Hi everyone. I posted on another thread, but figured it's always nice to know where people come from, so I'm introducing myself formally.

My name is Barbara (shocker). I met my husband in April 2005, and we got married in August 2005 (long story, but our religion doesn't promote long drawn out engagements, and since we just knew, why wait?). I had uterine fibroids for years, and silly me put off surgery (figuring I'd have time....who knew I'd get MARRIED for crying out loud!), so I finally got around to it in February 2006. We were careful until after the surgery, then we just threw caution to the wind, but didn't plan anything out really (ie: tracking O'tion). I started keeping an eye on it this past June or so, and got pregnant in September....right after I moved to PA and my DH was still in MD!!! Anyway, found out officially on 10/14/07 that I was preg, and then found out on 10/17/07 that is more than likely wasn't going to stick. I am thankful I did not know sooner, as it would have made an already difficult loss more difficult.

So, we started trying again, and now I'm stuck. I didn't ovulate/get a period this month. As I had stated in another thread I did go to a specialist at the advise of my Ob/Gyn to maybe get on clomid to hurry things along (since I was able to spontaneously get preg once, she just wanted to hurry it up again). Anyhoo, the specialist was less than optomistic with me, and said IF my cycle 3 test was okay, we should consider IVF right away. I know she has to be honest, but I guess being positive or upbeat, even when delivering hard to hear news makes a person feel a little better. She's not overly enthusiastic, whereas my Ob/Gyn is just great. Well, I never got to take the test since I didn't get my period. When I called my Drs office today, the nurse or whomever said, "I hope you're not having early menopause." Wow, can you stick that knife in a little deeper?

I guess I am just glad this site exists. I have my very positive feeling days, and my days were I feel I'll never get out of the pit of dispair. I can only leave it up to God. I just don't want someone to bring me DOWN. I already know my freakin odds, I don't need to have someone gloom and doom them to me over and over. I am happy for everything, regardless of age, who has a baby, but it just stinks when someone whose 27 with 2 kids asks, "Well don't you want kids?"

I just really pray that we all have success and babies and long happy lives.

41 is NOT too old to have a baby! Poo on those who say you're too old! My SIL's MIL came up to me at Christmas a few years ago and patted my leg and said something along the lines of "well, we can't all be parents, it's OK" in a holier-than-thou tone of voice and I wanted to just slap her! Yah, well, she didn't know we were trying, and we had been married for 15 years, but still ...

So, you go girl! Tons of babydust your way!!!

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Welcome Barbara. So sorry to learn of your recent loss. As I said in the other thread, I think perhaps your body is still try to adjust itself. And BOOOO to the nay sayers! I conceived my 4th at age 42. We had a 1st timer here at 45 and we currently have a PG 46 yr old. :clap I think you have the right attitude. hang in there.

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Where did I come from?" the baby asked its mother. She answered, half-crying, half-laughing, and clasping the baby to her breast: "You were hidden in my heart as its desire, my darling. You were in the dolls of all my childhood games. In all my hopes and my loves, in my life, in the life of my mother, and in her mother before her, you have lived."
--Rabindranath Tagore

Barbara,

Welcome, this is a great bunch of ladies. There are some DR's out there that are soooooooo insensitive...stay positive (I know its hard, I restle with it daily) and it will happen. I am so sorry for your loss....its very tough to deal with but know you are not alone!

lots of baby dust to you!

sarah

Are you by any chance the Barbara from Hawaii? I knew a poster who was named Barbara and she and her hubby were pregnant and she was older (in 40's) and her body just couldn't handle the pregnancy and she lost the baby I think about her so often. Good look to you

Kara

No Kara, differnet Barbara.

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Where did I come from?" the baby asked its mother. She answered, half-crying, half-laughing, and clasping the baby to her breast: "You were hidden in my heart as its desire, my darling. You were in the dolls of all my childhood games. In all my hopes and my loves, in my life, in the life of my mother, and in her mother before her, you have lived."
--Rabindranath Tagore

Hi Kara. No, I'm not from Hawaii, although I think that might be a nice place to live!!

I'm in PA, but lived in MD for 8yrs (went from PA to MD back to PA).

I recently bought the Clear Blue ovulation kit, and I hope it works. Since I didn't get a period this month, I just started it and hope something shows up before I have to drop another $26 on another kit. I can see $100 looming if ovulation doesn't hit soon, ha ha!

Here's something I think is abhorant in some ob doctors: when I first found out I was pregnant I was spotting, and advised by the ER to find a regular doc asap. I had only been back in PA for a little over a month, so I didn't have one yet. I looked one up on my insurance website, and made the appointment. The doctor, who was young was very cold and unemotional. She actually asked if this pregnancy was planned. There was no empathy towards the fact that this more than likely would not last. When I got out to my car I cried very hard, and should not have been that upset by my doctor (I had a list of questions to ask, and had completely forgotten them at the appointment). When I told a friend of mine what happened, she also went to the same practice and usually dealt with the husband/wife team, and only saw this doctor once. But the young callous doctor actually told her she was too old, and she was only in her mid 30's!!! I called around and found a wonderful doctor who was so sweet to me when advising me that it was a very high chance the pregnancy would not last. She has also said she's really pulling for us, and that means a lot.

I really don't think these types of doctors should be in practice. I mean, how about a class on empathy? I think a lot of them already have kids and just wonder why you waited so long. It's really not kind nor does it give one much hope. They should be forced to watch the movie "The Doctor" with William Hurt, although I doubt that would move some of them either.

Just had to vent. I get so peeved everytime I think of that doctor. I did call and complain about her immediately after I left, and never went back.

I too shed a lot of tears before conceiving at 41 years old!! I had a very insensitive Dr (a woman) who told me that with fibroids I would need a hysterectomy and would never have another child. She was rude and even said to me so what are you crying about!! I got away from the Dr just as quick as I could. I now have a male Dr and recently referred my sons GF to him. He told her that he has no idea what it is like to have a pelvic exam therefore he is very gentle (according to his own words). I always thought woman would be more understanding because they have been there done that but this guy is more understanding because he hasn't been in our shoes.
Good luck to you. Oh and as for the OPK...I have a very active 1 YO to prove they are not always right either!!

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Karen
Mom to Collin
2/21/07

it isn't too late. hang in there and stay positive. i conceived at 41 and had a healthy baby girl at 42 1/2 years old. i was told it wasn't going to happen either and was advised by the fertility doctor to try ivf with a donor egg. imagine his surprise when upon my initial visit to start the ivf my pregnancy test came back positive. his own nurse delivered the news to me!!!!!!!

xoxo

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Lori
breastfeeding momma to Reilly Olivia
born October 22, 2007

Okay, I just have to say that Collin and Reilly are so cute! That picture of Reilly at the bottom is sooo funny!! She is like, "okay, and what is the problem here?" ha ha!!

I am only going to think positive thoughts from now on!!

no more of this guy--->>>