I am so scared now and I know I shouldnt be its a screening, and I didnt do it with DS but I did with DD and hers came back bad too and she is just fine, we had a 1 out of 5,000 risk for spina bifida so no risk there, but we have a 1 out of 40 chance for down sydrome, I wouldnt be so freaked out I told the nurse well my daughters came back 98% for down sydrome and her due dates were off by 2 weeks, she said well Dr. Becker looked over all the ultrasounds you were giving we are not seeing any possible way for your due dates to be off. I know that the first ultrasound showed the baby to be 4 days behind in growth I know thats not much but , if I was only 15 weeks 1 day at the time of the quad test and I am 4 days off than that would make a difference wouldnt it? I would have only been 14 weeks and something at the time of the testing. I dont know what to do she says he highly reccommends i go see a specialist the only specialist in our area are 100 miles away, I told her I would go for the intense ultrasound, then she said well they would like for you to go ahead with the amio too, we would do that at a second visit at the same office. I am so scared of having a amio, I lost babies already I dont want to put this baby at any risk and either way we will not terminate this pregnancy, but if there is something wrong we do need to be prepared for it. Would I be so terrible to refuse the amio we did with with DD, we didnt even do the quad test with DS. I told myself not to do it this time either i knew there would be a ton of sleepless nights if it came back bad.

Anyone with any info , we do not have any DS in our family both sides, the only baby we have is on DH's side and she was born with Cerbral palsy and they believe that to have been something that happened during birth. they said with my age the risk is 1 out of 1,000 so not bad , I am about to freak and I told myself I would not worry yea right. I wouldnt be worried if she wouldnt have said " theres no way for your Due dates to be off" I beg to differ with them on that one though. and that could explain the very faint positives with all my HPT, and not hearing the heart beat yet, etc.. Ultrasounds can be off when determining due dates right? by 1-2 weeks either way and even the ultrasound I had at 12 weeks the baby was only 2.75 Cms I believe. I think when I did the math that was like 2 inches and I read they should be around 3 1/2 inches by then , and MY DS was pretty big so I have been counting on this one to be bigger than he was.


ughhh I dont knwo what to do I dont want to call DH at his work because we have both BTDT before with DD and we didnt do the test with Ds because of it and we had mutually agreed to not do it this time as well but I changed my mind and had it done.

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sorry the 12 week 3 day ultrasound was 7.4 cms I just looked the picture is in my siggy.

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Our appt. with the perinatologist ( I hope I got that right) is for Tuesday at 9:00 am got a bit of a drive to get there but not too bad, Dh took the whole day off he is freaked I told him just like DDs everything will be ok. Kinda hard to try to not be freaked but gotta act like that he is a very bad worrier worse than me LOL . His new boss was extremely nice about it , I was hoping it wouldnt cause problems at his work. I couldnt get by my drs office to get the paper work I need since Dh used my car he was going to go get it for me since he works near there but wasnt able to find the time so I am going to go tomorrow he is taking his own truck tomorrow. thats about it atleast we dont have to wait weeks like we did with DD when the test was bad.

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Try not to worry. i know that is harder said than done. i have a freind that has a down syndrome baby and a cousin that has spina bifida. they are both adorable children with great personalities and are full of love and laughter. I like the + of you will deal either way! i wouldnt have the amino either, no way, too risky! Just remember they will still be a human and your child ,they will just be special in their own way. Who know's the baby could be perfectly healthy. you will finally know at delivery is the only real time you will know for sure. you have my pm and my email if you want to talk you can chat with me. Just pray sweetie, it's in god's hands now, only he knows the outcome.

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Hi Elizabeth. I'm lurking so I apologize for butting in here... I just wanted to send you some positive vibes. First of all, I stopped getting those tests done for the simple reason that they can really add stress to this wonderful time in your life! PLEASE don't let it eat away at you. Often, you would see other indicators of a problem with an ultrasound so you have to find a way to try and relax. It's not only important for you, but for your baby. Right now that little one is "feeling" the stress (saying this in a loving way) and it's best if you can let some of this go.

There have been hundreds upon hundreds of cases whereby the numbers didn't look good and ultimately the baby was fine. It's just too much info.

Deep down I think you have a perfect little one that God has picked out for your family. Peace and Blessings to you and DH during this special time.

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Thank you so much for your kind words :0)

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