My son is turning 3 at the end of June. We are at the stage where he pees without fail when I take him to toliet. He knows that he will get an M&M when he goes.

Here's some background:
He is in preschool during the day where he wears pullups. When he comes home he wears the vinyl waterproof training pants. He WILL NOT ask to go to the toilet. When he has accidents I take him to the toilet and tell him we don't pee in the underwear, but in the toilet. And I ask him if he wants to wear the wet underwear. He becomes unhappy and says no I want dry underwear.

So I know he understands the difference between wet and dry and that he prefers the dry, but I don't know how to get him to ask to go.

Is it that he still wears the pullups in school? I was thinking of putting a stop to that and having him wear the vinyls to school. But I'm afraid he'll be wet all the time because he doesn't ask to go.

What should I do? How can I get him to ask? Anyone else have this problem?

Thanks,
Ninel

I can totally relate. My daughter IS 3, won't tell me or the daycare provider she has to go. We watch for signs and also have her go approximately when she usually needs to go. Tonight she pooped in the tub which she has not done in months and has been extremely paranoid about. I Know she know's not to and was very upset with her. Its so frustrating!!!! She owns over 20 pairs of underwear, all kinds - no interest at all. (grumble, grumble, vent vent.....)

My children never "asked" to go...they just went. Don't wait for your child to ask!!!

As for pull ups.......BOOOOOOOOOOOO! Get rid of them!!! Take a weekend when your child is not in school/day care and put real underwear on them....let them mess themselves.....it is the fastest way to potty train a child! They realize they don't like being wet or dirty and train faster!

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