How do you know if you're ready to TTC? I mean, I know there's never a "perfect" time, but what would it take to have an ideal situation so you can TTC?

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Ha Ha!!! Great question, but I don't think there is ever a perfect time...and I don't ever think there is a right answer.

For use, we thought we did it right....we met, dated for 2 years, got engaged for 1.5 years, married now for almost 6 years, bought a house and have been trying ever since. But my sister and stepsister both got knocked up living at home, then married and had babies. My stepsister was divorced 6 months later while my sister is still happily married. I just don't know who has done it right....?!?!?! I like to think that getting married and enjoying our married life together first is best, then getting the house and having something secure feels nice and comforting but then I feel like maybe we have jeopardized something for waiting. But I know that we will be ready mentally, financially and phycially when we have kids. That just isn't important to everyone. I am sure you will find different views from each person on this....I think you need to follow your heart no matter what!!!

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DH, Kevin - 30
Anniversary - May 17th

3/07 - Angel baby
7/07 - Angel babies
9/07 - New goal is to lose weight and get healthy.
1/08 - Started seeing alternative doc.
6/08 - Down over 20 lbs...Keep on going!!!

I agree, I think it's different for everyone.

For us, I was ready before DH was. All I could think about were babies, and I would stare at people who were PG all the time. I had the baby bug, that's for sure! But DH felt he wasn't emotionally ready to be a dad (although he was a fantastic uncle), and there was also the financial pressure. Could we afford to have me stay at home? It's still tough for us, but it's important to us so we make sacrifices to make it work.

As for #2, I've been wanting to get PG again for a little while. Marissa is so busy now, and she's such a big girl, it would be nice to have a little one to snuggle with again. And I think the spacing would be good for Marissa to have a sibling. We were originally going to start TTC in July because then I could go back to work for a bit, and Marissa would be in preschool. But since we had a PG scare last cycle, we've decided to bump up TTC right away.

I think you want to be ready to devote yourself to another person completely, and you should feel comfortable in your relationship with your partner so that you can be in it together, and everything else will just fall into place.

Good luck!

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Randi (29)
Married August 14th 2003
Daughter Marissa Kaitlyn born September 16th 2006
PG with #2 due March 10th 2009

omg, Travis is an amazing uncle! His niece and nephew are 2 and 5... well, ok, they will be my niece and nephew one day

I can't stop thinking about getting pg! I have two angels in heaven, so I know I can do it... it's just a matter of "timing"

I don't think we're quite ready to TTC, but we sure do talk about it a lot...... oh well!

Thank you for your responses

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That is a really good question. We have two girls ages 5 and 3 and ideally we wanted to have another one when our second baby was 2 but we moved and the timing was just never right. We are going to start trying for #3 in August this summer and the reason we picked this time is so hopefully I can reuse my maternity clothes, trying for a spring or summer baby as we have two fall ones now, and if we should have another girl we can use our existing clothes as both our girls were born in the same season so it just makes sense. Oh and I'm trying to lose some pesky pounds before August, too

Kara

I think it all is about personal goals that you want for yourself. For DH and I it was married for 2.5 years, two cars (one slightly used but still a 2003 and one brand-new 2007), a house big enough to sustain a 'family', both of us in good steady jobs etc.

Unfortunately life can throw you curve balls at the blink of an eye, so really what I've found is that as long as DH and I are committed to raising this little one and that we will love him/her with everything that we have that is truly all that we will need. Everything else will come when it does.

Good luck, for when you are 'ready'!

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I'm more of a lurker on this board now that I am a past grad "THINKING" about Number 2.

For us it's kind of weird, before we got married all I could think about was wow it will be ok if I got prego right after we got married. Once I said the I Do's it became more like I COULD GET PREGO OMG!!! I was scared to death. But My DH always was ok with the idea of having a child. It took me 31/2 years to be sor tof ok with the thougth and then when we decided to try I was still really scared.... I was scared untill I felt Marshall kick for the first time.... I guess for me I knew I always wanted 3-4 kids but I never really thought about when and what it would do to my life when I did decide it was time... I was so scared that we wouldn't have us time anymore and that was something I wasn't ready to give up, or the spontanous stuff we did. BUT and here is the strange thing, We still do a lot of Spontanous stuff we just now do it with our son. and my time with my husband is 10 times better now.

the only thing I can really say to help you is that if you are asking what the right time is you are either ready or starting to be ready. Congrats. The first step to being "ready" is to ask yourself if you are ready. GL and hope to see you around here TTC.

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thank you all so much! I think I have an idea... gonna make a new thread in case anybody wants to add to it!

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