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Old 02-02-2006, 01:38 PM
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Icon5 Why do you want a large family??

I know a lot of people think those of us who want a large family are crazy. So it got me thinking why do I want a large family. I am still thinking that one over. But I thought it would be neat to see why others want a large family. So why do you want to have a large family??
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Old 02-02-2006, 02:38 PM
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Hello

I just read your post and have to say that I have been thinking the same things lately!! I have three boys, 12, 7 and four months and I really want more. I would love to have six and have thought long and hard about how many more I would have to get my girl (I really want a daughter). I know my husband is so supportive and loves our boys and would have more in a heartbeat even another three boys but then I started thinking why? I have a home, a car a fantastic and stable full time job plus the three boys, am I selfish?

Then I thought about the misconception there is where I live that three children is too many!! Especially when you work. Many of my friends have only one ot two or dont want any at all as it interferes with their plans but all I ever wanted was a large family, plenty of kids and grandkids and I think about how lonely all those people will be when they get older you know?

I dont think our boys have ever gone without anything, they are always spoilt at xmas etc and I always regret the large gaps I have between them. But nature has its way of telling you how it is going to be I guess.

People I know and work with seem to have this jaded idea that stay at home mums have lots of kids to get extra welfare etc and I know in some cases it is true, but not in mine and not in 95% of cases but I still worry sometimes how my family and friends would react if I had another three in fairly quick succession...

What is it like for others out there and those of you who already have big families...I admire you. You get so much joy on a daily basis from the things they do, say, think and feel, their reactions, etc, and nothing, no job, no home, nothing I ever have in my life could be as precious as being pregnant, pushing my babies into the world, their first smiles and first days at school when you cry your eyes out cos they have left you!!!

All my love to you all!!

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Old 02-02-2006, 06:12 PM
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I love bring up Gods children and want many of them I already feel very blessed!
This artical I found sums it up for me,

1.)Have another child to join with God in the creation of an immortal soul.

Parents are given the incredible opportunity to assist God in the creation of an immortal soul. As the late Cardinal Mindszenty said, even the angels have not been given such a grace.

“The most important person on earth is a mother. She cannot claim the honor of having built Notre Dame Cathedral. She need not. She has built something more magnificent than any cathedral—a dwelling for an immortal soul, the tiny perfection of her baby’s body...Even the angels have not been given such a grace! What is more glorious than this—to be a mother.” Joseph Cardinal Mindszenty Reason


2.)Have another child to bring joy into your life.

There is no joy like the joy of welcoming another child into your life. You will marvel anew at how perfectly formed your little one is, and over how quickly you will fall head over heels in love with him. You will be enchanted with every tiny aspect of her appearance. The color of her hair, the shape of her nose, and the winsomeness of her smile will occasion endless happy debates about from which side of the family (yours, of course) she got that adorable trait.

The birth of a child will bind you to God more tightly than ever before, in awed gratitude. “She was the most miraculous thing that had ever happened in my life,” Whittaker Chambers wrote about his new daughter in Witness. And in the lives of most of us.

I thought that one day
I would be a famous artist
and create great works of art

Instead, God made me a mother,
and my children are His masterpiece.

The design of their lives
will live on after me.
What is painted on their hearts
will last an eternity
- Anonymous

3.)Have another child to grown in holiness and virtue.

For those who marry and have families, children are the primary means God uses to help them grow in holiness and virtue. Children teach their parents patience, perseverance, charity, and humility. They give their parents the opportunity to practice the corporal and spiritual works of mercy. They come into the world naked, and we clothe them, hungry and we feed them. Thirsty, and we give them drink. All of the things that we are required to do for the “least of these our brothers,” we do first and foremost for our own children. St. Catherine of Siena once had a vision in which God took her to a roomful of crosses and told her to pick one. St. Catherine went to the largest, heaviest cross in the room and would have chosen it. But God told her that it was not for her: That was reserved for the parents of large families.

“Mary gave birth to her first-born son and wrapped him in swaddling clothes.” Luke 2:7


4.)Have another child to help end abortion.

