Hello,
Im new here, my name is sarah and Im 41. I got pregnant two years ago and miscarried, got pregnant again this past april and miscarried in june...my EDD is tomarrow...Im depressed and feel like that was my last chance. Just having a real pitty party for myself. but I'll get over it....so here is my question......

how many ladies are ttc naturally and how many are getting help?

how many ladies have gotten pregnant naturally over 40 and carried to full term?

Im just wondering....My husband and I are trying naturally. We really cant afford any assistance as my insurance does not cover any fertility treatment. I think this is why Im feeling desperate.

thanks for your feedback!

sarah

Hi Sarah

I conceived naturally at 42. I've been TTC #5 now for 48 cys without success, ut I'm 47 now. My window of opportunity may have closed shut on me. Another gal who posted here conceived at 45 and now has an almost 3 yr. old. Don't give up hope.I'm sorry about your losses. I've had my share as well, unfortunately. I know tomorrow will be difficult. Maybe you can do something special to commemorate the day. I don't know where you live, but perhaps you could plant a tree, or release balloons.

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Where did I come from?" the baby asked its mother. She answered, half-crying, half-laughing, and clasping the baby to her breast: "You were hidden in my heart as its desire, my darling. You were in the dolls of all my childhood games. In all my hopes and my loves, in my life, in the life of my mother, and in her mother before her, you have lived."
--Rabindranath Tagore

Welcome Sarah. I'm so sorry for your loss.

I am also 41, and probably will not be successfull in conceiving again, based on hormone levels. We are still actively TTC for the 19th month after my husbands vasectomy reversal. I have tried Clomid alone, didn't ovulate. I tried Clomid with Estrace and Prometrium for several cycles, no doctor confirmed pregnancy. Most recently, dropped down to just Estrace and Prometrium. But, I think for this cycle anyway, I'm not taking anything. Not sure if the hormones are causing me to become lathargic, but SOMEthing is, and I'm tired of being tired.

I do know a woman who is 45, currently 8 weeks along with a surprise baby conceived naturally. If your cycling normally that's a real plus. Best wishes : )

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http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/16e3e

Sorry to hear of your mc, mine was almost 3 yrs ago now. I also have been ttc without much assistance. My insurance doesn't cover anything as well. I am almost 45 and right now I am on Femara, which my insurance is covering as it is not classified as a fertility drug. Good luck and loads of baby dust.

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is the worst!

http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/114905

Hi Sarah,

I'm sorry to hear of your losses as well. I can't offer much information BUT I can wish you lots of luck and TONS of baby dust!

Blessings!

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DS Dennis (21)
DD Jessica (17)
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6/3/08 Amnio results 100% normal and 100% GIRL!

hey ladies!

thanks for the encouragment....I guess I just need to stay positive. It so hard sometimes. There is NO ONE I know that has gone thru this.....I always get people saying just forget about it blah blah blah.....Its real hard at work...My co worker is pregnant with her first child and is VERY insensitive..she is one of those that is all about her self and how she can impress people. Im a very down to earth person and I dont try to impress people..what you see is what you get! ha ha....I tune her out most of the time. I am a hairstylist and work in a small shop and she is next to me so I try real hard to hold my tongue.

I was on clomid for six months and it did nothing for me except give me attitude! Ha ha.

My cycles are very regular...every 25 days and I do ovulate every month so I keep my fingers crossed.

Has anyone else experience acne when you ovulate? This just started after my m/c...nothing seems to work to stop it...they are the huge underground zits and I get about 3 or 4....drives me crazy as I have never had acne before.

I am taking FertileCM to increase the cm...and it does seem to work....has anyone else tried this and been successful?

thanks, im so glad I found this board...I dont feel so alone anymore!

sarah

I had my first daughter 10 days before my 39th birthday, and my second 4 days after my 41st. Both times I had to use fertility drugs and IUI.

I would give Femara a try - I used that along with the injectibles and it was covered by my insurance. The side-effects are MUCH better than clomid, too

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I've never heart of Fertilecm. I'll have to look into it. I did 5 cys of Clomid with no result, but I did conceive the very next cy after I stopped it. I've noticed that seems to happen quite a bit. Like a rebound effect.

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Where did I come from?" the baby asked its mother. She answered, half-crying, half-laughing, and clasping the baby to her breast: "You were hidden in my heart as its desire, my darling. You were in the dolls of all my childhood games. In all my hopes and my loves, in my life, in the life of my mother, and in her mother before her, you have lived."
--Rabindranath Tagore

Hi Sarah and welcome! I'm very sorry for your losses, but I thought I'd tell you about a woman I know who was TTC for 7 years. She had several miscarriages and IVF failed seven times. They essentially gave up and were in the process of adoption when at age 43 she got pregnant naturally and now has a wonderful little 5-year-old boy. (The adoption fell through when the birth mother decided to keep the baby.) So there is lots of hope!

