Hi everyone. Just thought I'd stop lurking and say that I have been TTC for 3 months now. I am in my 2ww and it is killing me! I am so stressed and my Dh is ready to give up if I stay this wound up. My mood swings are really bad and I get so upset really easily when we talk aobut TTC. I would love to talk about it all day long, but it angers DH when I cry and stress out. Any suggestions?

Also, we are not telling anyone that we are TTC. I think that may be another reason why I am so stressed about it. I have no one else to talk to about it except DH. Maybe that is too muc pressure for him? We have been married for 3 1/2 years now and we have wanted a baby since we married. Money and job situations delayed TTC until now so we were hopeful it would happen quickly. No luck yet.

It is so upseting when a lot of my friends ask when we are going to have kids...I know they mean well and they don't know that we are trying...but it is so hard to lie to them, saying "we are still youg, we have lots of time". I really don't believe that and it probably shows all over my face that I am lying.

I think my mom knows something is up. I haven't had an alcoholic drink in 3 months...she has noticed and always asks why I am not drinking....I think she expects me to tell her that we are TTC but I will respect DH's wishes and not tell anyone.

Well that's it. I vented. Thanks for letting me be here.

~Tasha

So wonderful to have you!! Are you on any meds, are you charting your bbt, cm or using a CBFM? Just wondering, all of these call help you track your ovulation which can help in my journey of ttc. The 2ww bites, and we have all been there so trust me, you are not alone. I do 2 things to help me out...1. I educate myself on everything I possibly can about my body, the diff tracking/charting methods, and new things I find and 2. I do things that have nothing to do with ttc, reading a novel, painting, meditating, etc.

My DH and I am not sharing the fact that we are ttc, but that is mostly my doing. I think if I said anything, I would get questions, pressure and opinions that I necessarily need/want right now. TTC is stressful enough, I do not need any added boost in that dept.

As for not having anyone to talk to and driving your DH nuts, I visit here a lot and read/share what is going on with me and others, it really does help.

Good luck and I hope you get a BFP real soon!!

to the boards Tasha! I totally understand as DH and I have not told anyone we are ttc as well. Our family and friends have been asking us about it for the past several years, and now that we are ttc, it is even more frustrating! My DH doesn't like to talk about it with me either because I always cry. I think men just don't understand the emotions that women go through. I wish they could be in our shoes, then maybe they would be more understanding.
Good luck and lots of to you!

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Sheri

Hi Tasha!
I know how you feel. DH and I are not telling anyone either and for some odd reason he doesn't want to talk about it 27-7??!!
Part of me thinks that he does not want to be dissappointed if it doesn't happen, so he doesn't want to get his hopes up. Also, I agree that men don't understand what an emotional experience this is for us.
These boards have helped me, and I have only been here for about a week
Feel free to obsess with us!

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Michelle
DH - 33 Me - 33
Married since October 1998
Parents to our furry son Riley
Trying to give Riley a brother or sister since May 2004
PCOS - Trying 1500mgs Metformin, 100mcgms Synthroid, diet, and exercise

Hi ladies! Thanks for the big welcome! I am current charting my temps and tracking CM. I think if I don't fall Pg this cycle that I will try OPKs next cycle to confirm when I think I O.

My DH actually got into a good discussion last night about TTC and how he felt. He doesn't want to be disappointed so he sees no reason for testing with HPTs. He wants me to wait until AF is late. I don't know where he gets his patience from but I have no paitnece! I don't think I can wait that long...my thoughts are this: If I am Pg, maybe I can find out right now??!?!?

Anyways, thanks again for the great welcome...

TTYL,
~Tasha

Welcome, Tasha. I am in the same boat--no one knows we are TTC plus I plan to wait until is late before I test. My DH is very supportive of this whole process and I really feel we are doing this as a team. However, he thinks these message boards are silly and that I am wasting my time and getting all worked up over little things. I disagree. It helps me to be able to talk about the little details, and to get support and information. I hope these boards can do that for you, too!

This process is definitely an emotional roller coaster. We have all been through major ups and downs. And who knows--maybe soon you'll be telling us that your mood swings were early signs! Good luck and here's babydust for that !

