Re: Trying for a Girl
The Shettles Method Summary
The Y-producing sperm are smaller than the X-producing sperm thus making the Y sperm faster but weaker than the X sperm. Since the X sperm are stronger than the Y sperm they are more resistant to various forms of stress. With these observations, Dr. Shettles concludes that the faster, Y sperm will be most likely to reach the egg first and fertilize it when intercourse occurs at or near the time of ovulation. Vaginal secretions around ovulation are also more alkaline and most favorable to the Y sperm. The larger and more resistant, X sperm are most likely to fertilize the egg when intercourse takes place more than a day or two before ovulation, when secretions are still more acidic and thus most likely to eliminate the less resistant Y sperm.
GIRL
Importance of Timing:
Dr. Shettles believes that intercourse a day or more before ovulation is most likely to result in the conception of a girl. This is because the X (female) sperm are thought to be more resistant during the acidic conditions in the vaginal tract days before ovulation. So ideally, you want to have intercourse two or more days prior to ovulation to conceive a . First you need to chart your cycles. The most common ways to do this are by charting BBT, Cervical Mucus (CM), Cervical Position (CP), and using Ovulation Prediction Kits (OPK's). Shettles recommends charting at least 3 consecutive cycles prior to making your first gender attempt. This way your will be learning more about your body and when you ovulate. Once you have learned to pinpoint ovulation, you can begin your attempt for a girl.
Abstinence:
Shettles recommends frequent intercourse from the time your menses stop until the day you make your attempt. This is believed to lower the man's sperm count which is associated with more frequent conceptions. After you make your first attempt, it is suggested you abstain entirely until a few days after ovulation has taken place. This is so you don't risk having intercourse close to ovulation which is more likely to result in the conception of a boy.
Position & Penetration:
Missionary position is recommended when trying to conceive a girl. This position is less likely to deposit sperm close to the cervix where secretions are alkaline and most favorable to the Y sperm. Shallow penetration at the time of the male's climax will further ensure that the sperm passes through the more acidic vaginal tract and favor the X sperm.
Other Suggestions:
Try to avoid female orgasm. Female orgasm increases the flow of alkaline secretions, aiding the Y sperm.
The Douche
**Please speak to your medical professional prior to using any douche. Douches can cause a condition called Pelvic Inflammatory Disease and are therefore not recommended.**
A variable component in the gender selection system is the use of a douche. To increase your chances of a baby of your preferred gender is conceived at the time of conception an acid or alkaline douche can be used. The male producing sperm are immobilised in an acidic environment and are encouraged and thrive in an alkaline environment.
Dr Felix Unterburger had made observations with respect to alkalinity and acidity and gender predetermination. Women recommended to use an alkaline douche (for overcoming fertility problems) conceived a higher than usual number of boys. Other Doctors followed up on Dr Unterburgers' findings with similar results, an alkaline environment is preferential to male sperm penetration of the ovum and an acidic environment is preferential to female sperm penetration of the ovum.
If a douche is used, it is recommended that you use an alkaline/ acidic douche at the time of your natural conception date as well as at the time of your mid cycle ovulation as this will increase your chances of success.
Douching (washing out the vagina) with the recommended solution is entirely safe, however it is important that you make the solution as per the instructions provided, and douche prior to intercourse.
If you decide to use a douche, you should use the douche at all fertile times while trying to conceive.
To help conceive a baby girl use an Acidic Douche
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Dissolve two tablespoons of white vinegar in one litre of water and stir.
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Let the solution stand for approximately 10 minutes.
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Prior to intercourse stir the solution again then insert some of the solution into the (This can be done with a douche or a syringe ~ both available at pharmacies).
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While inserted, empty the douche or syringe slowly and gently preferably while lying down to ensure maximum effect.
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Intercourse can now take place.
