Looking for some advice, encouragement

#1 (**permalink**) 10-27-2005, 08:42 AM

Hi everyone. I am brand new to this forum. Just a brief intro then I'll get to my concerns lol...

My name is Sharon and I live in NC. I am 37 yo and have two children, 13 and 8. November 14 will be mine and my husband's second wedding anniversary. I am married to Billy, a man I met via the internet in June 2001. He is British and lived in Liverpool, UK before he came here and I wouldn't let him go back lol. I have been recently diagnosed with Type II Diabetes. I am not on medication, though I am on meds for my high cholesterol/triglyceride levels.

I had a miscarriage at 15 weeks in March 2004. After several months, my husband and I tried to conceive but weren't successful. We went to my doctor and I was told that I wasn't ovulating. He suggested putting me on Clomid. During that time I was in a study for high cholesterol, so I couldn't start the Clomid. Since the study, I have been diagnosed as having Type II Diabetes, but it's not so bad that I have to take medication or insulin. I have changed my diet and that seems to be helping with my blood sugar levels. However, I am taking medication for my high cholesterol. Or was... I have stopped taking Lipitor because I want to become pregnant again. On Nov 30 I will be 37 so I'm feeling like time is getting away from me and I need to do smething now and am ready for the Clomid (I think lol). I go see my doctor this coming Monday, the 31st to discuss with him my health problems and to decide if Clomid is right for me. I am scared, though. I really feel like my miscarriage was because of the onset of Diabetes, which I wasn't aware of at the time. I am scared to death to become pregnant again and face another miscarriage, but I am willing to take that risk now being aware of my health and trying to eat better and take better care of myself. I have been treating my body as though I am already pregnant, if that doesn't sound too silly. It's just my way to being more aware and taking better care of myself and prepare myself to be the healthiest I can be for the much hoped for baby I'll be able to have.

I am wondering if there's anyone else here who has some of the same health problems that I do and still TTC. Call me crazy for wanting to start over again lol, but I love my husband and we want a child together. (My other two are from a previous relationship).

I also want to know, if any of you are on Clomid, what is the process? Do you have to wait and chart your temps and things before you start, or can I expect my doctor to prescribe it right away?

Thank you for any advice, suggestions or encouragement you can give me :-)

Sharon

deeceetoo · #2 (**permalink**) 10-27-2005, 11:29 AM

Hi Sharon and Welcome!! I'm in NC too. There seem to be more and more of us these days. I guess that is what I get for making fun of the Cali gals.

There is a possibility that your loss was due to the diabetes. But it is just as possible that it was simply a "fluke". Or a choromosomal issue. Or any of a 100 other things. The fact that you are aware of your health issues is great and you are already on your way to fixing these problems. I know the idea of a loss is frightening. I've had two. And the truth is that once you experience a loss, you will have lost all innocence in simply believing any pg will ever be successful again. But it will be. Believe me, you will have your baby. I guess the biggest word in Trying To Conceive is Patience. I don't have it but I will pray that you be blessed with it.

And none of us here think you're crazy for starting over again. Many of us are in the same boat. This is all about the here and now and today's baby.

As for the clomid, if you are going to your regular doctor the most likely scenario is that they will start you off on 50mg from days 5-9. You will be expected to O beween CD10 and CD19. They will monitor you to ensure follicle development. They may or may not give you a trigger to make you O. Either way, you will have a good O (and watch out for the side effects; they can be doozies!). If it doesn't work at 50mg, they may try it again at 100, and then again at 150. The highest I've ever seen is 200 and most of us think that that's an OUTRAGEOUS dosage and that the doctor should have been shot for even attempting it.

Sweetie, I'm glad you have found us. Stick around. We wanna hear all about it!!

bighurt111 · #3 (**permalink**) 10-27-2005, 03:27 PM

Welcome Sharon....I'm in NC too! I am sorry that you are struggling and that you had to post here. I don't know much about diabetes and conception as my mom didn't get diabetes until she was in her 50's. My only suggestion is to stick to your guns about what path you want to take with your infertility and find a doctor that has the same views as you. That's one of the hard parts on the infertility rollercoaster! Try to stay positive and pounce in here anytime you need words of encouragement....these ladies are phenomenal!

Susan-smiles · #4 (**permalink**) 10-27-2005, 05:44 PM

Welcome Sharon,
Althought I didn't have the health problems (have had a few since!) while ttc, I understand the agnst of being pregnant after loss. I had three consecutive (one at 20 weeks) losses and each time I felt frightened. My first losses were due to genetics. Triploidy in the second case. My hormones were never the issue. Then we lost Miles because of a Neural Tube Disorder. Thankfully, I recently delivered a healthy baby girl.

Many of our friends wondered why we kept trying when we were hurt so very much by our losses. I figured the chances were in our favor each time and that the hurt of another loss would be less than the hurt of an empty house, KWIM? If it hadn't work out this time, we may have considered adoption.

I'm glad that your health is getting in order. Many women go through pregnancy with diabetes. Good luck to you!

P.S. I too met my dh on line. LOL I'm the one who moved.

Hugs,
Susan (38)

deeceetoo · #5 (**permalink**) 10-27-2005, 06:32 PM

I met hubby online as well. Must be the thing!

Susan-smiles · #6 (**permalink**) 10-28-2005, 07:08 AM

D,
I tease my husband - I tell him that I found him at www.bob.com.

Susan

deeceetoo · #7 (**permalink**) 10-28-2005, 07:47 AM

Lol

jwdcreations · #8 (**permalink**) 10-28-2005, 12:48 PM

Welcome! Be prepared for tons of love, support, and friendship. This board is full of it!

BTW--Kevin & I met online nearly 5 years ago. Just celebrated our 3rd anniversary. Best money I ever spent--buying a computer!