To tell or not to tell?

Lily2584 · #1 (**permalink**) 04-28-2007, 10:08 PM

Is there anyone you have specifically told or want to tell about TTC? Anyone you definitely don't want to know about it?

Milesmommy · #2 (**permalink**) 04-29-2007, 04:42 AM

I really do not want my parents to know that we are ttc just b/c they will drive me crazy asking how it is going...

May · #3 (**permalink**) 04-29-2007, 07:30 AM

Well, I guess im a bit of a blabber mouth. I told my sister, and 2 of my sisters-in-laws.
I believe that they wont say anything to anyone. I dont really want anyone else to know. Especially since if we dont get a bfp the first try I dont want to have to tell everyone.

*valley*girl* · #4 (**permalink**) 04-29-2007, 08:20 AM

I don't want to tell anyone, because they too will want to know everything! And I don't think the ladies I work with will be too happy about me leaving! So I want to keep it quiet until there is something to tell!

Lily2584 · #5 (**permalink**) 04-29-2007, 01:37 PM

I kind of was "caught" by a friend. One of my friends is a doula and La Leche League Leader, so I have been tapping her for information and she's been incredibly helpful and supportive. During one conversation, she lent me a book and another friend caught sight of it. Immediately she came up to me and said, "Why are you reading that?" I tried to play it off, but she seemed to get offended that I wasn't sharing details with her and said, "Well, I guess if you wanted me to know you'd tell me." I felt really bad about it afterwards.

Other than my doula friend there is only ONE person I desperately want to talk to about this, but she is the only person I can't talk to. She's been through a lot with the births of her three children and right now faces the very real possibility she may not be able to have any more kids when she desperately wants another one. I just can't be all baby grins and giggles when she's in misery.

Thinking of her and my desire to talk to her about all of this is kind of what inspired this post.

Milesmommy · #6 (**permalink**) 04-29-2007, 05:37 PM

That is really hard! I have a friend that has been trying to get for pregnant for over two years and just can't. She has started to avoid me lately and it just breaks my heart but I guess thats her way of dealing with it.....I just wanted to tell you that I understand you not wanting to discuss it!

jadasmommie · #7 (**permalink**) 04-29-2007, 07:14 PM

We are keeping quiet so there is no other pressure

heavensabove · #8 (**permalink**) 04-29-2007, 07:26 PM

We don't tell. We keep it to ourselves.