Annoyed!

May · #1 (**permalink**) 05-30-2007, 09:21 AM

My sister found out that we are trying for another baby. I had kept it from her all this time. She kept saying "why would we want another, 2 is a great easy number" (she has 2 kids by the way).
"Are you SURE you want to do this!"
I told her if we were not sure then we would not BE doing this!

Then of course my mom does not know. But she whenever I mentioned in the past about someday having more she would always say how a family of 4 is such a great number and adding more on just makes it harder bla bla bla... Does she not realize how that makes ME feel??!! Im the youngest of 6 for crying out loud! Of course she says that she is glad that she had me and junk but it was soooo hard on her to have so many kids. I am not planning on having 6 kids... but even if I wanted that many its my decision if I want to!
I want to have another baby b/c I WANT one. I KNOW it will be difficult to add another child to our family but babys are precious gifts and worth all the effort! AND besides, Its like I have 3 anyway b/c I watch my sisters 5 year old every day from 7 am to 6 pm and she only pays me 100 a month to help with the food bill.
AND! I WOULD have 3 if my son had not died! Sorry to rant but I had to tell someone...

tai · #2 (**permalink**) 05-30-2007, 10:10 AM

you are completly right! it is your choice not theirs! i wish you tons and tons of baby dust!

Milesmommy · #3 (**permalink**) 05-30-2007, 10:33 AM

Rant on sister.... IMO people talk when they should keep it zipped. Children are gifts from God and if you have the desire to have one then your family is not complete yet

I love my family but sometimes I wish we lived a couple of states apart

Niffle · #4 (**permalink**) 05-30-2007, 01:00 PM

My sister pulled the same thing when I was pregnant with my son. Honestly if you want more children it's your choice. She's entitled to her opinion of course, but she shouldn't be nagging you like that.

*valley*girl* · #5 (**permalink**) 05-30-2007, 02:25 PM

You have every right to rant!! Family can be so difficult sometimes, they think they are saying what you need hear, but don't really consider how it may affect you!

We are here for you and HAPPY that you are TTC again!!!!

BTMom · #6 (**permalink**) 05-30-2007, 05:16 PM

to what the others have said. Your choice. Vent away!!

Lily2584 · #7 (**permalink**) 05-30-2007, 06:36 PM

What would we do without the ability to vent about our families!!

Whenever I hear the words "well meaning" I cringe because it usually can be translated into "Judgement!"

Leese · #8 (**permalink**) 05-30-2007, 07:33 PM

Ugh, those are annoying comments! I get the same ones from my family (about having more than 2 kids, etc). People have the right to have their own opinions, but we're not obligated to have to listen to them!

heavensabove · #9 (**permalink**) 05-30-2007, 08:02 PM

When I was pg with ds#2, and knew he was a boy, I got the..."Are you going to try for a sister next". I hate the perfect family comments. If you have 2 of the same sex, they think youre going to try for another, hoping its the opposite sex.

I also hate the "3 is too many". the can't handle it to thinking they are going to keep on having kids *rolls eyes*. I was the youngest of 2 and always wanted a sibling. Never got it of course. So I have always wanted 3 kids. My comeback for those comments: Did you know 3 is the new 2.

And I hate the "too close" comments as well. My kids are almost 23 months and my mom and some others think that was too close. For us, its PERFECT and we wouldn't have it done different if we could.

May · #10 (**permalink**) 05-30-2007, 09:07 PM

Thanks, you ladies are great and have made me feel so much better! Dh and I are going to do what WE want and are happy with it. I cant wait to have a baby!
Rachel- Mine are almost 23 months apart as well and its great! If I can get pregnant this cycle then my youngest and the new baby will be about the same as that.
(Your boys are sooooo cute!!)

Baby dust to you all!!