On to injections cycle #2 - Page 2

Clrbaby · #21 (**permalink**) 06-20-2006, 01:28 PM

Thanks, its been so GREAT having you to talk to about this. I'm all alone out here with him gone and its so frustrating.

I did just read online a posting that gave me a little hope. This nurse gave the example of having sex on Saturday and still being able to fertilize an egg on Wednesday. I was like HEY that sounds like what I'm hoping for.....what are the odds. Man I'm hoping so HARD that that scenario happens to me. Then I won't have to go back to the wicked witch.

And OH TELL ME ABOUT THE COMPUTER THING....Girl my husband does the SAME thing. Before he goes to work, after he gets home for work............no matter how I complain that we need to spend time together its like he can't detach from that computer. If he does give in and stops playing that darn game then he just sits on the love seat while I watch tv from the couch.....its like he's on punishment or some thing. So, that's no fun either. We have very few tv shows that we can watch together so that means its hard to just hang out with both of us enjoying it.

He says when he gets back from Iraq he'll be spending ALL of his free time with me.....but he's also talking about getting a BETTER computer when he gets back too......LOL

You are not alone! The computer can be an addiction. Some folks spend alot of time on it because they are lonely and need companion ship. People who are married or are living with their significant other are just WRONG. And the need some counseling..lol...seriously the other person feels neglected if they are just sitting around while the other is playing dumb games or surfing during time that they should really be connecting with their loved one.

We all need alone time but not THAT much.

I've been trying to think of outdoor events to go to encourage more together tiem like ballgames, hockey....you know where you can laugh together and just have fun.

Have you tried that technique,yet,? Since he is home, I'd throw it out there.

Thanks for being so cool to talk with.....my dogs don't respond well to my ranting.....they run and hide....hahah

A_Marine's_Wife · #22 (**permalink**) 06-20-2006, 01:56 PM

Its been great having you to talk to also i dont know anyone hear besise Dh to talk to i get so board i end up talking to my mom for 3 hours just to have a conversation with someone. Iv always been told that sperm can live up to five days at least in all the books that i have read and they way my doc talked in suggesting we have sex days before i acutally ovulate i think you may still have a chance im so crossing my fingers for you that would be so exciting. i dont mind him playing his game so mutch during the week i understand he works long and hard hours and he needs time to unwind or relax but i cant see staying up tell midnight or 1 in the morning when you have to get up at 4-5 its kinda rediculaus and immiture (i so did not spell that right lol) it really bothers me on weekends when iv spent the hole week stuck in the house(we only have one car) buy my self then the weekend comes i want to go to the beach or do something with him and have human contact but he gets up and goes straight to the computer its verry rare i can get him to do something with me. if i ask him to watch something on tv he acts like its killing him. i get lonely so i come in the office to talk to him and he acts like im annoying him or bothering him. i try to get him to do things with me but he never seems intrested or he tells me yes he wants to go or do what ever then i get up and dressed and everything and he changes his mind at the last minute. Its driving me nuts i talked to him about it and he tells me that he needs the time to relax that its his weekend to do what he wants to and im like what about me when is my day off i cook clean do laundry mow lawns weeed 7 days a week for the last 3 years when do i get to relax. I think he is adicted to the computer he used to play starwars before he deployed and i was always angry for him spending so mutch time on it then he came home and switched games and was like i dont like this one as mutch so i wont play as mutch that lasted for about 2 months now he is back to playing constantly im just super frustrated im glad its not just me that feels this way. He always tells me when i ask him to come do something with me or if we are going to go any where or play a board game he tells me that im nagging (im puzzled buy that one) my favorite thing is going to the beach and he acts like its a death sentence to spend an hour or two. so the last week i have stoped comming in the office to talk to him if he wants to talk to me he can come to where im at mabie he will realize that he hasent talked to me mutch in a few days and come spend some time with tme. Right now he has a broken hand so everything is hard for him to do so im doing even more than i normally have to. I thought a cast covering all but three fingers would keep him from playing so mutch but it doesent. (rolling eye and shaking head) any way thanks for listening to me complain about my Dh and his bad habbits lol. I think i ovulated finally on cd 18 and we bd the two days before so hopefully the HSG cleaned everything out and well catch the eggie so well see. thanks for talking to me TOnes of baby Dust

Clrbaby · #23 (**permalink**) 06-20-2006, 10:05 PM

Hey! Alright! You got to bd so close to your ovulation. I wish. I am actually ovulating right NOW. I thought I'd treat myself to see a movie tonight so by the time I get home my ovaries are screaming! So, that test kit was right on the money when it showed positive. That means I ovulated about 17 hours after my first positive. (first was at 430am) I hope the pain doesn't get any worse and thanks for sending me some baby dust.....we can only hope.

