I thought I would start a new thread about this, since we totally derailed the other one.

Pamela, your stoy about the hurricane and people finding your sex toys by the front door was hilarious!! I'm sure it wasn't at the time...

Kristie, alot of women feel your pain. I think Tkeys is right. DH doesn't dare use a dildo with me, let alone want me to use one by myself. And he was super skeptical when I brought home my first vibrating cock ring (rooster ring).

We tried it though and had sex as usual- no funny business. Just him on top and the vibrator part landed right where it needed to be. It didn't seem like a toy because it was just on him and we weren't doing anything out of the ordinary. And Oh.... my stars and garters did that thing WORK!

The trick is baby steps I think. If you cringe at the thought of pulling out Bob or MacGuyver in front of him, then let's start wayyyyyyyyyyyyy smaller. Like so small you don't even see it during sex (rooster ring).

Do you think it might work? What are your thoughts?

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Leave it to Katrina to start this thread.

I have to agree 100%. Baby steps towards trying new things can be a great way to start and before you know it you will be used to using the new toys and you will be glad you did.

Sometimes the very first time you try out something new, a glass or two of wine will help you ease into the new situation.

Good luck to everyone.

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Yes, wine can definitely be involved. A nice Clos Du Bois Shiraz does the trick!

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THANKS GIRLS!

Okay, so I usually end up tired after a few glasses of wine so that doesn't work for me. =( I think I'd be willing to try the ring, but honestly, I don't know what one is. (Oh so naive!) We actually use to have fun in bed and then once DD came around, it's practically non-existent (which is my fault not his...trust me)! I don't know what it is or why, I just came seem to "get my groove back".

I'll take any help I can get. He wants me to get therapy, here is the problem, I know WHAT to do, I just don't WANT to do it. How do I get around that. Now I'm shy about EVERYTHING....not just toys! =( Sorry I sound so boring, but I'm a lot of fun OUT of the bedroom! HA! =)

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Oh...and just to add...I'm jealous that all of you can make it so much fun. Believe me, if I could be more open, I would. I just need to figure out how to get there and a few drinks usually just puts me to sleep! =( Not to add, DH doesn't drink! I don't know why. He used to be so much more fun outside of the bedroom himself!

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Well I would think having a child would take a definite toll on the libido. Does DD ever go and stay at grammas house or anything? I think the first step would be to schedule a time when it is just the two of you and nothing else to worry about.

Maybe you already do that and it doesn't work. If so, I would suggest going through the motions and your hormones will catch up. What I mean by that is sometimes when I am absolutely not in the mood lately and we have a date planned or something, I will buy a new nightie or lingerie- nothing expensive really. Then when he gets home I meet him in just that. Think I'm in the mood yet? Not really. But getting ready gave me a little bit of confidence- doing hair, makeup, etc. But once we start getting into it, I feed off his energy. But Iiterally have to force myself to go through the motions and make an effort at first.

The rooster ring... I'm just going to post a pic. Who cares. There are many types, but most of them resemble something like these:




Basically, they are rings that fit snugly around DH and the vibrating items on the top are strategically placed for hitting you on the outside where it counts, if you KWIM.

I highly recommend ones that have a "bullet" going through them and require an actual AA battery. I DO NOT recommend the disposable ones or ones that require watch batteries because both of these types only last for about 20 minutes. When u r just starting to expirement, you need a lot longer than that. Usually.

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Sorry if TMI, ladies.

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Gotcha on the rings. It actually resembles the toy I have, but without the penis! ;-) I also KWyouM when you say you have to "get" yourself in the mood. I feel like that is me all the time. However (okay, I hope no one I know reads this stuff) I usually just want to put it in and be done with it so I can go to sleep.

Yes, DD makes me tired all the time. DH works long hours so I am practically a stay at home single parent. The difference is that single moms get to go to work and that is their break. I just don't seem to get one. (But I LOVE it and am not complaining one bit. I wouldn't change it for the world!) DH actually started trying to come home by 7pm last week, but it isn't working too well. Maybe this week will be better. I bet if I could just get him excited enough, we'd get our BFP. One of my closest girlfriends told me to try to be a pornstar in the bedroom for a night. Hmmmm...I wonder if I could imagine that one.

I'm not Oing tonight, but I told DH we were going to do something different. I have a bottle of champaigne, candles, and will probably have us watch our wedding DVD (only 30 mins since we eloped) and that usually sparks us up. (especially since DH was conceived while away getting married)

Can I get a ring at a local "toy" store? How much approx? Maybe I'll get one tomorrow and use it along with instead cups this time around.

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