A close family member has suspected her s/o of cheating for awhile now. She hasn't come up w/direct proof but the proof she does have shows that he's "tried" or "could lead" to cheating. She broke into his myspace and found conversations w/girls where he was trying to get them to come work for him (he "needs" attractive girls for a part of his work) One girl, he kept calling "sexy" and inviting her to come party w/him. I'm to the point where I believe there's a 95% chance he's already cheated on her.

She has 2 kids w/him. He has 2 from a previous relationship which he dumps on her to watch all the time. But he doesn't back her up in being a parent or even adult decisions. He's ignoring her, staying up all night, sleeping all day, refuses to be in the same room (it's an extremely small house so it is hard to avoid each other but he does it) I found out that they haven't been having sex. He ignores the youngest b/c he didn't want him at all. All the signs are there.

She's been wanting to leave for awhile now. But afraid to b/c of the kids. He tells her "that she'll have to work b/c her parents won't let her stay at home and support her and the kids"

To be honest, I've never liked or trusted him. The big problem, she has been treated like sh*t by every guy she's ever truly cared about. She's gone through deep depressions before...I'm hoping the kids will remind her of good things. I just don't know how she'll do if it is true.

Jeremy says he can dig into their computer and find information out. He's done this for his grandma w/her boyfriend. Only his grandma chose to believe the boyfriend over her on grandson. He's willing to do it for her. He wants her to talk to the s/o and then go from there.

Help...what would you do? Any advice? Anyone been through this? Any help groups? Prayer or something that she gets the strength to leave him (whether he's cheating or not) He's not good for her, I constantly worry b/c I see herself esteem going down, she's stressed all the time.

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