At least I have some thing to distract me now. I usually do temp work because I stopped working full time to try and have a family. So the people I do temp work for called me up to go help out another company until the 17th of July. I'll only have to work 3 days a week from 7am till 330pm. I was like HECK YEAH I'll do it. This way if I'm not pregnant I'll have some thing to do to keep my mind off of the failed attempt until I can try again. Also, I'll be too busy working to do a hundred pregnancy test strips like I usually do. I mean you have all that time on your hands, with no one to communicate with its the only thing you can think of to do.

Anyways, I must have married his twin. I have the same problem with my DH. I felt like you were talking about my situation. I felt so sorry for you because I know what it feels like. Some times I get so angre I'm like I'm leaving, I don't even see why you have me around when you don't pay any attention to me unless you get super horny or I make a fuss. And like you I really have no one to just hang out with all the time. My friends either have kids or are just so many years older than me that most of the things to do just don't fit into their life styles.

My family lives in Texas and I've wanted to relocate there to be closer to them so bad because he is always gone. Then when he gets home he might as well be gone because he disappears into the computer monitor.

I just feel it shouldn't be this way. Ya, know? I didn't get married to just sit around like an artifact. Well, he still says when he gets home its going to be different......but he said that the last time he got deployed over there and after a week it was right back to his old agenda.

I wish we could find a way to get their attention so that it could be like it was before getting married. He actually seemed to enjoy me better not married.......lol.....now it seems like all his spare time is so precious that only he can indulge in it. Maybe they will grow out of it. You think?

He is interested in having a child at least. It hasn't always been the case. He just initially didn't have that need to have a child. I grew up planning the day I'd have ten.......

Now I'm just struggling to have one.

You know if going over to Iraq and putting your life on the line isn't enough to make some one more appreciative of theri loved ones then WHAT could possibly geth to turn their heads our way for a little bit?

I think I'm going to talk to a counselor and have him do it as well when he gets back. I'm not going to rely on him just saying 'he will'. Maybe some outside help will help him see that he needs to refocus his priorities.

Okay, I'm going head to bed. Gotta an early morning and things to do actually for a change.

Hang in there! *HUGS*

A_Marine's_Wife · #24 (**permalink**) 06-21-2006, 05:45 AM

Well fertility friend gave me my ovulation date this morning on cd18 which is what i kinda figured and like you said we got to be the two days before so that seems prity good to me but so far that hasent done any good we seem to have good bd timing just about every cycle. thats what makes me think mabie something is going on. im crossing my fingers for this cycle though hopefully fertilityfriend wont chande my ovulation date it does that every now and then well keep bding every ovther day for a few more days just to b e shure but im prity shure i already have ovulated. Im crossing my fingers that you still hade some supper swimmers in thier to catch your egg. its a bit of a possibility since you ovulated yesterday that woudl be day four so mabie they swam up high and met the egg at the starting gate lol. Dh tried to get his SA results from the navel hospital yesterday and they told him they werent ready which i dont understand cues they only have like 30 minutes to check them out and test them. but he is supost to go back today and talk to someone else he said they were really busy he think they were just telling him that to get rid of him lol. today is a week since he had it done. im anxious to know the results as well as mine its gonna take forever 8 days to go buy lol ill be 11DPO when i go in for my appointment. ahhh the exciting thing is dh goes on leave the next day so mabie ill con him into doing something with me mabie camping. lol Iv never tried the opk i looked at them but they were expensive and you know how being on military pay can be.

im glad you got the temp job for a while that sounds like fun i need something to keep my mind off all the TTC stuff iv been looking for a job for the past 6 months but no one wants to hire me iv applied for everything from day cares to cleaning rooms at motels nothing seems to work out though and thats as frustrating as this TTC business lol. id really like to work and get some money save up for when he gets out in sept.

like you my family is in MO well most of it my bro is back in CA. so i have a hard time being away from them when he deployed last year my mom called me and said you daddy and i want you to come stay with us at least part of the time while he is deployed their is no since in you sitting bye your self for 8 months. so i stayed a few months hear then i went and visited them made a road trip to CA to see my bro and his family and then at the end i spent three months rebuilding a 65 mustang for DH with my dad im so glad that i went and got to spend the time working with him and my mom.

