My husband has been asking me when I am going to stop breastfeeding our 10 month old daughter? I think she is not ready. He thinks I am wrong to do it this long. I personally think that nothing is wrong with it, and that she is too young to stop.
what do you think?
at what age are we supposed to stop?

The World Health Organization says two years. I think the AMA says one year. Most babies will self-wean between 12-24 months old. I plan on nursing my 10mo old until she self-weans. She is not old enough for cows milk yet (at least one year) and I refuse to feed her formula. Tell your husband that it is natural and normal to have a nursing baby at this age, and that in most countries it is considered common, not unusual, and certainly not "wrong".

I'm sure the other ladies on here can give you some better ammunition - Vivian is nursing right now and I'm typing one-handed

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cool

in the end its really up to you and your little one. You've made it to 10 months that's a long time and awesome. If I took a guess I'd guess you atleast planned on making it to 1 year. Just let him know that 12 months is an ideal time, it gives her so much for rest of her life! the longer the better!

but as the above commenter said, between 12-24 months tey wean. my 19 month old is weaning right now.

My 2nd is 17.5 months and still nursing strong. There is nothing WRONG with you still nursing a 10 month old. Nursing is a partnership between a mother and baby and as long as both parties still are okay and wanting to continue the relationship then it should go on.

BM is the best thing you can be feeding your infant and that does not change once she has her 1st birthday; and until she reaches her 1st birthday BM should be her main source of calories and other foods are just to try/get used to.

You can get lots of great information on www.kellymom.com Have your husband go there and get educated.

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thanks for the site kellysmom.com
its really cool

I am on it now. hehe

and my baby is half asleep on my lap too hehe

she is a serious mommas girl , and honestly doesnt want anyone but me

I think that is all it balls down to.

My husband thinks that women that dont breastfeed are selfish so thats a good thing for me.
but I think he is jealous of our relationship
he wants to be able to do something i guess?

but when i want some time or help then he says SHE ONLY WANTS U

so u cant win ~

I weaned my last daughter at a yr old. but that was more because I was working 8 hours a day and pumping... now I am stay hom mom and not pumping so I don't see any point in stopping. ya kno

I told him what you all have wrote back on..

he said now he doesnt care but he don't want me complaing later.
I asked him what he meant bye complaing later??
he just said that I get mad at night when I am tired and she is fussy..
well doesnt anyone get mad when they are trying to sleep? and (((((you are the one everynight))))) that does everything while your husband GETS TO SLEEP.
its not the breastfeeding making me made, its the fact that I must do both of our jobs.

Its tough not to have the support of your DH. I originally thought I would just "try" nursing... that turned into 3 mo... then 6... then 12. At 12 I started wondering if DH thought I was "weird" but he reassured me that he thought ds was still a baby and it was good for him. I continued until he self-weaned at 14 mo, and then still pumped and mixed that with whole milk until he was 16 mo and I totally dried up. I wish I could have done it longer but the slow downward cycle started when I quit pumping at work when ds was 10 mo. I really just felt some invisable pressure to stop. I was afraid others would think I was weird to continue. I'm expecting again in 2 weeks and I will not be pressured this time. I hope to make it longer. My only advice is to do whatever is right. Most babies to self-wean, and the recommendation is at least 1 year so you're not even in a grey area yet. Good luck!

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thanks for what you said

I appreciate all of u so much

I think I am doing good on bf..
shes only 11 months now so I don't see any serious issue on it.
just all my friends and family members keep hounding me of when am I going to stop!... I personally do not understand why it matters to them what I do in my home. ya know. I think them talking may have rubbed on my husband.

but we got things clear now. I just wish his family would back off when I am ready to stop I will. lol.. they seem to think me BAD because I choose to do this instead of bottle feeding. cause I don't use anything but me. well she gets juices in a cup but other than that its just me.
personally I know why most ppl judge ppl like us..

simple fact they are envious and jealous that they didnt think so highly and so much for their own children. reason I think this now... is because every SINGLE person that seems to have a problem with me doing this with my children, they are the same ppl that never bf! and they think it is not ok to do so in pubic too.
I have 1 friend that has 3 kids now, her last one she is bottle and bf.. I think the reason why is because of me. (which is a good thing)
but she never nor any of my other friends or family did that.
I on the other hand seen no other way but that.
I was only 18 when I had my first girl, the second she came out of me she was on my titty I never needed anyone to tell me what was best.
I did stop bf her because of other ppl running their mouths.. saying ohhh shes a yr old.. and so forth.. but I am 10 yrs older now and see nothing wrong with doing it and doing it in public too.
my friend refuses to do it. my husband HATES when I do.
personally I see nothing wrong with it~~ and do it all the time if I need to.
I see nothing to be ashamed of!!! my husband was raised bye a woman that feels that our bodies are to be covered everywhere so that means my bf is awful to her. and rubs over my husband so that is where the problem with him is. we are at a constant battle of when it is appropriate.
I carry my little baby blankets with me everywhere I go.. I see nothing wrong with being somewhere and she needs/wants me. my husband wants me to go hide in a bathroom away from the all seeing world!
but to each their own I always say.
I am a strong person with high morals..
so If I see nothing wrong with it. then I am gonna continue what God intended us mothers to do.