Barb

Melissa_momto4 · #1 (**permalink**) 02-13-2007, 04:42 AM

Holy moly Barb, it just doesn't quit huh!

I also got a call regarding donor med's i thought we had pid, I said to the pharmacy the cycle was over, I got an email from the clinic and they said they fronted the med's for me. Now I have to come up with that money.

Well this ought to be about 2K US I am getting pissed off.
I sent in an update and they want baseline b/w and u/s well I cannot make majic they always let me know things at the last minute.

I cannot get an ultrasound here in the country on a minutes notice.

I may not get a baseling u/s today I have to run to the OB/GYN office now that I have already paid for everything I am wondering would I get any $$ back? It seems like everything is at the last minute here.

I also don't have my pathes, so I sent the clinic a email telloing them I am getting cheesed and frustrated.

For one thing they should have upped my med's when my lining was foung to be small in the frist freaking place.

ARRRRGGGGGHHHHHHH

Anyhow a busy day in front of me,

I will email when I get home later today.

Love Melissa

good God barb will we ever get to transfer day?

sorry about my typing and spelling NO CAFFEINE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Christ

mommajac · #2 (**permalink**) 02-13-2007, 06:53 AM

I'm sorry this has to be such a fustrating process for you both.

Melissa_momto4 · #3 (**permalink**) 02-13-2007, 04:13 PM

Well I couldn't get the baseline u/s, just the blood work done today.
I don't see how they can expect to email me and expect me to run and get it done in a moments notice.
Anyhow I booked 2 u/s one for the 21st and the other for the 28th.
The nurse said they need to know if I ovulate and thats why i need the u/s. Well what would change anyhow? I am not on any special med's nor BCP.

I am going to call in morning and get them to send me up the med's I require and pay for the other freaking ones they say I owe.

Today I met with my sole known donor, she is beautiful!
Long wavy auburn hair down to her waist. She is 34 with big brown eyes and about 5'9'. presently she is a bit overweight due to past medications from donating before. However she is very kind and we have officially retained her now. Dh met her also. LOL

The 2 other couples she donated for both had BFP's according to her. she stated she grew between 17-24 mature eggs. So looks like we will have lots left over.
She also stated she would do donate a second time for us, if we needed her to. The total time to retrieval is realistically 3-5 months. So after this upcoming transfer is BFN will give my body a chance to rest between cycles.

Dh likes this much better then the other arrangement I made in US using donors all around.

Anyhow all i need to do is get on the med's schedule and hopefully grow a decent lining by first week of March .

Hope yall have a good night!

Missy

So the race is on now->

Barbara5210 · #4 (**permalink**) 02-13-2007, 04:56 PM

Oh Melissa.....................I feel the same way you do!
Feels like hidden costs ect.........Tom flipped when the pharmacy
ctc me direct to say Cooper fronted the donor meds and we have
to replace the stock....wtf??
My only plus about this is that with Toms pharmacy plan we get
$750 back per year for out of pocket pharmacy expenses..so
at least we get half back.....but I let Kathy know this was tacky
and of course she said it was in the paperwork.....we really thought
we had read everything in detail ....but with the stress of the whole
cycle I guess certain details my eyes didnt see.
One thing that was nice the coordinator mailed me my schedule
of what meds I had to be on date by date. This maybe because I
dont get af and have to be calculated cycle wise with my donor
and the other couple involved.....the other couple still gets af.
Cooper also mailed me some estrogen patches to start 2-15
Good news is the the estinyl~provera combo worked and I am
on cd2

so funny looking for "those" feminine items I have tucked way deep
inside my bathroom cabinet.
Of course I have my u/s bw scheduled 2-14 but we are in the
midst of a major winter storm tonight...the one that crippled
upstate NY....we're only expecting 2-4" of snow but it is the
ice storm which is predicted and I hate ice

...
so I think I will be canceling my appt tomorrow afternoon....
and of course time is of the essence for baseline so I told them
I will try to get in Thurs after work but it is a royle pain in the
a$$.....so I know exactly where you are standing.
On a good note

yeah for your "new" donors recruitment!
I am so happy you got to meet in person. I am praying you
will get yr bfp with me and maybe use her in the future?
I remember when I saw my donors pic I was completely drawn
to her. Isnt it funny that when it clicks it clicks kwim?
I hope we do have our transfer the first week of March.
I am going to look into my holistic book to see if rasberry leaf
tea helps with lining then I will get back with you....
Sorry it has been a rough road for you thus far but I think the
best if yet to come....
I am glad I have a cycle buddy for the first time in my life!
I bet we even have our betas the same time.
From lips into Gods ears.
{{{ Jac}}} thank you too for always being here for all of Us!
I know one day too I will see a future preg ticker under
yr siggy!
well wish me luck with tomorrows commute
but if it is ice I will hit the snooze

xoxox

Barb

mommajac · #5 (**permalink**) 02-13-2007, 05:13 PM

Aw, thanks Barb. I only wish I could feel as confident about it as you seem to be.