I keep telling my self that Dh will get better about the computer i dont think he would go to councling and im not shure how comfortable id be talking to a stranger about our problems (lol then again im laying it out to you but i guess your really not a stranger any more) I actually dont know anyone hear besise DH one of his friends got married while dh was deployed i made friends with her sorta but they got divorced a few months back and she went home so im still with out any friends.

It was DHs idea to have a baby and i decided i wasent getting any younger if we were gonna have kids we had better do it now. and so far its looking like a good decision that we started now im actually wishing we would have started trying a couple years agaio.

well i guess i need to get off hear for a little bit the back yards lawn is calling me to come cut it ug and its hot out already lol. Good luck at the job talk ot ya later

A_Marine's_Wife · #25 (**permalink**) 06-21-2006, 11:43 AM

well i got my papers from tri-care today for my HSG i have to pay $77.61 ug i was hoping they were gonna cover all of it but i guess im lucky i dident have to pay the hole $329. I just wasent counting on the extra expense lol. AH the military life. so im kinda bumed about that but hopefully well get pregnant soon and it will be worth cost. Hope your having a good day

Clrbaby · #26 (**permalink**) 06-21-2006, 05:05 PM

Do you elevate you hips after bding? That's how I got pregnant both times. I made sure to bd during my most fertile days and afterwards I would lay in bed for 30 minutes with my bottom propped high on pillows. It was uncomfortable but it worked like magic.

Also, last night while I was having those terrible ovulation pains I did a search on them and what medicines I could take while trying to conceive. Did you know that meds like ibuprofen/motrin and aleve can disrupt your ovulation? The kicker is I've been taking mortrin for 5 years for ovulation pain. I would take it right at the start of the pain. I had no idea. What happens is your follicle doesn't release the egg it was growing. They call it Luteinizing Unruptured Follicle Syndrome. I won't go into details here but it makes since. I

I stopped taking motrin last year for my ovulation pain and took tylenol pm instead so that I wouldn't have to be awake during the pain. I had been doing that for some time but when I tried to get pregnant I wasn't elevating my bottom so nothing happened. Then when I got serious about having a baby and was willing try ANYTHING once I did the bottom elevation thing coupled with not being on motrin.....and presto! Granted I lost the baby at the end of my 4th month.....I still got pregnant. I did the same thing about 2 months after losing baby 1# and I got pregnant again.....blighted ovum.....but I still got pregnant.

I don't know if it would work for you or if you'd already tried it. Hopefully you get pregnant this cycle and won't have to worry about all the positioning.

Okay, now down to the really really good news. I decided not to go back to the other clinic. I called a new place 3 hours away. I spoke to this lady on the phone who was very sweet and she assured me the doctor that would be taking care of me would be awesome. She says he is going to want to do a HSG test on me and a whole bunch of other tests which she said Tricare covers. So, I'm sooooo glad for that. I saw how you wrote you did have to pay some money for part of the HSG treatment. I can live with that. I'll just have to save up money ahead of time.

I'm so happy to think that I'm going to see a doctor that's going to treat me as a patient and really do all he can to see about knockin' me up.....LOL

Even better would be if I get pregnant this cycle and not have to worry about starting all over again with this process. (sigh)

Lucky you! Your DH is going on leave soon? Oh, you two get to have some quality time together WooWoo. I hope you guys have fun. You know do some thing fun to take your mind off of things.

Oh, before I go (its storming here and I'm afraid to be at the computer any longer) what day do you test for pregnancy? I'm suspose to start my cycle on the 29th but it may be two days late since I ovulated late. I'm going to test on Sunday because I'm neurotic...LOL....who knows maybe I'll actually wait to see if I miss my cycle.....it could happen....

Let me know.

A_Marine's_Wife · #27 (**permalink**) 06-22-2006, 02:42 AM

ya tri care soes cover some of the cost for the HSG but you will probably have to pay about that same that im going to. Dh groned when i told him. I hope they cover all the blood work i had done i havent heard anything from them about that part of it. they moved dr appointment to the 30th instid the doc had surgery or something that came up but it will work out ok Dh will probably just have to take the mustang (breaks are givving us issues some times and im afraid to drive it) and ill drive the jeep to my appointment. thats so good news that the other clinic will take you and that they were so nice thats aswem i hope that you dont need to go to the other clinic but if you do i hope that they are as good to you as they were over the phone. Ya iv been doing the butt on pillow thing for 7 or 8 cycles now but its not doing any good. i know i have a tiped uterus but i dont know which way so iv evenlayed on my stomic with my hips up just incase but that dident do any good either lol. the things we try to get pregnant. i havent taken any pain reliever or cold med well any medicine for that matter since about two months before we started TTC except for when they put me to sleep to cut my wisdome teeth out and i dident even take any pain meds after they were out i just sucked it up lol as DH would call it. some of that stuff htey say is safe to take while pregnant or brestfeeding or even ttc but i dont really believe them they cant guarentee me that it isant going to do harm on some small level. so i will stay away from everything tell i get prego and am done brestfeeding. which sucks cues i suffer from migraines and i have TMJ and scolosis so im always ake. IM excited that dh is getting leave nest week it will be nice hopefully i can keep him away from the computer for part of the time but well see how it goes. guess ill get my work out done talk to ya a bit later

