one thing i learned for a newborn, that i didn't see on the video or sites, but learned from other baby-wearin' mamas: swaddle the baby in a light blanket first, then pop her in the sling. they're so limp at that stage, it's hard to get the flailing arms and legs in! i used the swaddle technique and Willow loved it, she was all cozy
is she trying to do 2 slings in the cross-carry?