Newbie/Lurker down in the dumps

madameovary · #1 (**permalink**) 09-20-2006, 09:26 AM

I know I'm preaching to the choir here -- but I'm trying not to tell anyone that we're TTC so I don't have anyone to talk to about how utterly depressing this whole process can be, especially when much of the devastation centers around an event that, by definition, involves being hormonal and emotional (AF, the worst aunt a girl could have visit). I try not to be prideful and selfish and just trust that pg will happen at the right time...but sometimes it's hard to have that faith when it seems like I'm constantly bombarded by women effortlessly become pregnant on the first try. It's like when someone broke up with me back in my single days; it would be like everywhere I would turn there would be a song that reminded me of the goofball who had just dumped me. Now that I want to get pg, it feels like it's harder to meet people who AREN'T pg than those who are (I know this is an exaggeration). And I know there are women on this board who have been trying for FAR longer than we have; our four months probably seems ridiculous. I think it's just easy to get scared. I'd gladly wait a year or two if I knew that it would eventually happen; it's just hard to trust that it will. I've convinced myself that I have early menopause and/or that I'm being punished somehow.

Anyhow, thanks for listening.

SmittyJr · #2 (**permalink**) 09-20-2006, 10:32 AM

Sorry to hear you're in the dumps, we can all relate! Trust me.

If it makes you feel better, 4 months is very much in the "normal range" of TTC'ing and you could get PG anytime! If you DO feel something is wrong I encourage you to take your concerns to your OB. A few simple bloodtests could save you some time or calm those worries.

Don't forget boys can be very easily tested too.

Until then, know there is a plan for you!

My biggest struggle is that all my friends that had IF problems are now all PG, that's what's hard to swallow.

Keep the faith!

madameovary · #3 (**permalink**) 09-20-2006, 10:41 AM

Thanks. That would be tough on a person (all your friends w/ IF problems getting PG). You seem to really have a lot of wisdom and strength about it, though. So I applaud you for that. You keep the faith, too!

tarheelbaby2b · #4 (**permalink**) 09-20-2006, 11:36 AM

and believe me...even though I have a child now it took a long time to get him and we went thru a lot to get him here. 2 years and lots of intervention and meds.
Hang in there and it will happen.

racechick24 · #5 (**permalink**) 09-20-2006, 08:34 PM

to the board! I'm Kelli, one of the hosts...Janay (hopeful gal) is the other host!

to what the other girls said! IF is very hard to deal with...especially if others around you are pg.

I would definately get some testing done...simple tests can rule out a lot of conditions.

Feel free to join us on the chatty thread...it helps a lot to have people going thru the same things. All of the girls on this board are very supportive and helpful. We have a variety of woman going thru all different phases of infertility or TTC. Some of us are going the "natural" route while others, like me, are doing IUI's, and Janay just finished an IVF cycle.

Let us know if you need anything or have any questions.

madameovary · #6 (**permalink**) 09-21-2006, 07:45 AM

Thanks to all of you. I do lurk on the other thread. Sometimes I'm not sure where to jump in but I'll just jump in wherever!

Can I just say that after my exaggerated statement about meeting pg people, I'm now firmly convinced I can't get away from them! Last night I went to a huge restaurant and of all the (over 100, mostly open) tables my friends could've picked, they just happened to pick the one next to, like, eight hugely pg women! Just rubbing their bellies and all that. Oh well. I'll stay on this board for support and keep praying for patience and to not envy others but be happy for them, and to trust that the right thing will happen for us, even if it's not what I think I want.

hopeful gal · #7 (**permalink**) 09-26-2006, 06:16 AM

I am Janay the other host and I hope you join us on the chatty thread. We all understand where you are coming from and we are all here for support

Janay