Hi Ladies,
I need some advice....Holly is 4 1/2 years old and very strong-willed. At her last appt in January, I told the doctor how bad her behavior was and that i was concerned and she assured me it was normal behavior for a 4 year old and to give her time outs in her room is needed and to just keep at it.

Well 6 months later and we have gotten nowhere. I watch SuperNanny and have her book and she tells you to just keep putting them back in the timeout until they sit and take it, but it is not working for us.

Holly gets upset when she is told no and loses it. She screams, hits and kicks and tells us we are stupid. When she does something beyong the screaming (like hitting us) or hitting Samantha, we give her a warning and then we put her in her room on her bed for 4 minutes and explain to her she is being punished for the bad behavior. She gets off the bed and stands in her doorway and screams hysterically. We go back in and put her back on the bed constantly and she wont sit. She gets up and gets more hysterical. I feel like I have to hold her down on the bed to get her to stay. She screams so loud she cant hear what I am telling her and she does not stop. If we shut the door, she pounds on it until there are dents in the door. It is crazy! I have spent hours dealing with this and getting nowhere.

What would you do?

Keep at it?
Try something else?
Ask the pedi for a referral to a counselor to see if there is more to it?

I just need some advice. I feel like I am ready to call the dr and get help, but hate doing that and over-reacting. My sister in law saw a tiny bit of this behavior yesterday and said I should call. Holly got mad at her for shutting her door and sat on my lap and cried for 20 minutes for no reason.

Anyways, I need to do something at this point, but just dont know where to start.

Thanks in advance!

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Sue and Peter
Proud Parents to Holly Ann (5) & Samantha Rose (2)