I'm 42 and trying to TTC #2 naturally -- my FSH is elevated into the "grey area" and the fertility clinic I went to see basically said that there are no medications to help me and that the only other option is IVF (which has about the same chance of success as the natural route at my age, apparently). Seems a bit odd to me since there seem to be lots of other people on various meds to help them conceive But we're going to keep trying.

Wishing you lots of success and a sticky very soon.

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DH (43)
DS (3)

TTC#2

Tina,

WOW! What a great inspirational story.....I feel so uplifted from this board.....I have been struggling and struggling with how I am feeling.....my dh is wonderful and stays positive...but it sure does help hearing from other ladies going thru the same thing.

My FSH level was 8 and they tell me that is a very good number for a woman my age...I dont know....Im just going with it! HEE HEE!

I think about doing some IUI's but the percentage isnt that great....and with no guarantee's I feel like im throwing my money down the drain...Lawd knows we can not afford IVF or adoption.

Ive decided that Im rejecting all negativity in my life and only accepting positive things.....

The girl I work with (who is pregnant now) its like she has the "golden touch"....she does everything wrong but everything turns out great....I think it has a lot to do with the way they think...My sister is the same way...everything has always came easy for her and with me I had to fight tooth and nail to get what I want....and I really think it has to do with the way they think...they dont think negative things...you know what I mean? Like when I got pregnant the second time I prayed all day...God please dont let me m/c.....and what happened..there was a heartbeat then there wasnt...... M/C has never entered my coworker mind....she takes laxitives....she fell and sprained her ankle...they gave her vicadin (sp?) and then I found out she went sleding on vacation......go figure.....

I REJECT ALL NEGATIVITY!

Hugs and baby wishes to all of you and thanks for letting me vent......

sarah

Hi Sarah,

I'm a little late coming to the party here, but I just read this thread, including your last post, and wanted to congratulate you on your decision to stay positive. I've had a total of 6 miscarriages over time, the last 2 being in Sept. '04 & Nov. '05, and after those 2 very painful times we gave up trying completely (actually making an effort NOT to conceive!). Then out of the blue I found myself pregnant again and ended up with our little sweetheart, Cooper ... I was 43!

Take your vitamins, eat healthy and stay positive. If it's meant to be, then somehow it will be. And I'm sure you've figured out already that you've found the best place imaginable to come for support. You won't find it better anywhere than right here with these ladies!

Best Wishes & Lots of Baby Dust!

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DD - 23 ...... DD - 24
DD - 18 ...... DD - 23
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Hi

I have twins who I had after a natural conception at 37, then since then I have had 4 miscarriages after trying naturally plus one before the girls as well. I got fed up with it but all my tests seemed fine and I thought it just must be a case of bad eggs. I decided with advice to try IVF at age 40 and am now 23 weeks pregnant and so it did the trick and I will be forever grateful! I will be 41 when the baby arrives. I am sure had we carried on I would have conceived a healthy pregnancy eventually but it can become a bit more difficult as the years go by.

Just a lovely strory to tell though. A friend of mine who has twins wanted another but her fertility dr said that she was in pre menopause at 40. She was getting hot flushes and just feeling miserable with the news and IVF was not an option apparently as the dr had said she wouldnt respond with her hormone levels and gave her a less than 1% chance of falling pregnant and put her on HRT. She was getting infrequent periods (every 2 to 3 months) so didnt think anything of it when she had not had a period for 3 months. She said to her husband "you know if I didnt know any better I'd think Iwas pregnant" She did a test anyway and it was positive! A confirmed pregnancy at 9 weeks and her son is now 6 months!!! I looked to her as my inspiration and thought where there is a will theres a way! I know its hard but don't give up. Chnces are you will be able to have a perfectly healthy pregnancy int he near future, keep healthy, positive and I wish you all the luck. Take care X

Mantha, good to see you're still about. Don't forget to check in and let us know how you are doing on the mothly Pg mommies thread.

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Where did I come from?" the baby asked its mother. She answered, half-crying, half-laughing, and clasping the baby to her breast: "You were hidden in my heart as its desire, my darling. You were in the dolls of all my childhood games. In all my hopes and my loves, in my life, in the life of my mother, and in her mother before her, you have lived."
--Rabindranath Tagore

sarah, thanks for sharing with us.

i'll share my story as well. after having had three children in my 20's, i remarried at 40 and began trying to conceive a few months prior to our wedding. during the early months of our marriage we conceived once naturally and miscarried, then again a year later with the help of injectible meds and miscarried again. the fertility drtold me i was getting too old (at 41!) and ivf was my only hope...with a donor egg if we wanted a quick and cheaper positive result. we thought about it for about six months, and then we reluctantly divested a cd, our whole savings, to go ahead and try ivf with a donor. when we called the fertility dr he wanted me to come in right away, the next day to begin. they fax possible donors and we picked one..it was all so fast. the next day, february 15th, 2007, i went in for routine blood work and to pick up my first round of meds for me to begin to suppress my own ovulation..to begin the whole process. i left and was told the nurse would call later to tell me how much to inject myself with that night (apparently, it was dependent upon my blood levels of something)..but apparently they also did a routine pregnancy test. anyway, the nurse called me at about 3:30 that afternoon and said "HOW'D YOU LIKE TO SAVE $17,000!!" i asked "HOW?"...to which she replied "YOU ARE ALREADY PREGNANT!!!!" we couldn't believe it. initially we were really frightened and cautious not to get our hopes up, but EVERYTHING...EVERY LITTLE TEST AND ULTRASOUND..EVERYTHING...went fine and now we have a BEAUTIFUL 3 month old baby girl!!

keep being positive. it can happen. good luck.

p.s. now we feel hopeful it might happen again!