The O+12 Method to Conceive a Girl
O+12 (pronounced "oh plus twelve") is a method for conceiving a girl. The method advises intercourse about 12 hours after ovulation to conceive a girl. Thus the name O (for ovulation) plus 12 hours. O+12 is contrary to the Shettles method, which predicts a boy will be conceived on the day ovulation. (Note to boy-seekers: O+12 is a method for attempting to conceive a girl only.)
O+12 Background
The O+12 method wasn't developed by a doctor, or published in a book. It was proposed by an Australian mother, a Shettles devotee who had six sons before stumbling on the idea that a girl might be conceived by timing intercourse just after ovulation, contrary to Shettles' advice. After giving birth at last to a daughter, she shared her method with other mothers, many of whom were successful in conceiving a daughter as well. Then the method reached the Internet, and here we are. Click here to read Kynzi's story.
O+12 Theory
The O+12 theory was developed by examining the "New Zealand Study" published in 1984. The study was carried out to test the Shettles theory, by carefully monitoring participants to determine the time of ovulation.
(Just think... the baby girls born in that study are now old enough to become mothers themselves, and perhaps are today wondering how to choose the sex of their baby.)
The researchers concluded that the results "clearly refute" the Shettles theory, because most conceptions that occurred 3 to 5 days before ovulation were boys, not girls, as Shettles claimed. Kynzi noticed that the only day on which more girls than boys were conceived was the day following ovulation.
In addition to the New Zealand Study, some information was evidently uncovered indicating that the ratio of female-to-male sperm was greater if a man abstained from ejaculation for a period of time.
The O+12 Key: Pinpointing Ovulation
Before getting into the detailed instructions for O+12, it's enough to say that a successful O+12 attempt depends on being able to pinpoint ovulation. Most of us have spent our entire lives completely unaware of the invisible drama of ovulation that occurs inside our body each cycle. Be prepared to spend some time learning about how your body works (you will be fascinated and enlightened!) and learning how to detect your body's subtle signals that ovulation is imm"inent. Your guide is Taking Charge of Your Fertility, and you mig"ht also want the OvuSoft Fertility Software to go along with it.
O+12 Instructions
The father must not ejaculate for at least 7 days before intercourse (and preferably longer).
That didn't say "no sex", it said "no ejaculation", so you better keep an eye on him in the shower. Try to get him to abstain from the first day of your cycle.
The reason for this is that since female sperm supposedly live longer, an "old" batch of sperm should have more female than male sperm (about 2% more, according to some data).
Have intercourse once only, 8 to 20 hours after ovulation.
Start counting the 8-20 hours when...
Any sharp O pain has subsided.
Your CM begins to change from EWCM to creamy or sticky.
Your cervix begins to become less soft and high.
You should wait to have intercourse until you have seen one high BBT (morning or evening) to confirm that ovulation has truly past. (See the tips below for more information.)
Do NOT have intercourse again until you are sure you are no longer fertile.
Use a condom or wait until you are sure you are no longer fertile before having intercourse again, because that "fresh" batch of sperm will be more likely to have more male sperm.
You are past your fertile stage when you have had THREE high temperatures on your BBT chart.
Optional guidelines.
Along with O+12, many also try:
The girl diet
Supplements (calcium and magnesium, cranberry)
Douching before intercourse with a lemon douche (mix the fresh-squeezed juice of 1/2 lemon with an equal part of water, and insert with the empty bottle from a regular store-bought douche).
O+12 Tips
Pinpointing ovulation down to the hour is the key to O+12, and it's not easy. Most ovulation detection methods are just designed to determine the day of ovulation, which is generally good enough to achieve (or avoid) pregnancy. For O+12, we have to be ovulation experts.
Tip #1: Practice, practice, practice!
Track your ovulation indicators for several practice cycles. Many times, the time of ovulation can only be determined in hindsight. Practice cycles will give you confidence that you know when ovulation is occurring, and will also give you something to compare to when you're ready to make your attempt.
Tip #2: Use as many ovulation indicators as you can!