When Mother Teresa of Calcutta was asked by a young mother about the best way to proceed with pro-life work, she responded emphatically, “Have a big family. That is the best way to end abortion!”

How this works is not difficult to understand. As children become more rare due to contraception, sterilization and abortion, whole segments of society become less and less familiar with the sense of joy and hope that only babies and children can give. In this climate, contraception and abortion feed on themselves, as the increasingly selfish few further reduce their number.

By having another child, you demonstrate once again to the world that children are God’s greatest gifts. “Children build up the life of the family and society,” as Pope John Paul II has said. “The child becomes a gift to its brothers and sisters, parents and entire family. Its entire life becomes a gift for the very people who were givers of life and who cannot help but feel its presence, its sharing in their life and its contribution to the common good and to the community of the family.”

The more children there are in society, the more pro-life that society will become, and the easier it will be for the great evil of abortion to be eradicated once and for all.

“Choose life, then, that you and your descendants may live.” Deuteronomy 30:19


5.)A) Have another child so your sons will have brothers and your daughters will have sisters.

Children who have siblings learn early to share. They learn to take turns and to put the needs of others before their own. The bond formed between brothers and sisters is lifelong, and stronger than the bond between the closest friends.

“How good it is, how pleasant, where the brothers dwell as one!” Psalm 133:1-2

B) Have another child so your sons will have sisters and your daughters will have brothers.

Boys who have sisters learn the dignity of women. They learn to treat other girls and women with respect, as they consider how they would like their own sisters to be treated. Girls who have brothers learn the complementarity of men and women, both fashioned in the image and likeness of God.

“Love begins by taking care of the closest ones—the ones at home.” Mother Teresa


6.)Have another child so you (and your parents) won’t be lonely in old age.

People who have children don’t have to rely upon strangers to care for them in their old age. Children also become the parents of your grandchildren. Grandchildren bring joy, happiness, and laughter, while still allowing you to get a good night’s sleep! “Grandchildren are the crown of old men, and the glory of children is their parentage.”Proverbs 17:6


7.)Have another child because people are our greatest resource.

Humans are blessed with the gifts of an intellect and free will. It is human ingenuity that discovers creative solutions to the problems which confront us. People without children should remember that it will be someone else’s child who will become the doctor that performs their life-saving operations. Someone else’s child will become the firefighter that saves their house. Someone else’s child will become the railroad engineer.

“How can there be too many children? That’s like saying there are too many flowers.”
Mother Teresa


8.)Have another child to contribute to the economy.

Families with children are fuel to the economy, purchasing houses and cars and college educations. Without young people to enter the workforce, social security systems fail. Without children to attend school, teachers are jobless. Many industries, from fast food restaurants to toy stores, obviously rely heavily upon business from and for children to stay in business. But ultimately the whole economy does.

“Like a fruitful vine your wife within your home, Like olive plants your children around your table. Just so will they be blessed who fear the Lord.” Psalm 128:3-4


9.)Have another child to counter global depopulation.

Anyone who has traveled from coast to coast in the United States and seen the vast empty spaces should know that America is not overpopulated. In fact, the entire population of the world could live in the state of Texas, in single-family dwellings with front and back yards. Fertility rates are falling everywhere. The world’s population will never again double. If current trends continue, world population will peak by the middle of this century and then begin demographic freefall. Our long-term problem is not too many children, but too few children. Having another child will help offset the coming population implosion.

“Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth.” Genesis 1:28.


10.)Have another child to help populate heaven.

The child that you and your spouse have been generous in accepting from God was created to return to Him, after a life of love, service, and obedience on earth, to spend eternity with God in heaven. Our Lord Himself said that there was plenty of room for those immortal souls. There is no overpopulation problem in Heaven!

“There are many mansions in my Father’s house.” John 14:2
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Old 02-02-2006, 07:57 PM
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Well gee Tanya, what can I say? I am by no means religious and yet that is the most beautiful thing that I have ever read!! It has really hit home for me and I think you have helped me in making some important decisions...I have never taken for granted being pregnant nor looking after my children, in utero or otherwise and have always been thankful for the three healthy pregnancies and children I have had. (I have also had three m/c's but believe that I was not yet ready to look after those children and had lessons to learn from their loss.)

