Help! My MIL is moving in tomorrow!

sweetpea1215 · #1 (**permalink**) 09-22-2005, 06:31 AM

My MIL sold her house and is moving in tomorrow!

The lady she bought her new house from has 30 days to get out, so my MIL will probably be here anywhere from 2-4 weeks. This lady is moving to Kentucky and is trying to sell her furniture before she moves, so I have a feeling it will be closer to the 30 days.

I am close to my MIL but she drives me crazy sometimes. DH said the good thing about her moving in here is that the phone won't ring as much!

She calls a lot and I mean a lot!!! We are always joking because she calls so much now, that we wonder what she'll be like when she gets old.

How are we supposed to make a baby with my MIL in the house!? I have a feeling this cycle will be a bust! I'm hoping we will be able to

some

in, but it isn't going to be easy.

Riley · #2 (**permalink**) 09-22-2005, 09:13 AM

Does she drink? Maybe around O time you can give her a couple of glasses of wine before bedtime!

I know that makes me sleep soundly!

sweetpea1215 · #3 (**permalink**) 09-23-2005, 05:21 AM

She does drink, but I don't know if she drinks during the week. (I think I should ovulate in the middle of next week?) She sometimes drinks beer on the weekend. Maybe I can get her to have a couple of beers during the week. It's worth a shot!

sandj · #4 (**permalink**) 09-23-2005, 06:58 AM

Sheri, that sounds rough. ILs always seem to be hard to deal with for extended periods of time. I hope you and your DH find some time alone. Does she have any hobbies that would occupy her time? Can she take Radar for a very long walk? Go to the grocery store for you? If you can send her on some errands that would get her out of the house, maybe you'd have the time for makin some whoopy!

Good luck.

Riley · #5 (**permalink**) 09-23-2005, 10:47 AM

Great ideas Sophie!

sandj · #6 (**permalink**) 09-23-2005, 12:18 PM

Thanks, Michelle.

Sheri, let us know what works. And let us know how you're doing with the living situation. I know if my MIL were living with us, I would be stressed out, frustrated, and would definitely need to vent. Remember, support is here when you need it.

sweetpea1215 · #7 (**permalink**) 09-26-2005, 07:57 AM

Thanks for all of the great ideas you guys!

Okay, I need to vent.

It's only been 3 days and I'm so

already! First of all on friday, I had to try and cram her groceries into our

and it was not going well. I don't know why she bought unnecessary things that she knew she could not consume before she had to move in with us. Then as I'm putting her condiments away, I noticed that half of them were expired! I brought it up to her a couple of times and she did not want to throw them out. DH could tell that I was getting

and asked me to try not to make it obvious to his mom because he was worried she would keep asking him if I was mad at her or didn't want her here. When she wasn't looking, DH threw the expired food away and said if she noticed or asked about it that he would buy her new stuff when she moves out.

2nd gripe: I think she expects me to do her

! On several different occasions, she has told me that when I do my laundry, she only has a "few things" and that I can just throw them in with mine. So I keep telling her that she can just do a small load if she wants to and that she doesn't have to wait on me. Or, why can't she wait until she has a bigger load and do her own?! I just may have to talk to DH about this if she doesn't stop. I'm not washing her clothes! That's insane! She's staying here for nothing (of course) and our basement and garage are full of her stuff. She can at the very least, do her own laundry!

3rd gripe: She keeps saying how bored and lonely she is. Does she expect us to entertain her too? And what are we anyway, chopped liver? She keeps saying she misses her bf, but it was her choice to leave him. (She sold her house and moved b/c her live in bf drinks like a fish and was always at the next door neighbor's house drinking with them.) She told me she has already cried a few times. I don't know what to tell her anymore. This is what she wanted.

I don't know if I can do this for a month! I hope the seller of her new place gets out before the 30 days are up.

Thanks for listening! Sorry this was sooooo long, but I feel a little better now, I guess!

P.S. DH and I did have a little time to

yesterday when my MIL went to Walgreens. Hopefully we'll be able to get some more in over the next few days as I s/b O soon!

sunnyracer3 · #8 (**permalink**) 09-26-2005, 08:20 AM

Oh girl,
I can sympathize with you... before DH and I were married, well we lived with his mom, my MIL, and at first it was fun and gave us a chance to save up money while I was finishing school and then to buy our house. We also lived there to help her out cause she got sick and her and my FIL separated.

Anyway towards the end it was sooo tough, I was beyond frustrated... We were doing her a favour by helping her out with things etc but it never felt that way...

Anyway the unfortunate thing is after we moved out (bought a house) her cancer came back - so then we were always looked on as the bad ones (even though my SIL lives in the same town in her own apartment!). Anyway she passed 2 mths before our wedding which was so sad.

Its tough,,, you'll need to figure out a nice but FIRM way of explaining to her - actually it might be better your DH explains to her that this is your house and you two need your private time just as if she wasnt living there. I think if he says it, it would be easier... Ive tried to "fix" problems or misunderstandings with my inlaws and whoa... better off letting DH do it!

Good luck!!