Hi! I'm a visitor to your board because I have a question for you that I hope you don't mind answering. It will settle a little dispute between my dh and me:

I've heard the old agage that three kids is so much tougher than two because you're outnumbered, kids to parents. They say three is a totally different world from two.

BUT, I also heard a similar warning when I was getting ready to have two kids. Lots of people said that two kids aren't twice the work of one, they're TEN times the work of one. And you know what? That's totally not true. My life already revolved around one kid, what was one more? If anything, having my 2nd for my 1st to play with has made my life dramatically easier.

Anyway, my dh keeps hearing how awful three kids is so I'm in search of the truth. Those of you with three (or more), what was the transition like going from two to three? The TRUTH, please, even if it's not what I want to hear.

TIA!

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Christine, mom to:
Sydney Danielle, 11.18.01
Spencer Henry, 7.8.03

I feel if you love kids and want many of them it make no diffrence. The kids help you with the littler ones as they grow it is wonderful having a large family

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I am a mom of 4 beautiful little ones and we are about to start TTC #5 soon. I think they hardest for me was going from 1 to 2. After that it was really simple. With my 3rd my first two wanted to be little helpers and brought me diapers, (even when I did not need them) put the sucky (binkie) back in his mouth, and anything else they could do to help.
When we added # 4 to the mix it was as if nothing changed. My first son (#3) was totally in love with his new brother and spent all of his time talking to him and kissing him and even showing him toys to entertain him.

Best wishes to you!!

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Stephanie

If you can do 2, you can do three.

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Where did I come from?" the baby asked its mother. She answered, half-crying, half-laughing, and clasping the baby to her breast: "You were hidden in my heart as its desire, my darling. You were in the dolls of all my childhood games. In all my hopes and my loves, in my life, in the life of my mother, and in her mother before her, you have lived."
--Rabindranath Tagore

This is the first post I've put here, I am a member of the Born in boards...Oct 2005....I have three kids and I honestly think that going from ZERO to ONE child was the hardest! You are now already used to no sleep, no privacy, no getting up and going whenever you want! I heard the same as you going from 2-3 was the hardest, but It has not been so bad. Our oldest is into his own thing, and is not very dependent. I agree with Tanya if you love kids it makes NO difference! Even if you were pregnant now, your youngest would be a little over 3, I think that is the best spacing. Then one is a baby and one is a pre-schooler. Just my opinion!

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Andrew 06/27/05 Brooklyn 10/10/05 Jordan 08/31/00

Well I went from two to three and it hasn't been much harder. The older girls fight with each other, but are very helpful with the baby. My only dificulty is that my two year has turned to a big time mommy's girl, where as before she was daddy's girl. So it can be hard trying to give her all the attention she wants(it has to be me for everything) with having the baby. But I think that will fade soon.

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I think to honestly get an answer to this question, you have to look at how old the kids are/will be. Someone who has a 7 or 10 year old will have a MUCH easier time when having #3 than if the oldest one is only 4 or 3.

I didn't think going from 1 to 2 was that hard, but going from 2 to 3 was a lot harder! Maybe it's just me. Even though my older 2 play really well together most of the time, they still are young enough to want my attention when I have to nurse the baby, etc.

My oldest just turned 5, my middle is 2.5 and I have a 2 month old. Going to the store is a chore, as I have 3 kids to put in the car and buckle up (althogh ds is starting to do his own). Logistics, I guess, is the biggest thing right now, and being so tired.

Good luck in your decision!

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I'd have to agree with Kim, for me, the biggest change was going from no children to one! Everyone told me to expect the worst when I was pregnant with Brooke, but honestly, it worked out so well! Then, everyone told me to expect the worst when I was pregnant with Jason. Again, worked sooo well! Sean and Brooke loved the baby, but then, when they got bored of him, they played with each other. When I was nursing or changing the baby, they had each other to play with. I stuck them both in a double stroller (at the beginning) and Jason in a front carrier and we were good to go whenever we went out! I really didn't find it anywhere near as difficult as some! (In fact, I found it so nice that we're cooking number four! ) Good luck in whatever you decide!

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