I was just wondering if any one would like to share how or if TTC has put any stress on your relationship with your partner. How do you deal with it? Etc. I feel like it has put a lot of stress on us emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. It seems that we fight over every little thing and don't really have the relationship we used to have.

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Ok... I'm going to be totally honest here, I can honestly say TTC NEARLY split us up. If we hadnt taken that break that lasted nearly a year in 2004, I believe we would be divorced by now.

we were fighting all the time, we were both angry with each other for not understanding how we felt, and sex was only done a few days a month around suspected O. We hadnt fallen out of love with each other, but were starting to not enjoy the time we had together. I felt like my life was pointless and that Mads hated me because I couldnt give him a child. He felt like the only reason I was with him was to try and get PG. It finally came to a head and we realised that having a baby at that time wouldnt be fair to any of us, so I went back on bcp, took anti-depressents and we stopped TTC and started taking care of each other properly, without resentment. That has given us the strength to try again, and if things got bad again, I wouldnt hesitate to take another break.

Whether or not that is how TTC affects all relationships, I dont know. We had been TTC 3 years by that point.

What I found I had to remember, is that men know we love them by our actions. If we stop being near them, or only want sex to TTC, it'd be like them only talkinbg to us to talk about their cars/sports. We would feel neglected.

I hope that helps.

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Ours has done pretty well. Dh understands how crazy I can get over not conceiving. I finally got to the point where I had to stop obsessing or I would really go crazy. So now we're not trying, but not trying not to get pregnant. I just can't handle stressing over it so much and I know its not easy on my dh either.