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Hi Sarah:
I am new also and am praying for you.

I am 39 and will be getting married in Nov. My fiance' is 12 years my junior and does not have any children and I have an adult daughter. We are both active duty military and stationed in two different states. Since I retire in 3 1/2 years, we do not plan to TTC until 2010. I am currently going through the process to see if I am a candidate for tubal ligation reversal (tubal in 1996), as I want to get pregnant naturally as well. My concern of course, is my age at the time we start TTC. So, with all that being said, this is a great question for me as well.

Keep your head up, because when prayers go up, blessings come down.

Blessings

Hello Praying4BabyNo2

Congrats on your upcoming marriage! I had a TLR when I was 40, and now have a 4 1/2 yr. old. Good luck with everything.

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Where did I come from?" the baby asked its mother. She answered, half-crying, half-laughing, and clasping the baby to her breast: "You were hidden in my heart as its desire, my darling. You were in the dolls of all my childhood games. In all my hopes and my loves, in my life, in the life of my mother, and in her mother before her, you have lived."
--Rabindranath Tagore

I conceived my last daughter naturally at age 42. I have had 4 mc's in the past and I still went on the have more children. I wouldn't give up hope yet. I really believe it will happen for you soon. I'll keep you in my prayers.

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Wife to Ron (24 years)
Mom to 12 beautiful children here on earth and 5 precious babies awaiting our reunion in heaven.
mc #1 ~ 2-1-94 @ 10 weeks
mc #2 ~ 5-13-94 @12 weeks
mc #3 ~ 5-13-99 @ 8 weeks
mc #4 ~ 3-24-01 @ 10 1/2 weeks (identical twins)
Justin 11-14-84
Jason 2-17-88
Elizabeth 11-17-91
Daniel 12-16-92
Josiah 8-5-95
Isaiah 5-7-97
Hannah 10-10-98
Sarah (twin) 9-23-00 (40 wks 1 day) 7 lbs. 3 ozs.
Elijah (twin) 9-23-00 7 lbs.5 ozs.
Jeremiah 3-18-02
Abigail 7-13-03
Isabella 2-5-06

Before you were conceived I wanted you, before you were born I loved you, and before you were 1 minute old I would have died for you.

My skin breaks out too, when I'm at O and then before AF. Lately, it seems like my skin is broke out most of the month, which is unusual for me.

My cycles were 25 days when I conceived Noah. Good luck to you : )

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I just love all you ladies...yall make me feel so UN alone.....I always cry when I read these notes....lawd Im pathetic ha ha!

ok here is a question.....what is the good range for your FSH... mine is a 8 and all the dr's seem surprised....when is it in the "bad" range.

I haven had any more bad breakouts with my face since i started taking the fertile CM....when I stop taking it my face is just horrible...so I am taking it for my acne.....crazy isnt it...never to have had acne and now that Im 40........

How do you cope with the idea that you may never have a baby? especially when you want one so bad your heart hurts...Im thinking of going to a therapist to help me deal with this....but part of me feels like if I do go to the therapist then Im giving up....does this make sense?

hugs to all of you and baby wishes!
sarah

Just jumping in with my story...
I am now 43 and have a 1 YO conceived naturally. We found out 3 months after trying that I had many HUGE fibroids. I had a myomectomy to remove them. I was told that my tubes were kinked with the firboids being so big. I was always regular and the fibroids caused no problems with my cycle at all...actually I didnt know they were there!! But apparently with the kinked tubes it wasnt possible to conceive because I didnt!!
I started charting with the help of the ladies here and a great book..hmmm cant think of the name of it but there is a site on the internet that goes along with the book. Someone else may know the name of it off the top of their head. I found it very comforting to see those temp changes and knowing that I was actually O'ing. That seems to be half the battle!! I used two different charts. I also used OPK and they actually said I hadnt O'ed...haha...I must have!! So not much luck with those things. I also took my vitamins, lots of B vitamin and fertility blend from the health food store. That there is 30 a bottle so I only took it for the beginning of one cycle and the beginning of the one where I conceived. Another alternative for you that may be more in your price range.
So anyway post fibroid it took just under three months. I had the cycle that I was ending at the time of the surgery and two more!!
I wish you the best of luck!! It will happen but I know exactally how it feels to get that BFN with the clock ticking so darn loud!!

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Karen
Mom to Collin
2/21/07