No matter how regular you are, or how many cycles you practice, each cycle is different. Gather as many clues as you can to determine the real moment of ovulation. Ovulation indicators include basal body temperature (BBT), cervical mucus (CM), cervical position (CP), saliva ferning, and ovulation prediction kit (OPK) testing. The great book Taking Charge of Your Fertility explains in detail how to use these methods to determine ovulation.
Tip #3: Watch your CM and your CP.
Your cervical mucus will usually change within hours of ovulation, changing from EWCM to creamy or sticky. Start counting the hours when your CM has started to change, and your cervix is not very high and soft.
Tip #4: Take your basal body temperature effectively.
Basal body temperature is a reliable method for detecting that ovulation is truly past, so make sure to take your temp carefully, and wait to have intercourse until you have seen your BBT shift up.
However, taking your BBT once per day can only tell you that ovulation has occurred within the last 24 hours -- and by then you may be too far past ovulation to actually conceive, because the egg only lives about 24 hours. You may want to try also taking a second BBT temp in the evening. It will not be as accurate as your morning "at rest" temp, but if you take it at the same time every night after the same routine you will be able to see a pattern. Taking your BBT in the evening in addition to the morning should help you detect ovulation within the last 12 hours.
Note that your body temperature will be different in the evening -- you can't compare your morning and evening BBT's to each other. You can only compare your morning temps with previous morning temps, and evening temps with previous evening temps.
Tip #5: Take note of O pain.
O pain (ovulation pain, or mittelschmerz) can be pinpoint the exact time of ovulation -- but it can also fool you, because a little random twinge you would have ignored at any other time can mislead you if you're looking for ovulation to occur. Not everyone has O pain, and if you do, it may not be in every cycle. O pain tips:
Chart any O pain you experience in your practice cycles, and note how it correlates with your other symptoms. You may notice that O pain occurs at about the same time of day that your previous period began.
Recognize the different kind of O pains: A dull achiness before ovulation, a sharp pain at ovulation, and crampiness after ovulation.
The pain should come from toward your side (not from the center) and may be only on one side.
Tip #6: Use OPKs as advance warning only.
A positive ovulation prediction kit is a sure sign that ovulation is going to occur, but it does not give you an accurate prediction of when; it might be anywhere from 12 to 36 hours. When you get your first truly positive OPK, begin watching your other ovulation indicators (BBT, CM, CP, O pains) to determine exactly when ovulation is occurring.
The Diets
Langendoen and Proctor first published " The Pre-Conception Gender Diet" in 1982, based on results reported by Dr Lorrain and Dr Stolkowski in the International Journal of Obstetrics and Gynocology in 1980. The theory is that by altering your diet to include and exclude certain foods, the condition in the reproductive tract will be directly affected, increasing the odds of conceiving a particular sex.
It is also recommended that both mother and father go on the diet. This theory is also consistent with the oriental philosophy that everything has a yin or yang quality and the foods supplied in the boy diet, boys, and alkaline are all yang and the foods supplied in the girl diet, girls and acid are all yin.
The girl diet is high in calcium but low in salt and potassium, containing acid forming foods. The boy diet is high in salt and potassium but low in calcium and magnesium and contains alkali-forming foods.
The diets nutritional content is questionable and contains multiple warnings. It is recommended that you seek the advise of you medical practitioner before going on such a restrictive diet, and stay on the diet for no longer than 3 months. The diet may influence the conditions within the reproductive tract and the outer barrier surrounding the ovum. Enabling only one of the two types of sperm to penetrate the egg depending on which diet is adhered to.