Hey Melissa, has anyone suggested you taking baby aspirin to thicken your lining? Remember the "Queen of thin linings"? She swears she credits my suggestion to the birth of her last IVF baby. She even did it against the RE's advice after her and her DH (M.D.) researched it on their own. I know some clinics routinely suggest it. Just a thought.

Melissa_momto4 · #6 (**permalink**) 02-14-2007, 12:15 PM

Well my AF is so scant its like breakthru bleeding I think I need to wait it out.
SOOOO Counting 29 days from the day after I finished the provera is March 12, and then do basline u/s and b/w on the 13th so that puts me in an u/s the 27th and start PIO shots on my birthday and a transfer on March 31st which is a Saturday.

I won't be seeing you Barb.

Dh and I really love our new donor up here, and hope to get that ball rolling ASAP. My personal OB/GYN is on holidays until the Feb 26.

Since I am only starting to get better now and already had the disppointment of my life missing the original first transfer I am really ok with this.

Funny thing they didn't put me on BCP, so I told DH maybe if I O between now and then we may have one of our own, hell whats the worst case scenario LOL

Anyhow we are trying to make more money to pay down what we have paid out for future cycles with the new donor who I will call Flower.
Flower is very well spoken and a lovely human being.

I know its all in God's hand and I am quite alright now, as I know its only amatter of time before I get BFP either way at either place.

DH really likes the idea of having his own BIO baby better anyhow. He doens't have any BIO children YETTTTTTT LOL

Anyhow Happy V day to all!

Love and hugs
Missy

Barbara5210 · #7 (**permalink**) 02-14-2007, 02:52 PM

Although I am sad that I wont be seeing you I know it is
in Our Creators Hands. Amazing how it falls into place.
Maybe af is scant b/c of the last few health events, plus
you body may still need nuturing and healing so waiting just
sounds "right".
Plus you sound so happy with Flower and for this I am
ecstatic for you & your family. Like I said before you will
prob be blessed by Cooper & Flower...then your family book
will be complete.
I am on cd2. Provera worked like a charm. Actually this is the
first period in a long time that I didnt get my old sxs of migraine
and painful cramping. I never made it to Cooper today for baselines
our winter storm was horrible and driving dangerous. It took me
2 hrs to get to the airport ( usually a 50 min drive door to door)
so I will attempt again tomorrow to do bw and u/s
based on the results I should start my estrogen patches this week.
Tom has been grumpy all week and is no support.
At times too Missy my dh makes me feel as if I am doing it alone.
I am the one running ...going to work doing the paper shuffle
he sleeps in before work ...goes to work comes home then does a
repeat

.
God give me added strength....I guess all I can do is pray on it.
When you do make it to Cooper we'll def meet and do a hang
"lunch or dinner".....
We'll celebrate our bdays........
Mine is first week of March...............ok?

Hugs........Barb

Melissa_momto4 · #8 (**permalink**) 02-14-2007, 03:54 PM

Sounds great Barb!
It would be nice to hook up when I am down there.
Heck maybe you will have a beta done by then??? LOLOLOL

The really weird thing is when I went off the BCP's I never got AF then I started Lupron and the cycle got canceled.
Then I went on Provera and Estrace combo and still no AF really just a wee bit of show(blood).

So I haven't had AF since Dec. since I am full of chemicals Ithought perhapsI do really need to have a good AF before building up my lining again for Mar 31 or around there tentatively dependant upon when AF finally shows in March.

Also gives us a chance to make more $$ in the meantime. They are also mailing me patches.
The nurse stated how important is was to get that baseline u/s I am getting a little cheesed off quite honestly b/c I feel like they keep putting me off.
They let me know everything at the last minute, and then things aren't in order.

Anyhow I will get there eventually and trust me, anything that makes it through the thaw is getting transferred i don't care what they have to say about it. I will not be going back as we have Flower now.

Have a great night.
BTW dh is not involved with mymed'ds shots or hardly anythign to do with this DEFET journey, so yuo are not alone..........

Missy