Hi!
How are things going?

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Thanks for asking! Sorry it took some time to get back.

Well pregnancy is going well except I am uncomfortable. Indigestion all the time. But as long as baby girl is doing well... I have a baby shower on this weekend, so I am looking forward for it and getting baby stuff ready after the shower.

As for Brandon's sleeping...
He has been great with naps. He takes naps almost everyday. I feed him around 12:30, then after that, I clean him and we color together on the couch with him on my lap. He wants me to color so he does not color... he mustly watches and tells me what color to use where. He falls a sleep while he watches me color. That takes between 5 to maybe 20 minutes. Then I take him to his room to sleep. He sleeps for an hour to two hours.


At night, however.... he fights and fights and fights. I do not think I can stay up with him to make sure he sleeps in his room everynight after little girl is born.... so I decided to ask my husband to be in charge of Brandon's sleeping. We don't really have a set routine anymore. HE is too lively. My husbnad sometimes tries rocking, singing, laying in Brandon's room with him, but Those process take way too long. After an hour or two or trying, Brandon is usually still awake.

Some nights he sleeps on a pampason cushion in livingroom while we watch tv. If not, we bring the pampason cushion in master bedroom and let him sleep there when we go to bed. That works well...
If we take him to his room after he falls a sleep there, some nights he will stay there until morning. Some nights, he wakes up and comes to visit us and sleeps in the cushion again.

I do want him to be able to go to sleep in his room on his own eventually, but This is what we are doing now... Sometimes I feel really dissapointed when I hear form other moms "You should be putting him in his room to sleep. Think about what'll happen after baby is born." "you should let him CIO." etc etc....

Do you have any advice?

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I had that! I was burping ALL THE TIME! So weird!

I don't think you should feel bad at all. You should do what works for you and your family. What you seem to want to do is not fight and fight with him which makes a lot of sense because it's not fun, and could just end up making the whole sleep routine into a huge power struggle, and you could create a hugely negative sleep association... if he thinks going to sleep means a fight, then he's NEVER going to get it, so that is good that you just try to do the sleep routine, and then if it doesn't work that night you bring him to where you are. Maybe that is what he needs right now because he wants to be close to you. That is good that you are reading this from him. As well, you don't seem to want to leave him to cry - I think that is good too... that would be another major negative sleep association at his age. Also, he is old enough to know that there are changes going on with your family in that you are expecting and I have heard that trying to teach a little one that it's time to grow up RIGHT BEFORE something big like that when they are about to have a huge life change is NOT a good idea... along those lines is NOT trying to do potty training at that time either. It is very good that you are there for his comfort and not trying to force him to do anything. The No Cry Sleep Solution is all about creating a positive sleep association in which they are not FORCED to sleep, but that through the bedtime routine and all the other ideas in the book, sleep will overtake them naturally... it's just a process that takes time because you are trying to form a habit instead of break their will. That is good that you see this and doing what your son needs.

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Thanks. I am thinking that learning to sleep is his job.... and my job is to try to be there and be patient as he learns the process. And help him learn gently. It sure could take lots of patience but..... thankfully, my husbnad is willing to help and he is in charge of Brandon tonight.

Same thing with potty training.... I asked him today if he wanted to use potty, but he said "no." So I did not force it. He will be ready eventually.

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