Clrbaby · #28 (**permalink**) 06-22-2006, 07:05 AM

Hey I'm getting ready to head out the door to work thought I'd jump in for a quick response.

You're a trooper for holding off on meds migraines are no joke. I suffer from them as well. I stay out of bright lights and cigarette smoke which seems to trigger them. I should be albino colored by now....hahaha But you are right to stay away from them other than tylenol which in my opinion doesn't give much relief but its some thing.

Also, how many pillows are you using? Girl I use so many pillows my knees touch my chin and I'm not a thin girl so you know I am not feeling the love the elevation thing but I know I have to do it. I was upset when I couldn't do it during the IUI. I was just laying flat on my back. And I could have sworn the doc mention some thing about my uterus being tilted a bit but they only let me lay there for 10 minutes but the good thing is the sperm didn't have to fight its way into my uterus.

Finally emailed my husband about the situation. He was really sweet. He said that if I didn't get pregnant this time to just wait for him to get home for R&R and he would 'facilitate' my needs.....hahahah....facilitate. So that made me feel better.

K, gotta run. Hope you have a great day.

(Maybe you should try some thing with your husband like pamper night or some thing. You know treat him to a full body massage and so forth. Maybe if he sees the attention you are lavishing on him he'll be like 'Hey I think I wanna spend some extra time with this sexy lady!'...haha...Good Luck

A_Marine's_Wife · #29 (**permalink**) 06-22-2006, 08:15 AM

iv tried using severial pillows at once but it dident seem to do any good. Tiped uterus seem to run im my family both of my sis have them it just causes back labor. which i can deal with im good at dealing with back pain because of my scolosis. Im not shure why its been so hard for us to get prego. Its funny you said try doing something for him last night i lit candles all over the house and put on a nighty(which i dont do verry often cues im not verry comfortable in that kinda thing) made spegitti and french bread and ya know what he does start making jokes in the middle of dinner what was i trying to do make a porno vidio and he sang the little porno tune i was so pissed i have no idea what a porno even looks like and he knows that. it prity mutch ruined me trying to be nice to him and do something for him. He gets massages all the time iv got a massage table in the spare bedroom i was going to go to school for massage therapy but then we got married and things got complicated and iv never gotten to do it. with all the moving and deployments and crap. mabie ill get to go one day.
Im so glad that your DH was aswem about the hole thing he sounded excited about comming home for R and R. i hope you have fun talk to ya later

Clrbaby · #30 (**permalink**) 06-24-2006, 10:53 AM

Is he shy or some thing? Sounds like some thing my guy might say. He's shy. Guys make stupid remarks like that when they are afraid to say what they are really thinking. He liked it.

And you should finish your training. It took me four years just to finish my AAS but I did it. It feels good to say "yeah, I have a degree". Granted I'm not using it I still have it.

So how are you feeling? You're like 3dpo or more? I'm a mess over here. I just want to sleep. When I wake up I want to puke most of the day. Right now I'm considering going back to bed again....lol....I've already had a 4 hour nap. I woke up early at 350a because I had been sleep for 6 hours already and I'd been waking up to go to the bathroom all night.

Just wish I knew the true cause of all these would be pregnancy symptoms. Is it because I released an egg from more than one follicle so my progesterone levels are high making me nausea with sore bb. I wish I knew. Friday is a long way a way. Its the soonest I can test and get a positive. It'll still be like 5 or 6 days before my expected period but First Response Early Results is very sensitive.

Okay, I'm tired. Must be all the oatmeal I just finished eating. Hope you are having a great weekend.

A_Marine's_Wife · #31 (**permalink**) 06-24-2006, 02:29 PM

he had just been in a bad mood for like 4 days it drove me nuts he seems to be better today thanksfully i dontk now if i could survive a weekend with him being home and like that. im 6dpo today so iv got a while to go tell testing im crossing my fingers for ya that their PG symptoms that would be so aswem if we both turned up prego at the same time lol. i guess i should give him his computer back and get something done for dinner hope you feel better

Clrbaby · #32 (**permalink**) 06-25-2006, 11:59 AM

How was your Saturday? I just tinkered around the house. Not doing anything special. I did order some pizza which I hadn't done in some time. It was good....still is.

