[font=Comic Sans MS][color=MediumTurquoise]Hi Everyone,

I am new to this board. I am married with two sons (6yrs and 3yrs). I am trying to decide if we should ttc for another child. I am 24 and just graduated college with my BSN for RN in May. I have been working in surgery for the last 6 months, and we just bought a new house at the end of July. Everytime I mention having another baby to anyone (even dh) all I get are negative comments like it will be too hard, I will be too tierd, I need to focus on my career, it will be too expensive, blah, blah, blah. Sometimes I worry about those things too, but I have been wanting a baby for over the last year. Already there will be a 4 yr age gap between the new baby and my second child even if I get pregnant right now. I would not want a bigger age gap then that. I also have 2 sisters who have been ttc for both about 2 yrs. One has had 2 miscarriages, one just this month. I am worried it will hurt them for me to get pregnant with a thrid child when they are still trying for a first and second. HOw did any of you make the decision for a thrid child when it seems to be unfavorable to so many people?

The other thing is that the decision may be already made for me at this point. I was on BCP for the last year with lots of break through bleeding. My doctor recommended I swith to the patch. I started spotting Nov. 14, I took my last pill NOv. 17 with two hormone pills left in the pack. I bled for about 5-6 more days (I think this was my period but I'm not sure). I did not start the patch because I wanted to have a normal cycle before I started it to help get me on the right schedule. I told dh about no bc, and he said to "not worry about it". So I thought maybe this is our chance for a third baby. It's just now I don't know when to say the first day of my last period was, and I can't tell if I have ovulated or not yet. I have not been charting. If I count my first day at Nov. 14, I am on cd 34. If I count from the day I stopped bc (NOv. 18) I am on cd 30. But since I am not sure that the bleeding I had was a true period, there is no telling when I could have ovulated. I guess I am asking when should I test? I do not feel any kind of symptoms at all.

I am sorry this is so long, it's just I feel like I don't have anyone to talk to about this, and I have been thinking about it all month long. I would love any feed back.

Cajunmommy

HI , I say give a test a try. If it's negative do one eveery week until either you get your period, or a +.
I understand what you are going through. I had my first two 14 months apart. we were decideding wether or not to take a break or should I say Dh was decideing because I really wanted anouther, but I was on BCP and had break through bleeding, like every two weeks., anyway the decision was made for us, I ended up pregnant. Our third was born 14 months after our 2nd.
We are now trying for number 4, but facing challenges (8 months trying,2 miscarriages)
I to have lots going on in my life( only married five years, moved to a new town,started a new business, had 3 kids, and now we are building a house)People usualyy say we should wait, but deep down I know what I want and no one can talk me out of it!
Good luck with your situation I hope it turns out the way you want.
Cori

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Thanks for the support. I am glad to hear I am not crazy for wanting another child in my busy life. I guess I will get a test in the next few days if AF doesnt show. Thanks again!

Cajunmommy