How long did you co sleep with your children, those with older children?

Our 4 year old son became very interested in his room in the past year, so he has transitioned at his own speed to his own bed. He is welcome at any time to come into our room, and probably does every second night or so for a bit, but mostly sleeps in his own room! I like how he did it at his own tempo... and that it shows that when you give them ownership over their own decision, while showing them how special their room is that they can find that a special change to being a "big boy".

Anyone else?

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I guess everyone is still co-sleeping with their older children so no one has a response for that one....

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I posted a lengthy response but it's not here for some reason

I co-slept w/ my 1st son off & on till he was 5, then for almost 3 years straight with my 2nd son and now 15+ months w/ my 3rd - DH says he'll be out at age 2... I just say, "Hmmmm..." The only way I think I'll send him packing to his own bed is if we have a new baby.

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Teresa (34)
Wife to Mike (33), mommy to four boys:
Tyler (14), Mason (8.5), Bradley (8) and Baby Logan (2)

ds moved to his bed on his own at around age 3 iirc. dd (4.5) is still in our room.

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I coslept with both kids, who are 2.9 years apart. dd transitioned on her own, starting at about six or seven. She was allowed to stay up later than ds and I to read on the couch and sometimes she would fall asleep out there. When it became obvious that she WANTED her own space to sleep, we acquired one of those bunk bed sets with a twin on top and a double on the bottom and got her a reading light so she wouldn't disturb ds and I.

When they were nine and 6 1/2 we moved to a new town where we could afford to rent a 2 bedroom house that had a dining room which I converted into a third bedroom. The kids were very excited about having their own rooms and ds didn't realize until our first night there that he might have to sleep all by himself in an empty room.

He alternated nights sleeping in my room and dd's for awhile, and then we made a deal with him that if he would fall asleep in his own bed, he would wake up with whoever's turn it was to "swipe the baby". That lasted for awhile and then he told us one night that he just wanted to stay in his own bed the whole night.

In retrospect, I pushed ds to grow up faster than he was ready and as a teenager, it is noticeable that he is less secure than his sister. I did not know many AP parents at the time and, as a single mama, was worried about false accusations of incest, so I sped things up a bit with the boy that I let unfold naturally with the girl. I have a lot of regrets about that and cheer on other parents who are able to let their kids decide how long to cosleep, even if it continues into preadolescence.

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we still sort of cosleep with dd who will be 4 in April, she starts off in our bed and when she falls asleep we sometimes will put her in her own bed. But somehow she ends up back in our bed lol.
The only reason we have moved her recently is she is a bed hog. I wake up during the night and she has most of my pillow and i am almost hanging off the bed. We have a King bed you would think there would be plenty of room! But as she gets older, she gets more fidgety, and moves a lot.

I co-slept with all of my kids until they decided they were ready for their own beds. They were around 3 at the time.

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My son brendan will be 4 in august and he still co-sleeps with me but I think after we move I will set up his room so if he wanted to sleep there he could because he sleeps in his own bed at grandma's

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