I'm trying to get myself to not think about wanting to be pregnant but being her alone in the house..........every other thought fall on "Could I be?". Its still too soon to tell for sure and pregnancy tests won't even give me a faint (+) until Thursday or Friday.

I just want this 2ww to be over with so I can know once and for all. I wish I'd told them NO on the clomid. It ruined everything. If I hadn't been on the clomid I would have ovulated at most 48 hours after the IUI or even sooner since they would have given me a trigger shot to release the eggs earlier.

See look at me still obsessing over things that are long done with and over.

I need some relief from all this stress. Maybe there's some thing on tv.

How are you feeling?

A_Marine's_Wife · #33 (**permalink**) 06-26-2006, 01:44 AM

lol we ordered pizza on saturday too we tried a new place and itr was alot better than the place we usually order from and the pizza was bigger we ate off it for lunch and dinner saturday and then lunch on sunday so it was worth it not having alot to cook. we got some rain on saturday so we dident get mutch done then yesterday it rained and pored most of the day so we dident do anything then eitehr kinda bumed me out i was looking foward to going to the beach and were supost to get more thunderstorms all week great and the ground is already soggie lol. im 8dpo today my belley had felt kinda odd since i had the HSG done but then again it could just my immigination lol you know how us TTC women can immigine things lol. So far no PG symptoms but its too soon to really have any though i am hungry. my Dr appt is friday and hopefully Dh will be getting out for his 96 that will be fun. im anxious to know what the doc has to say about all the blood work he had done on me. i hope you have a wonderful week and try not to think too mutch i know thats super hard to do im trying not to think about it too. at least the 2WW will be over soon time to get dh up and off to work ug. talk to ya later

Clrbaby · #34 (**permalink**) 06-26-2006, 08:53 AM

You're so lucky I wish I were 8dpo. I think I'm on 6dpo. My BB tenderness is backing off some. I still can't let the shower water hit them but some of the tenderness is gone.

I'm trying to keep up hope but by this point I'm use to accepting fate and moving on. I've got 3 more days then I can test early on Friday. I'm actually starting to get a bit afraid. I have tests to use and I had plan to poas this morning but decided DUH its too soon. That's not like me at all.

I hate seeing a (-) but I hate even more getting AF as my first sign that I'm not pg.

Well, I hope your blood tests come back okay. So, are you going to poas on Wednesday or are you going to wait to do a beta with your doc? I have to poas and get a positive before the military docs here will even talk to me about pg. Then once I do get the positive I have to them and take another pg test and get a positive for them then they call me and refer me to an ob of my choice. So, its a bit nerve racking.

Okay, I'm hoping you get some awesome news in the next couple of days. Sorry you didn't get to do the beach thing.

Maybe this next weekend will be better since its the weekend for the 4th.

A_Marine's_Wife · #35 (**permalink**) 06-26-2006, 09:16 AM

Dh said we could go watch the fireworks on base or at the beach their are like 5 places that are doing them this year. Im going to wate tell im late to POAS iv only got one in the bathroom and its not a sensitive one. im anxious for my appointment friday. and i got a phone call from a job that i put in an application for today at a DR offive doing housekeeping and office stuff they want me to come in for an interview tomarrow at 10 so im kinda excited about that its the first interview that iv ever had to do so its taking my mind off the 2WW right now at least tell after tomarrow. well see how that turns out it would be nice for me to have a job i would love to have something to do and the extra cash would be great. the only down side is i have to work tell 6:30 at night monday-thur but i get off at 1 something on fridays so i guess that makes working later four days a week ok cues we could still go camping and do things on weekends. well that is if i mannage to land the job. any way i hope you get a BFP i hope i get one too im so tired of this TTC stuff i never immigined it would be this hard to get knocked up. lol take care of your self try not to think about it too mutch

shawna3878 · #36 (**permalink**) 06-27-2006, 07:03 PM

Hi - My husband is active stationed up in Fort Drum getting ready for another year in the sandbox not this will be the first or anything. We have tried 12 months ttc and now I'm 8 dpo and dying to test. I was researching tricare and I saw they will treat infertility but now that we hit the 12 month mark I would go and get stuff but husband won't be around so can't do much but pray this time there won't be a negative test result. So good luck to everyone in the next few days.