Hardest week.....(xpost)

jwdcreations · #1 (**permalink**) 05-08-2006, 06:28 PM

I always dread Mother's Day and the few days preceding it. It's constantly thrown in my face. Everyone other woman on the planet (or so it seems) is a mom and I'm not. It is so hard to avoid all of the hoopla.

I truly believe mothers are wonderful and should be applauded. But what about those of us that for reasons unknown to us are not being allowed the privilege of being someone's mommy? Every mention of it feels like a knife through my heart. I just want to go away somewhere until it is all over.

God, just get me through this week.........

**Trimmer's Trio of Blue** · #2 (**permalink**) 05-08-2006, 08:16 PM

Awe I so remember these feeings. ALL my sister in laws had babies I LOVED children but had none of my own for nearly 14 years with my hubby! I hated family functions especially when there was new babies!

Now being a mom each day is mothers day and one day out of the year is not gonna make a difference. I'm still a mom and SO will you be!!!

Your baby is there I know it. What grows in your heart is your baby to be. Keep feeding it!! Instead of dreading this "Day" embrace it with thoughts of one day your gonna be at some all you can eat Mothers Day brunch with your child! It's just taking a bit longer cause they are growing in your heart. God is waiting for the perfect one....................I should know I got two of the perfect ones.

Happy Mothers Day to Be Susan!!

deeceetoo · #3 (**permalink**) 05-09-2006, 05:47 AM

Oh, sweetie, I hear you.

I completely avoid being around the whole Mother's Day thing. Cinnamon makes total sense, but I have to admit that logic holds nothing on my emotions. And while I love the mothers in my life, the reminder that I am still not part of the "club" is not what I need.

I won't go to church and I won't be attending any celebrations. I send flowers to my MIL and my sisters, but I lay low that day. I know myself well enough to know that I will be dying on the inside the whole time I have that smile pasted on the outside. And I won't betray myself that way. I won't force myself into something I really, really don't want to do. Ultimately, IF has made me "selfish" in that I won't subject myself to the pain associated with certain situations. I also no longer accept invitations to babyshowers, toddler's birthday parties, etc.

Not that there aren't times when I love the company of a sweet baby. But it has to be my decision. I have to choose when and where.

So, you aren't alone. And You always have me, sweetie!

Dance0704 · #4 (**permalink**) 05-10-2006, 01:08 PM

I'm so sorry. I wish I had more comforting words, but I don't know if they exist. I remember church being the hardest place to be sometimes, esp. on Mother's Day. This year is hard as well, but in a different way. I'll be thinking of you and all the wonderful women on this board.

jwdcreations · #5 (**permalink**) 05-10-2006, 05:59 PM

Thanks ladies! I knew I could get some hugs here. I won't be going to church on Sunday either. I didn't go last year. I also don't go to our churches Mother-Daughter luncheon. I may be a daughter but there is too much emphasis on the other aspect.

My mom and 5 y/o niece are coming over on Saturday to do some shopping so DH & I are gonna take them out for lunch. His mom passed away before we met so we'll go out to the cemetary on Sunday.

Thanks again!! I love you all!