him read and sometimes i even put the chair in front of the cartoons lol

Farmer_Manda · #5 (**permalink**) 05-02-2005, 04:56 PM

Allison is the one you are potty training right?? Im working on my son Tyler who was born 10/29/02 so very close in age.

Kim-mom2MnEm · #6 (**permalink**) 05-23-2005, 07:55 AM

Is your child interested in training or do you feel like you are always trying to con them/bribe them, etc. to go on the potty chair? My daughter showed signs and I just waited til I thought she was really ready and went for it. We started at 2 yrs 9 mos and 3 weeks and she was fully trained by 3 yrs 1 month! I did bribe her at first, but the only thing that worked in the end was praise - lots and lots of it! My son on the other hand is not interested at all and is a LOT more stubborn then my daughter was. It's taken a lot longer so far with my son.

Do you have your child use a potty chair or the toilet? Whichever they want. My daughter started off using the big potty with the little toilet seat, but now she goes back and forth. My son goes back and forth, but prolly sits on the little potty more.

Is your child afraid? If yes, completely afraid, or just afraid of the potty chair or just afraid of the toilet? My daughter wasn't afraid, but my son is. He just dribbles on the potty and won't fully go. I'm not sure what exactly he's scared of tho.

What signs do they show that they are ready? My daughter didn't like to feel herself go and wanted to be changed immediately. She was staying dry for long periods of time and even overnights. My son can hold it for long periods of times, but that's about it at the moment.

What do they wear during the day? Diaper, Undies, Pull Up/training pants, nothing? I did the regular undies for 2 days straight with my daughter. But it was so messy we went to pull ups. Only did the pull-ups for a week before I pushed the undies again and she finally did her thing on the potty consistantly. My son is in pull-ups for the most part, just cuz we're still in practice mode.

If they are in a diaper/pull up how often to you take them to sit on the potty (usually)? I don't make them sit on the potty, but I ask at least once an hr. IMO, I think forcing them to go sit on it makes it worse. They have to want to do it or I'll be taking them even when they CAN do it.

If they are wearing undies or pull ups and they know not to go in them (or at least know they aren't supposed to and try to make some effort not to), do you just take them when they show signs of needing to go, or still take them at usual intervals or shortly after drinking? With my daughter I just took her to sit on the potty when she looked like she had to go. But I learned quickly that they have to learn when they have to go or they will get wet/dirty.

If they are wearing undies or are not wearing anything, do they hold it well? My daughter didn't hold it well at first, but learned after 2 days of wetting herself in regular undies. My son can hold it being naked or in regular undies, but not in anything else. My son can hold it longer then I'd like and feel like I have to put a pull-up/diaper on him to get him to go.

What do you do if they clearly need to go, but they sit on the potty but refuse to let it come out or they are doing the 'potty dance' naked or in undies needing to go, but holding it? How long do you let this go on before giving them a diaper? My son does this and I don't think I've gone more then 6-7 hrs w/o putting on a diaper. I don't want him to get an infection or anything. I just assume he's not quite ready yet...

If they are sitting on the potty chair but nothing is happening, how long do you let them sit there? Five minutes unless they tell me they want to sit there.

If they go a tiny bit (like a tbsp) rather than emptying their bladder, do you reward them/praise them or do you say something like, "that's good, but let's keep trying, you have more in there and you need to get it all out"?
I praise and still give rewards. I want them to know it's ok to go, even if it's just a little. I will ask if he has to go anymore and if he says no, then I get him down. I don't want to force it.

If you reward, what rewards do you give if they empty their bladder completely or poop? For my daughter I started with M&M's and stickers. When she stayed dry a whole week, I got her a special toy she's been wanting. But mostly lots and lots of praise. We do the potty dance, we do high fives and we call the grandparents to brag. My son has been a little harder, but I've basically tried the same things. So far praise is the only thing that makes him feel like he can try again.

Do you give the same reward whether it's pee or poop? Yes basically. They get the same dance and praise, same # of stickers, but with the M&M's for pee they only get 3, but with poopies they get 5!

Do you give a reward for effort even if they don't go?Nope. Don't want to give them the wrong signal. Just lots of praise for trying.

Do you let them play with a toy or read a book to them while they are sitting there on the potty chair? Didn't have to with my daughter, but I have found I need to distract my son a little. It hasn't helped yet tho.

maibaby · #7 (**permalink**) 06-05-2005, 08:11 AM

Is your child interested in training or do you feel like you are always trying to con them/bribe them, etc. to go on the potty chair? At first she was a little apprensive but when I changed the chair type was was all for it.

Do you have your child use a potty chair or the toilet? Chair

Is your child afraid? If yes, completely afraid, or just afraid of the potty chair or just afraid of the toilet? No

What signs do they show that they are ready? My DD told me she wanted to use potty. And told me when she had to go...

What do they wear during the day? Diaper, Undies, Pull Up/training pants, nothing?
Nothing mostly or undies if at home.

If they are in a diaper/pull up how often to you take them to sit on the potty (usually)? I only put her on it when she tells me she has to go.

If they are wearing undies or pull ups and they know not to go in them (or at least know they aren't supposed to and try to make some effort not to), do you just take them when they show signs of needing to go, or still take them at usual intervals or shortly after drinking? I take her when she tells me.

If they are wearing undies or are not wearing anything, do they hold it well?
She does fine in the house -- she goes 100 percent of the time at home -- no accidents...but I am not comfortable going on outings with undies only on at this point.

What do you do if they clearly need to go, but they sit on the potty but refuse to let it come out or they are doing the 'potty dance' naked or in undies needing to go, but holding it? How long do you let this go on before giving them a diaper? I usually don't force her, but if I am 99% certain she has to go, I make her stay on the potty, and if she has to go it will be within a minute.

If they are sitting on the potty chair but nothing is happening, how long do you let them sit there? Gerenally no more than 5-10 minutes

If they go a tiny bit (like a tbsp) rather than emptying their bladder, do you reward them/praise them or do you say something like, "that's good, but let's keep trying, you have more in there and you need to get it all out"? I always give a reward -- especially in the early stages -- even for just sitting on the potty..

If you reward, what rewards do you give if they empty their bladder completely or poop? her favorite snack

Do you give the same reward whether it's pee or poop? yes but a little more for poop

Do you give a reward for effort even if they don't go? yes in the early stages

Do you let them play with a toy or read a book to them while they are sitting there on the potty chair? yes --particuraly in the early stages.

Nance