Nice to meet you... we made a bit of a mistake back in Oct 04 when we *thought* we were prego right after our wedding and told a few people we thought we might be... well now everyone knows we are TTC and that we are having issues... ugh~!

I say do the best you can not to tell too many people ... after almost a year of ttc, I kinda feel broken not having conceived by now... I do feel better knowing (unfortunately) that I am not alone!

Good luck girls!

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Pam
Stopped BCP October 2004
Pam 24, DH 32
C5 ~ Diagnosed Hypothyroidism July 2005.
C7 ~ Diagnosed PCOS Oct 2005
My Chart http://www2.fertilityfriend.com/home/772e0

Pam,
I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism too. Are you on synthroid? How much? Did it regulate you?
I am on 50mcgrms a day and it has not regulated me?.

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Michelle
DH - 33 Me - 33
Married since October 1998
Parents to our furry son Riley
Trying to give Riley a brother or sister since May 2004
PCOS - Trying 1500mgs Metformin, 100mcgms Synthroid, diet, and exercise

Poor thing! I know exactly how you feel. The first two weeks we started TTC I went absolutely bonkers. I seriously almost had a nervous breakdown. I was charting, temping, scheduling sex, taking all kinds of vitamins and eating 'special' food etc. I wasn't sleeping and I'd just sit and cry all day. It sounds insane but when you've been responsible and waited soooo long when the time finally comes to try you kind of crack.

My suggestion is to keep busy reading and learning everything you can. Taking Charge Of Your Fertility is an excellent book but there are lots of others as well. Try to stay calm and not get obsessive, if anything it will hurt your efforts. Plus, constantly talking about TTC and bugging the hubby to talk about it 24/7, have sex on schedule, etc will only make him feel pressured and frustrated and that won't help either. As hard as it is not to tell anyone I wish that I hadn't. I was so excited I told everyone and now I'm miserable. We've been trying almost 2 years and I get a call calls from family members asking if we're preggers yet, why aren't we pregnant and offering absurd and intimate techniques on how we could get pregnant. Can you say eeeww? Not to mention it became a contest. As soon as I made my announcement all the girls in my family went insane and got pregnant, even the ones who didn't want kids! So I say keep it hush hush until you're actually pregnant and even then give it a few weeks.

And of course whenever you need to vent or just gab about TTC we're always here for you Good luck and blessings, Prana

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Hello Ladies,
Hubby and i have decided to ttc. We have.......triplet daughters who will be five next month. I was an inpatient woman when i was trying to conceive about five years ago and seeked an OBGYN that would quickly give me clomid as i thought something was wrong with me that i did not conceive right away. Well i got clomid 50mg and followed doctors instructions and became pregnant with triplets. Now a little more educated about how the whole baby making process works i'm ready to conceive naturally. I don't chart but i have been checking my Cervical changes/fluids. My cycles are every 26days and i ovulate or atleast i think i do on day 12. I get that real bad cramp on my side(switches each month), but the only thing is that i don't know if that cramp means i O'd or if i'm about to. So this is cycle day 14 and i doubt we conceived this cycle because we only bd'd on cycle day 10.( our schedules are hectic.) So i wish you all luck on your journey!

We did it, how shocking. I didn't think i was pregnant because we only bd'd once last month. It was during my fertile cycle two days before i had the ovulation cramp. I didn't have any symptoms except my menstrual cramps felt different, as if i had a flow. So i decided to go to the pharmacy and buy a test expecting it to be negative and it showed positive immediately two days before my period is due. I'm very early maybe three or four weeks so i'm very nervous. Hope all goes well

Itstimeagain,
Hope you have a H&H 9 months!

Sheri

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Sheri

Hi i am new here to congrats on your thats very exciting i cain't wait to get mine also and to all of you who are haveing problems i wish you all the best you never would think that it would be so hard for us to get pg but it is a struggle sometimes for some of us but hopefully we will all get our little bundle of joy one of these days.... to all and to all

Hello All,
Thanks for the wishes. I'm in the HIGH RISK GROUP due to my history with the triplets. So i will be watched closely probably seen biweekly until second trimester and then weekly. (usually see perinatologist instead of my OBGYN) and i already have my first sonogram on Oct. 17th. Positive thoughts too you all.