I only have 4 children but dh has 2 others from a different marriage and I have to hear nasty comments all the time from my family. The funny thing is my grandma had 10 but my mom still says nasty stuff.

I always here "I sure hope you are not going to have anymore I just can't deal with more." We hardly ever depend on my mom for anything with our kids. Then last night at Christmas I over heard my dh's sisters talking about how crazy we are because we have so many and dh is older.

We are ttc another one right now and I'm secretly hoping for twins. I'm so worried about having to tell anyone else when we do get pregnant because I just don't want to hear all the comments.

Do you all get a lot of comments and if so how do you deal with them?

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I only have 2 kids, but you know what??? If a large family is what you want then go for it. It doesnt matter what anyone else thinks, as long as you are happy and content. I am sure you have enough love to give to a couple more kids. Heck I say if you have 6(altogether) what the heck is one or 2 more!! LOL Good luck and dont let other peoples comments affect the life you want to have with your DH.

Have fun trying!!

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DS~Jake
DS~Elijah

ARE YOU READY FOR SOME FOOTBALL????????

Just smile and say "They're such amazing blessings! I hope to be blessed again". A positive approach is always the best one to take

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Hi there!! Just wanted to jump in and say I can totally relate to what your saying about when you do get pg, how are you gonna tell people....Well I have 5 kids ages 14, 12, 4, 2, and 1, and although i'm not actively trying i'm not preventing either. My dh is 28 and i'm 35, so my window is narrowing down, and i'm sure everyone thinks , maybe even hopes where done having kids even though my husband and I totally support our kids fully by both working full time! I do find it odd that people can just outright say to someone else "I hope your done now"...i mean..who the heck do they think they are!! It's not like there doing anything or living in your house!!! So I say, if more kids are what you want, then go for it!!! Once the babies come it's all forgotten, and all your left with is another beeeeeee utiful abay!! kwim!!! Good Luck to you!

Thank you Ladies. I know it is not anyone elses business but it is really hard when you are not supported by your mother or other family members. Plus my sister inlaws are so rude they will talk about it to each other and not even try to hide it from me and yet they won't say anything right too me. I just need to stop worrying about what they thing because dh and I really want another baby.

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I'm not a reg. on the lg families board...just lurking around...(hi! ) but I come from a family of 6 kids- I will be 24 this month and then it goes 17,5,3 and 2 yr old twins. My Mom (and many times myself) gets all types of rude comments about how many kids she has and the way we are spaced. She told me recently that she feels obligated at times to explain that it wasn't exactly planned that way- just happened (the twins were a double suprise! )...but I think that totally sucks that people make her feel like she has to explain herself away to them! Even still she lets them know that she wouldn't trade any of her kids for the world!

People have no place to say anything about anyone else's family addition choices! And when I am confronted by somebody who has a rude comment to say I try not to be rude back (why stoop to their level, ya know?) but I always say that I would never have it any other way and that I couldn't imagine life w/o each and every one of the siblings I have- and that it works for us!

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Allison Rene
May 13th 2008
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Hi I too am a lurking in large families. I thought I would let you know that you are not alone in your mother not supporting you. I am 35, I have 4 children and recently got my tubes reversed so I could have another ( and I am secretly hoping for twins too). I have been told by my mother that I am a selfish D head for trying again. My freinds have told me that if I need any help during my pregnancy that they wont as "I made my bed and I can lay in it". I have had people that only vaguely know me tell me I am immature for wanting more etc etc. All of this is from the kindness of there heart you understand to make you see the errors of yours ways.I know when the baby comes they will all want a cuddle etc and right now I feel like saying ping off BUT I wont stoop to there level and do that.
WELL guess what I AM STILL trying again and I am determined to error as much as I like because in the end the only people that have to live with this adorable new addition to the family is myself , my husband and my other children , all of whom agree with me.
I say good luck to you and I hope you get the twins you hope for and just ingore the comments because they just dont realise how blessed you really are TAN.
Baby dust to us all

hi tiana,don't let those nasty comments influence your decisions on how big your family should be...who are they to dictate to you what your moral obligation to society should be?I had always wanted a large family, but after 5, the nasty comments really got to me..including my parents, etc. were saying mean stuff. I bowed under pressure and had my tubes tied. I have learned that if you listen to other people's opinions, then you only wind up hurting yourself.during the nearly 3 yrs that my tubes were tied, people told me that i was selfish for wanting more children...that God gives us wisdom when to call it quits...that it was irresponsible parenting to have more than 2. Excuse me? I call raising children up in the word of God and teaching them to be productive citizens IS responsible parenting and a very wise decision, no matter how many you have.Anyway, we had the tubes reversed and had a mc and then we had 4 more and are TTC again.I'm 39 and have a few good childbearing yrs left and I sure hope that there will twins and or triplets each time.. if the members of your family are going to be ugly about the size of your family, they don't have to come around.It is no bread out of their mouths, so they don't have anything to gripe about. Hang in there, If you and dh are happy and at peace with your decision to have a large family, that is all that matters.Wishing you a mountain of baby dust..and twins!---debra

hey if you can handle it then i say go for it, who do people think they are to judge you. I have only one now, but i want 4 all together, and my mother thinks i am crazy. But do what makes you and your husband happy, and dont let bad comments get to you, and good look in TTC. Oh and remind these people what a blessing children are.

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im kind of a lurker too...but still trying for # 5 for me and #8 for DH...we have 12 together ranging in age from 24 to 11 months. We just had a grandson born on the 18th....Big families are awesome. I didnt have any idea that i would have this many kids, but now that i do, i love it and am trying for one last edition to the clan!! My DH is 43 and i am 33. He is the oldest of 12, so we dont get a lot of comments from family...except my mom once in awhile, but that is just cause she could never keep up LOL....Just tell them you have so many because you are good at what you do LOL...Good luck trying for another.

Kristie

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Christina-13
Justin-10
Kylie-3
Jayce 2

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Hi there:

I so understand what you are saying. I am now 46 and I had 6 children with my first husband and every time I got Pregnant ... oh the way people would look at me. I would hear "Oh you are not keeping it, are you?" Well, damn right I was. I was young, but I always held my head up high! To this day I proudly say I have 6 children and I have 10 grand children. My new husband (my first husband was killed 8 years ago) always asks why do you feel the need to always say the numbers? Well, simple ... I love my family and I am very proud of having 10 grandkids at my age. Well, it will be 11 come this Oct. But, now I am waiting on a tubal reversal and I am really feeling the pressure. I am not telling certain people in my life, if and when God blesses me with number 7 ... I will only tell those people, well I cannot believe this but I was one of those 18 out of 1000 who end up pregnant again after 10 years or more. I had my tubal 18 years ago. But my family,(my mom and kids) they all know though. But it is hard sometimes, because soooo many people think they have the right to judge. I do not ask anyone to pay money, I own my own home and I do not need peoples approval to have another. My heart is begging for another child and if I become blessed I will be so happy, and I will hold my head up. Remember ... ALWAYS be true to your own heart and soul and then you can do no wrong.

Good luck,
Lorna