After my second son was born I was 22. I felt that i needed an education to be a better person and a job, career, money, house etc. So I have pursued that and I have it all now. (Including a mortgage!!) And yet I still find that even with all that I dont feel fulfilled. I still feel like I have so much love to give and hope that I will be blessed again with more beautiful babies.

Thank you so much for what you have written, I feel more at peace with my decisions and look forward to keeping in touch with you and making more friends as time goes on. Congratulation on such a beautiful family also.

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Old 02-06-2006, 01:13 PM
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Hi,
I was searching for parenting tips for large families and I found this board. This thread made me want to sign up and reply. I think you will understand what we are doing. My husband and I are in the process of adopting 6 children from 13 years to 14 months, 4 boys and a girl on either end. We have been berated by family, friends, and strangers about what has posessed us to go from zero kids to six. Their comments are "Your life is about to change," "You don't know what you are getting into," and "You will never have a momments peace or privacy ever again."

Well, if we have any kids already, we couldn't handle this big sibling group, our life changed when we saw the faces of these six kids and we have been waiting for this change for 5 years. We have thought and prayed about what is to come, and we feel like we have been called to do this. We are Catholic Christians and we had been spending a lot of time at church and several scripture passages kept coming up, "To whom much is given, much is expected", "What you do for the least of Mine, you do for Me," and "Speak Lord, your servant is listening, I've come to do Your will." Plus "With God, all things are possible," and "I will never forsake you."

And peace and privacy are over-rated when you compare it to all the love and joy that will come with these kids.

I'll be looking for ideas on how to successfully parent these kids,
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Old 02-07-2006, 04:26 PM
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I just want to say to AdoptiveMomto6, is, wooooooooohoooooooo,
YEAH for you!! Thank God for you and your Husband, you are giving those kids more than parents, you are giving them the chance at a life TOGETHER!!! You are blessing them by keeping them together, that is so awesome, just beautifully amazing!!!
It will be hard but not for long, soon love will take place of the loss of peace and quiet, soon the sparkles in their eyes, will uplift you on a hard day, the laughter will fill your house, on the days that there has been tears too. You may question yourself at time, and then one of those little blessings will come in and light your heart up and melt all your worries away!! BRAVO for you and your Hubby and congrats on your adoption!! Please come back and give us an update, jump in often!!
I hope God's blesses each step of your journey ahead!!
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Adoptivemomto6, Congradulations on your new family. I hope you will like it here. It is slow but we are trying to get things going. Feel free to post anytime.
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Adoptivemomoto6 I applaude you as well. Such a wonderful thing you are doing.
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Old 02-15-2006, 04:47 PM
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I want a large family because it just feels right to me. Each time I have a baby I feel this sort of unfinished business ~ a sort of feeling like "where are the rest of them?"

I am just glad I married a guy who feels the same way!

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Old 02-18-2006, 07:22 PM
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I had never thought of having a large family and with each child we thought we were a complete family. Children our are reason for living, they are our passion and our joy, why not create more. I have no idea how many we will have, I leave that up to God. I will accept each gift with an open heart
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Old 02-21-2006, 06:14 PM
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I just found this site and I am so glad. As I sit here, typing with one hand because I'm nursing my two week old, I would love to tell you why we want a large family. First, I love what Tanya posted. Also, I an so impressed by Adoptivemomtosix. Congrats to you and many blessings to you.

Two weeks ago I had my fourth child. What is special about this? Well, nine years ago I had my tubes tied after the birth of my third child. After many years of health problems, I found out about Tubal Ligation Syndrome. That led us to several reversal websites. They talked about G-d deciding your family size and what scripture says about children. G-d was working with us regarding the decision we had made to cut off His blessings to us.

Eventually, we were able to go and have a reversal and did so for our 16th Anniversary. A little over a year later, I am sitting here holding this perfect little baby boy. We wonder, over and over, why we ever wanted to prevent more blessings. How many would we have had at this point? How many sweet babies did I not nurse and cuddle because of my selfishness?

Now, we are open to however many blessings G-d will send our way! I just hope they are far enough apart that I can really enjoy each one.
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