Delimma - I had my ob appnt ( long)

Milesmommy · #1 (**permalink**) 04-20-2007, 05:32 PM

well I had my ob appointment today. She said that even though I am not ovulating until late it should be fine to conceive. She is a little concerned that I am starting my period so soon after o'ing. She said that I may need a little assistance when I want to start trying. She knows that I know my body very well so she said I could just call her and let her know. To be cautious she took blood and she is checking out my thyroid and my progesterone. I should get the results next week and then we can proceed from there.

As far as getting the pain in my shoulder when I start my period...... it turns out that she is pretty sure that I have endimitriosis. I guess in some rare cases it can cause scar tissue to build on your diaphragm and cause pain into your right shoulder. She wants me to go on the bcp which would cause me to have just some spotting for a couple days each month. The theory is no bleeding, no scar tissue, no pain. The pain is only lasting a day and half right now but I know from years past that the more periods I have the longer and more painful it gets. It got so bad before Miles that I was affected about 20 days at a time. It totally affected everything that I did.

She didn't seem too concerned ( she didn't mention it anyway) about me having trouble getting pregnant but she did want to know when we were thinking of trying. I told her August. She said that I could go on the bcp and then when we wanted to get pregnant just simply go off of it. She said there was no need to wait any amount of time after going off.

So here is the delimma. DH wants a baby now. Like yesterday now. He says that its my body and he will support me no matter what I decide but he thinks we should start trying now. I have planned for August for so long that now I don't know what to do. This may sound totally selfish and trust me I don't mean it this way at all but I want to have fun with Miles this summer and do all the things I have wanted to do with him. ( Go to the zoo, being a pool rat ) without gagging at food smells and being so tired I don't want to come off the couch. Plus- and I know I am going to get tomatoes thrown at me for this- I am FINALLY my old size. All my clothes fit after months and months of breastfeeding and I actually weigh less than when I got pregnant. After a year.

do I take the pill for one month and then come off of it and start trying? ( To see if it helps for after I have the next baby) Do I take it until July and then start trying. Do I not try it at all and just start plain trying. I am already bummed that I will probably have to take the pill forever. I hate the bcp!!

I just don't know what to do.. advice?

Mom2Cameron · #2 (**permalink**) 04-20-2007, 11:36 PM

Well I just got off the pill and would trade places with you in a heart beat if it meant I could have a normal cycle...heck just a period at this point and ovulate on my own. I hate birth control....messed me up and made me feel sick and moody. I say TTC now cause what if it makes things worse and you dont get PG as fast as you would have hoped for. I say ttc now and see what happens...stay away from BCP

unless you dont want more kids then i say take it.

indsrnty · #3 (**permalink**) 04-21-2007, 01:00 PM

hey girl i cant really think of any advice for u just i hope things get better!

BTMom · #4 (**permalink**) 04-21-2007, 03:09 PM

It sounds like you have a really supportive doc (and husband) . . . that's great! I remember telling my ob (or rather her nurse) that I thought my luteal phase was on the short side, but I didn't get much of a response.

Also, I definitely don't think you're selfish for wanting to spend the summer with Miles (non-prego). Just the opposite (unselfish) as you want to give him your undivided attention. I can also totally relate to feeling like your body is back to being "yours"!! This summer I can finally wear shorts without elastic

Anyway, I guess I haven't really offered up any advice (sorry!). Just wanted to empathize -- hope you and the hubby can come to an agreement. Keep us posted.

markswife · #5 (**permalink**) 04-23-2007, 12:54 PM

Summer, TTC is such a personal decision. I really think you and your sweet DH need to have a come to Jesus and really decide what is best for you and your family. Like Brittney said, your decision to wait until August is completely self-less and you shouldn't be ashamed at all. KUP on your decision!!