So I have spent the last 6 months researching all the different methods for swaying the odds for a girl, making a plan, taking all the supplements, and somewhat doing a girl diet. I have been so anxiously awaiting this month so that I could start TTC. Now I am scared that I am not going to be able to conceive with a cut off, and I am starting to have second thoughts.

I even have started to think that there are signs that I should just scrap the whole thing. First, every month my fertility monitor has been showing that my high fertility starts on day 10 or 11 of my cycle, and then my peak fertility (O) has been on day 14/15 or day 15/16. So, my plan all along was to BD only on the first 2 days of my high fertility, and then no more. That should give me a 3 to 4 day cut off. But then this month my monitor shows my peak fertilty starting this month on day 8. Today is day 11 and it is still showing peak. We BD on days 8-10 and I was planning on stopping, but now I am worried that something is wrong with my monitor and it is showing a high fertility when I am actually not having high fertility because I have never had a high fertility so early in my cycle. If something is wrong with it and I don't O until day 16, then stopping BD on day 10 is not going to be close enough for me to conceive. I have been totally stressing out about it for days. Now DH is getting fed up, he wants to just give up the whole TTC a girl thing, and just keep BD through the peak fertility shows up on the monitor.

I am starting to think that maybe he is right. I really want a girl, and this is our last chance, since we aren't going to have any more kids. But I really, really want to be pregnant and have a healthy baby. I think that stressing out like this is going to effect my fertility. Plus there is no guarantee that all this timiing stuff is even going to get us the girl that we want. I just don't know what to do at this point.

Sorry this is such a long vent, but I know that you girls will understand my crazy obsession, when nobody else can.

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Michelle, mommy to Tanner born 3/21/03 and Aiden born 6/6/06

I feel the same as you. I was scared the first few months to even BD. Now I am just going to take my supplements, avoid caffeine and salt and BS until I see a + OPK. Last month I had a + OPK for three days then felt the intense O pains the day after the last + OPK. So Hopefully I will get my girl. If not then I am not meant to have a girl. If god has a daughter in my plans then it will happen! Good luck to you!!

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I know how stressful it is, sweetie! It's stressful enough to just TTC normally, but when you make all these efforts to get the gender you desire, it triples the amount of stress, thus making your body go all out of whack. You could BD on only the first Peak day and then don't dtd anymore after that. I think they say if you really want to get pregnant, if any Peak day you should do it on the second one. If you only do it in the first Peak day, then at least you will still have some sort of a cut-off while doing it close enough to O that there is a high chance you WILL get pregnant.

Good Luck, sweetie, I know how hard and stressful all this business is!

I can just imagine what you're going through. I'm doing all this research for ttc a girl, and it's kind of making me bonkers because I never feel O pains so I'm sure I'm not going to do it right. I would like to have another baby so Ethan can have a sibling, but now DH is leary about trying for another one because twins run in both of our families. He thinks we dodged one bullet with Ethan, but he thinks we'll be hit with the double whammy the next time around

I hope you overcome your fears, and get your beautiful little girl that you deserve. Sending you lots of needed hugs!

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