I've been a lurker for a very long time and come here everyday to read everyone's stories and now feel the need to post.

First i'll introduce myself...my name is Marian, i'm 30 and dh is 31. We have 2 boys, Owen 6 and Kyle who will be turning 4 this month. Me and dh both have decided that we r done having children. And even just months ago, i was telling myself that i am definitely done although my heart yearns for a daughter. And now just lately i've been thinking non stop about wanting another child. But i can't really make up my mind. My kids r at that age where i'm getting a lot of freedom, i'm finally getting to sleep-in on the weekends and not sure if i want to start all over but something inside me seems to want another. I haven't even brought this up with dh cause i know he wouldn't take it well and i don't even know if its what i want.

Is there anyone here that has made up there mind that they didn't want anymore children? and actually went on to have more? what were the deciding factors?

Sorry for the long post and thank you all for listening

I can't help you. Seems like most people who have posted on this board have dealt with infertility for a couple of years, and aren't finished having children.

I would suggest going over to a baby board and finding the birth year, or any board with children near your age and ask over there. You may get a lot more input.

It's been a bit slow here these last few weeks.

Good luck!

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