What a roller coaster! My high-needs toddler has gone from 2-3x/day to as often as she can. Thankfully, my baby is much more mellow than my toddler ever was so I can set her down and she won't scream immediately. She also doesn't use me for a human pacifier like my first did. But now I seem to spend almost all of my day nursing, and my toddler has gone back to night-nursing 2-3x. It's a good thing, though, because I think it really minimizes the jealousy for my older girl. I'm really happy knowing that I have that booby to make things better for her.

My big worry is food. Vivian won't tell me she's hungry, she just starts demanding booby. She's not eating as much as she used to, sometimes she barely eats at all, but she'll nurse 6-8x/day. She's obviously not starved and is growing well, but I still worry.

Irene is getting all she needs, she was at 8lbs 9oz at 6wks, and her low was 5lbs 7oz (she was only 5lbs 14oz at birth - tiny!), so I'm not worried that Vivian is taking her sister's milk. I was at first, so I assigned a boob to each of them, LOL!

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\\It sounds like things are going well Are you just feeling a little overwhelmed by it all?

I can tell you that this is normal. I mean, what would you do if all the sudden your momma's milk dwindled down to pretty much nothing and then suddenly back! You would be sucking it down! She is also just making sure that you will still let her nurse. She is learning to share you AND her boobies.

It is probably a good time to start giving your first daughter some limits. Like a certain chair, only certain times of the day (morning, nap, night), a snack instead, etc. She is old enough to have these. It sounds like you are worried about either of them gaining weight, and that's good. Bf'd babies gain differently. I also did the assigning one boob to my oldest (the first time around) but realized that it didn't matter. I do whatever, whichever now.

I would recommend reading Adventures in Tandem Nursing. You could check your local library or if you have a local LLL group that meets, they may have it in their library.

Good luck and if you want to complain about it, don't hesitate to pm me.

btdt, but i'm glad you're adjusting and know that despite feeling like all you do is nurse, that you know this too shall pass

you're doing a great job kara!

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Thanks!

The one boobie thing has been good for my toddler because she has "ownership" of it. She's all about who owns what all the time, LOL. It also helps keep her from twiddling the other one because I can just say "that's Irene's booby, leave it alone" and she will

Right now my biggest issue is upper back problems that make it painful to have both of them on at once, but I'm getting steroid injections next week that will make that MUCH better. This is a congenital problem that flares up about once/year, so at least I know what I'm in for

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