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Getting rid of the pacifer
This is a discussion on Getting rid of the pacifer within the Babydust Moms and Dads forums, part of the Parenting Babies & Toddlers category; I think the time has come to get rid of Adam's pacifier. I am in uncharted territory with this, ...
I think the time has come to get rid of Adam's pacifier. I am in uncharted territory with this, because Sydney refused pacis, and sucked her thumb (hell, who am I kidding....she still sucks it)
Anyway, we didn't introduce a paci for Adam until he was 10 months old when we started putting in his contact lens...we thought it would comfort him, and it did. And now at 2 years old, he's a certified paci addict!
How do you go about getting rid of it? Gradually? Cold turkey? Just for nighttime? I am leaning towards cold turkey, since if I say he can't have it during the day, he throws a fit. How did your kiddos handle it and how old were they?
Any advice is appreciated!
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Stephanie (33)
DH (33)
Mom to Sydney, born August 8, 2003
and Adam, born April 13, 2006
We took Carson's away when he had the tummy bug back in December (he was almost 2). Cold Turkey for him. Don't think he realized it was gone because he was sooo sick and having that didn't help with the gags at night, so we took it away. He was an addict too. So Im glad he didn't fuss or make a big deal about it. He was pre-occupied at the time I guess.
Btw, Isaac didn't take paci's. He hated those things.
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Rachel
Proud Mother of 2 Boys and a Girl
Isaac David born February 24th, 2004
Carson Eli born January 18th, 2006
Kianna Rachelle born May 25th, 2008
Ugh, I prolonged the ordeal. Only at naptime and night. I cut holes in it but that didn't bother him. I told him it was broken. He was 18mos if not closer to 2 when we said good bye. I introduced a lovey to him around that time too. Another vice but looks cuter now that he's 3 1/2. BTW he's outgrowing Raggie Doggie, which saddens me.
I do remember refusing to buy new ones if he lost them. I also remember a panic attack at bedtime when I couldn't find one.
Since Adam is two I think I'd go the cold turkey and get on w/ the pain, kwim? I'm already dreading weaning Carsen. The boy loves his paci but he has his lovey which he finds great comfort in. May be get him to trade in all his paci's for one big boy toy? Throw a party.
I can't remember how old Keegan was when we took his away (I think he was a little over 2). He loved his bink. I think he would still have one if we would allow it. He always has his blankie or hands or something in his mouth. When he started biting his bink, and putting little holes in them, we would cut the ends off. He would still try and put them in his mouth and would find a way to suck on them with just a little stub. We told him they needed to go into the trash can and he would just throw them away. He never really asked for them either. I know we were lucky that it was so easy.
We waited until Jack turned two and had him put all the binkies in a box for a new baby to use, then we took him to the store and let him pick out any stuffed animal he wanted. When he asked for his binky I would give him the stuffed animal and remind him he was a big boy now.
I do remember refusing to buy new ones if he lost them. I also remember a panic attack at bedtime when I couldn't find one.
Um, YES, we have had that moment! We are down to one paci (a pink one, no less!!) and I cannot for the life of me find the others that I know are in this house.....
So it seems like all of your kids didn't have a problem. I should really do it now...but he loves it so much!! I know this is probably more my problem than his. I'm just afraid of messing up his good sleep habits, you know?
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Stephanie (33)
DH (33)
Mom to Sydney, born August 8, 2003
and Adam, born April 13, 2006
We started from early on only allowing the pacis in bed. I was so scared to take Kate's away. We did it right before her 3rd birthday, and it was no problem. I wouldn't have waited so long it I had known it would be so easy. Jack got his taken away right before he turned 2 (we took all the pacis at the same time so Kate couldn't sneak one from Jack). He didn't seem to care either, but he was never quite as attached.
We did give them sippy cups with water at bedtime for awhile to help in the transisition. Something to sorta suck on.
My sig picture started showing up small like that once also! Very random.
Ty takes a paci and as of right now, I have no plans to take it away. He puts everything in his mouth and I'd rather it was a binkie than a small rock or a ball, which seems to be his preference.
My g/f took her kids pacis away when they turned two. She kept giving them warnings, "don't forget, in two weeks when you turn two, the paci fairy is coming to take away the paci and will leave you a special treat instead..." So although it was a cold turkey kind of thing, they had plenty of time to get used to the fact that it was going away.
I don't know if I read it here or on another message board, but I remember reading that someone had gone to Build A Bear and put the pacis inside a stuffed animal so "they could still always have them at bedtime."
My SIL did a more gradual thing during the day and made a rule that her son could have his paci whenever he wanted, but he'd have to sit and wouldn't be able to play. So, he'd ask for it, sit for maybe 10 seconds and then run off and play. At that point it was easy to take away during the day and then they just had the nighttime thing to deal with.
GL no matter what you do. And I'll be there in about a year myself.
claudia was BADDDD!!!!!!! she had to have 2 at all times! so i told her they couldn't come out of her crib. they were only for bed/nap time. then like someone else ..i cut the tops. she didn't care either. but i told her she was too big for them, and braking them. we collected all the nuks in the house, put them in a box and i told her the "nuk fairy" was coming to bring all the nuks to the babies in the hospital who needed them. and that the "nuk fairy" was going to give her a "big girl" present .
believe she was BAD!! i used to wake up 15 times i night to put it in her mouth. she would have 10 of them in the crib. she cried for about 10 min. saying how she din't like the box, or the nuk fairy or the babies. she fell asleep and the next morning she got a scooter and helmet. she did great and i was so proud of her!
Yeah, probably it will be easier than you think. We took Brynna's away somewhere right after her 2nd birthday. It's was fairly painless. She also had a stuffed hippo that was absolutely mandatory, so that helped to ease the transition. Kayleigh lost interest in hers somewhere around 9 months or so--so NICE.
About losing them, we just moved and I can't tell you how many binks we found. I think we have at least 4 dozen of those things that we found in and under furniture and in other random spots. Also, try the car. We always lost them in the car. UGH, it's such a pain keeping track of those things.
Anna -- I'll have to check the car for lost binks! I'll bet I have a few in there. I'm glad to hear it was a painless process....we just need to jump in and get it done. And congrats on baby #3!!! I didn't realize you were pg again!
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Stephanie (33)
DH (33)
Mom to Sydney, born August 8, 2003
and Adam, born April 13, 2006
Holly turned 2 and that night I told her that the binky fairy needed her binkies to give to babies that need them. So, we made a big pile of them and put them in an envelope that said "Binky Fairy" and we walked to the mailbox and put it in (after we knew the mailman came). We made a big deal out of it and took her picture and she loved it. We were worried we would get no sleep, but she did fine and never wanted it again...cold turkey worked for us!
Good luck!
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