Hi everyone,

I am not sure really what I am asking here but I guess wanted to gets my thoughts out and see what others feel about TTC at an "advanced maternal age" that's how my gyno kindly refers to it. Anyways, I will be turning 40 in 2 months and currently have 2 small children but there is a part of me that would really like to have one more. Actually for a couple of reasons. 1) I always wanted a somewhat large family 2) I love the whole pregnancy/baby and all that goes with it (ok maybe not the getting up every 2-3 hrs at night

I guess where I am going here is how do you all feel about having children at our age? Do you ever feel that there is a time when you need to "move on" and start being able to do things without taking care of little ones?

Anyways, I hope you don't mind me asking this but I am not sure how I feel and wondered how other women felt.

Thanks ladies,

Heather

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Well, you've come to the right place! I had Vivian 10 days before my 39th birthday, and Irene was born 4 days after I turned 41. I'm not planning any more simply because 2 perfect children is all we ever wanted, and that is exactly what we got I sometimes think we're crazy since we'll be in our late 50s when they are in high school, but I figure if I can handle a newborn and a 2yr old at 41 I can handle a teenager in my 50s

Good luck TTC!

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Phooey on AMA! I had my 4th at 42, and at 47 I still want another. I say go for it.

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Where did I come from?" the baby asked its mother. She answered, half-crying, half-laughing, and clasping the baby to her breast: "You were hidden in my heart as its desire, my darling. You were in the dolls of all my childhood games. In all my hopes and my loves, in my life, in the life of my mother, and in her mother before her, you have lived."
--Rabindranath Tagore

I had my first at 39 and have been trying for #2 for quite a while now -- I'm 42 already. I know so many women who are having healthy babies in their early 40's, so if it's what YOU want, then I also say 'go for it'!

I sometimes think about being 60 when my son is 20, but that's just the way it is... he won't be alone having parents that are 'older' when he's in high school.

Good luck to you!

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Tina (42)
DH (43)
DS (3)

TTC#2

Hi there, I am 45 and ttc. No luck yet but heyho, no one said it would be easy.

Lissy

I am 43 and have two children dd age 6 and ds age 31/2. For some reason I told dh this year let's have another. He simply said we have no time to waste and let's get started lol. He is 42 short of a year younger than me. Well we got pg pretty quick and I had an MC in late April. Now I am sure I want another one feeling the loss so strongly. Dh had already started to plan financially on our third.

I am happy that I am a mom at my age. Yes the kids go on my nerv from time to time when they fight. But show me any young mother who would not be as well. I gather since we are alreay told that we will not get our SS money and only a fraction of what we where promised when we get to retirement age we might as well be busy raising children. After all the government is telling us we never will be able to retire.
lol

One thing I want to make certain that I am raising children who will be strong and independent. I am not sure if that would be as important to me at a younger age. I come from a long line of woman who lived in their 90th. That even with having health problems like diabetes and high cholesterol. I am planing to keep active a long long time. But you just never know. It does not matter how old we are. A t-ball team member of my dd has a mom who is younger and has breast cancer which spread to her brain. For her it is very uncertain if she will see her 2 boys grow up.

We can't look into that cristal ball. We can't set back the clock. But if our bodies allow us we can once more be moms.

Many women simply know when they are done. They've reached their limit. If you don't feel that, go for it.

Some one once asked me if I was worried that my children would be embarased to have older parents. I said "No, I'm hoping they will simply know how much they were wanted and loved."

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Where did I come from?" the baby asked its mother. She answered, half-crying, half-laughing, and clasping the baby to her breast: "You were hidden in my heart as its desire, my darling. You were in the dolls of all my childhood games. In all my hopes and my loves, in my life, in the life of my mother, and in her mother before her, you have lived."
--Rabindranath Tagore

I'm 45.7 months old and tt#6... not sure if God will bless me with another... but I'm sure praying and keeping the faith that the will, kwim!

I had my 5 yr. old (born 10/7/02) 2 months before I turned 40. Then I got pg when he was 8 months old (I was 40) but m/c'ed that pg... Then I got pg again at 42 (m/c'ed that pg), that was June of 05... I haven't been successful since then. But needless to say I'm not giving up. I guess when I no longer have AFs well I'll have no choice, but until then... we do not prevent... so if it is God's will I will be pg again in the near future!

God Luck girls... I do agree you know when you do not want any more! My desire to have another baby is really strong! I too love being pg and raising children!

I already have 4 children... I feel that my children and grandchildren are the best blessings in the world!

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Me 45 ~ DH 41
Twins {Janel & Justin} 22
Jared 20
Jeremy 18
Blake 5
Izaiah 3 ~ Alexah 2 ~ Elijah ~ 1 ~ Jadin 4 mons {My Beautiful Grandchildren}



http://www.myspace.com/yvettecross

Oops... I meant to say I already have 4 grandchildren... I have 5 children!

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Me 45 ~ DH 41
Twins {Janel & Justin} 22
Jared 20
Jeremy 18
Blake 5
Izaiah 3 ~ Alexah 2 ~ Elijah ~ 1 ~ Jadin 4 mons {My Beautiful Grandchildren}



http://www.myspace.com/yvettecross

I also am new to ttc over 40; however, I am 44 and I have a now 5 year old. I was 39+ when I gave birth to him. Since my sons birth I have ttc (by choice). Now I am in a wonderful relationship, and July 25-29 will be my first attempt at ttc after 6 years. I began a regimen of prescribed folic acid and prenatal vitamins. We will see how this goes! I think I still remember how to do this. LOL

By the way my sister is 37+ and 5 months pregnant with a healthy girl. . . a little about her back ground: My sister has 2 children dd 21 and a ds 18; she had an etopic pregnancy 3 years ago and has had 1 tube removed; she has had numerous miscarriages since her tube removal; her physician has finally figured out she had a progesterone problem, hence the miscarriages; and she is a bit overweight.

I write all of this to remind the ttc to keep the faith. If it can happen for my sister with all her challenges and obstacles . . . then . . . !!

Best to all.

Oops . . . I mean I have NOT ttc (by choice).

Carmocha and Yvette Good luck and I hope your stay with us is short.

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Where did I come from?" the baby asked its mother. She answered, half-crying, half-laughing, and clasping the baby to her breast: "You were hidden in my heart as its desire, my darling. You were in the dolls of all my childhood games. In all my hopes and my loves, in my life, in the life of my mother, and in her mother before her, you have lived."
--Rabindranath Tagore

Thank you Mommajac. I will keep everyone posted. . .my window of conception is best between July 25-July 30. I will only be able to achieve July 25-29th. Well, I will know something August 15th and beyond.

Heather, you do what you feel is right for you regardless of what everyone else is saying. . .remember this is a woman's right to choose!

Best to All.