GIRL DIET GUIDELINES
Foods to include are high in calcium but low in salt and potassium; 125g of meat or fish per day - chicken, lamb, veal, turkey, goose, eggs, soft and unsalted cheese, butter, fresh cream, yoghurt, salt free bread, crisp breads, pastry without yeast or salt, rice, flour, wheat germ, corn flour, pasta, semolina, tapioca, apples, strawberries, raspberries, tinned (peaches, apricots, pineapples and plums without syrup) melons, pears, peas, beans, carrots, potatoes, turnips, leeks, onion, radishes, cucumber, celery, cress, capsicum, cooked tomatoes, eggplant, leafy green vegetables, except those to exclude, all nuts except chestnuts, sugar, honey, jam, jelly, unsalted margarine, vegetable oil, pepper, spices, unsalted sauces, milk at least 700ml per day, buttermilk, low sodium mineral and perrier water
Foods to exclude are low in calcium and high in salt and potassium; Tinned, smoked, dried, salted or preserved meat or fish - ham, bacon, pork, fish fingers, roe, shellfish, fish paste, fish sauce, hard or salted cheese, salted butter, salted bread, pastry products cakes and biscuits, oranges, fresh (peaches, pineapple, plums and cherries) dried fruits, corn, potato chips, parsley, spinach, mushrooms, zucchini, cabbage, cauliflower, endive, avocado, raw tomato, dried beans, peas, and lentils, chestnuts, chocolates and sweets, sauces containing bicarbonate of soda, desserts, vegetable preserves, salt, mayonnaise, olives, pickles, vinegar, take away or pre-packaged meals (tinned or frozen) tea, coffee, alcohol, fruit juice and soft drink
Alternatively ~ If you feel the diet is too restrictive you could try taking Calcium, Magnesium and Cranberry tablets and reduce your salt intake (try to avoid all foods in the foods to exclude list) in the months leading up to your conception attempt.
**When trying any new diet you should first discuss it with your physician.**
Daily Fluid Intake:
Must be 2-2.5 liters (8-10 glasses). Very important for calcium absorption.
Milk:
Drink 750ml per day (full cream, skim etc.). Include 2 milk products like yogurt and milk pudding each day.
Eggs and Cheese:
Allowed, but do not introduce forbidden foods (e.g. cheese omelet). Unsalted butter, unsalted soft cheese. Parmesan cheese, one dessertspoon max twice a week. Small servings of cottage cheese.
Mineral water:
Evian, Perrier
Meat – max 130g per day:
Lamb, Beef, Pork, Chicken or Fish. Fish should be cooked in a bouillon (water base or a little wine and herbs) in order to reduce the salt content.
Vegetables:
Limited amount of potatoes. Fresh or frozen carrots, green beans, turnips, onions, leeks, peas, cucumber, radishes, peppers, celery.
Fruit:
Fresh, frozen or tinned apples, pears, clementines, strawberries, raspberries. Tinned only pineapples, plums and peaches, all without syrup. Jam once daily.
Bread:
Must be low salt (less than 1% content). Salt-free crisp bread or crackers.
Pasta:
Permitted without restriction, providing forbidden ingredients are not involved in the preparation.
Rice:
Brown or white rice allowed.
Cereals:
Semolina, tapioca, corn flour, puffed rice.
Misc.:
Unsalted walnuts, hazelnuts, almonds, and peanuts. Sugar and honey
Forbidden while trying for a girl:
Salt and salt substitute. All salted or smoked foods, including salty cheeses. Coffee, tea, tinned fruit juice, fizzy drinks. Wine, beer, cider, liqueurs. All meat and fish, except for daily allowance above. White bread, pastries and biscuits, unless salt-free. Sweet corn, popcorn, parsley, spinach, cabbage, cauliflower, mushrooms, courgettes, endive, avocados, fennel, raw tomatoes, Soya beans, dried peas and beans. All fresh fruit except those listed above as allowed. Dried fruit. Chocolates and sweets. Bicarbonate of soda and all prepared sauces.
**PLEASE BE AWARE THAT THESE GUIDELINES SHOULD NOT BE SUBSTITUTED FOR MEDICAL ADVICE. IF YOU HAVE ANY UNDERLYING MEDICAL CONDITIONS OR CONCERNS ABOUT THE EFFECTS OF TAKING CERTAIN HERBS AND/OR FOLLOWING A CERTAIN DIET, PLEASE CONSULT YOUR PHYSICIAN.**
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Trying for a Girl
