Telling everyone or no one?

renauthor · #1 (**permalink**) 06-06-2005, 05:59 PM

Here's a question for everyone whether you are TTC or planning it. Have you/are you going to tell family and friends about your TTC efforts and plans, or do you keep it to yourself?

bubbly_1 · #2 (**permalink**) 06-06-2005, 06:20 PM

I am really against telling everyone that I know that we are trying to get pregnant (future speaking). I just don't want to get all the questions and concerns from everyone if we don't get pregnant in the first couple of months. KWIM? But I know that I will be excited and will have to tell some people. I know I will tell my Mom, that's a definately. Other than my parents I just want to tell one close girlfriend, I know that if I tell her that I really don't want this out she'll keep it to herself.

crystal4314 · #3 (**permalink**) 06-06-2005, 06:49 PM

we told only a few very close family members and 1 friend. But, after this many unsuccesful years, pretty much everyone knows now (though we havent told most of DHs family that we started ttc again in Dec, they're uber-fertile and uber-spiteful)

leilani_louise · #4 (**permalink**) 06-06-2005, 07:08 PM

My mom of course knows, I tell her everything. But as for others, I think they know we are trying or at the very least not preventing. Hardly anyone knows about the Clomid though.

BumbleBee · #5 (**permalink**) 06-07-2005, 08:48 AM

The only person who really knows about us is a really close friend of mine (also my manager).There have been some hints to others that we are finally ready for kids, but not necessarily that we are trying.

renauthor · #6 (**permalink**) 06-07-2005, 10:38 AM

Since I started the thread I guess I better comment

As far as people I know IRL, my best friends know, my aunt, dh's best friend's wife (also a close friend of mine) and that's about it. I specifically haven't told my mom (although it's killing me because I tell her everything) because I really want to surprise her when I announce my pregnancy. I know she'll be happy for me and I want her to just be in total surprise. I have a special gift planned to announce it to her, so surprise is half the battle. Although I am sure if I encounter any problems, I will wind up calling her in tears.

bubbly_1 · #7 (**permalink**) 06-07-2005, 10:43 AM

Originally Posted by renauthor

I specifically haven't told my mom (although it's killing me because I tell her everything) because I really want to surprise her when I announce my pregnancy. I know she'll be happy for me and I want her to just be in total surprise. I have a special gift planned to announce it to her, so surprise is half the battle. Although I am sure if I encounter any problems, I will wind up calling her in tears.

Aww that's so sweet you have it all planned out.

She'll love it, I bet.

cole_lee · #8 (**permalink**) 06-09-2005, 05:55 AM

My family (mom, dad, sisters, and brother knows), one of my cousins, and I have a group of friends who knows. We just recently told his mom and stepdad b/c they wouldn't shut up about the SD neice being PG. I heard it for 2 days straight until DH finally told her to stop!

His grandma knows and Dad. I think it is more us not really telling other people but more oh you guys have been married 4 years now where's the baby. Since half of my family thought us getting married was b/c I was PG. NOT!! I think with all the emotional stress and crap you go through it is hard to keep secret.