Hey there! I went up to my kids' dad's other house, about 4 hours north of here, because his gf had her twins on Thursday. We wanted the boys to be able to see them, even though we won't allow them to be called their bro/sis until the DNA tests come back. Man we were busy!

We got that house cleaned up and found out she had done NOTHING to prepare for the babies. I hate shopping with a passion and had to go out for 4 trips to finally get all we needed for them. It was exhausting and I hurt so bad! The room looked pretty good when we were done though at least. I am still pretty shocked that someone could simply refuse to prepare at all for her kids though. She has two others, one she had custody of for a year, and one for 3 months before she gave them away, so we're wondering how it's going to go with these two.

The twins were born at 38 weeks and really good shape. They got jaundice, but that was it. When we brought the boys in to see them we thought they'd be excited to see them and hold them since they love babies in general, but this time they held the girl and then asked to have her taken away and to go eat, and didn't want to hold the boy at all. I guess it may take some time for them to get used to, or else they maybe won't even need to. Who knows. Zach went with us shopping for their things though and he was a lot of help picking out toys for them and such. We only got a few to start with.

Good thing is the DNA test will be back in two weeks so the wait isn't going to be as bad as we expected. The mom is going to have company over for the entire time for two weeks, and I had her schedule an appointment to check how she's doing emotionally at that point before she's left alone with them. We also made sure she has the phone numbers for social services and public health on the fridge, and a home health nurse visit is scheduled for the end of the week. At least if she decides she doesn't want these ones either they will be taken care of somehow.

Last night I got to go mud bogging! It's been over a year since I got to go last, so I missed it BAD. It was well worth it

And I just got home a bit ago so now I'm catching up!

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Wow Amy, you're one amazing woman. I wouldn't be able to be so supportive of a lady my ex was seeing. for you, for being so supportive of him.
I feel for those little babies, having a Mum who isn't even sure if she wants them stinks. She's lucky to have a lady like you in her life, helping her out like that is great
Glad to hear you're doing good and that you got to go mud bogging!!! I'm not sure what that is, but it sounds sweet!!! hahaha.

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Thanks! I can't see kids ending up getting hurt...I just really wish MKD was smart enough to have stayed away from her in the first place.

Mud bogging is where we take the pickup (this time) out into a wet field and drive around in it, getting it as muddy as possible...it is SO fun! We've had such dry years here lately that we haven't really been able to, but we definately could last night! All we could talk about after was when we'd be able to do it again lol!

Your really brave girl. I'm not so sure I could do that. You really have a big heart. I didn't it took that long to get results back. I hope these 2 weeks go back quickly for you.

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I guess I really don't care either way if they're his or not anymore. If they aren't I suspect he'll be GONE. If they are, he'll still be gone...lol...just stop back once a week or so like before when he feels like it. She knew that's how it was when they started dating and he told her that won't change. The only people he really cares about are me and my kids. I was really worried that once they were born that we'd take a backseat to them though, and was feeling really replaced. Thanks!

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lurking but wow you do have a huge heart...i could never give a care about an ex's new girl!

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Lol thanks! I'm not totally selfless about it though...I honestly can't stand her. Tolerate her for the sake of the kids (my sisters and I were always "the kids that would never be anything but trash" and kids deserve better IMO). If it turns out they aren't my ex's even, there won't be any involvement. If they are though, I'm going to have to learn how to deal with it one way or another since we live next door to each other (my ex and I, not the girl) and my ex is likely going to end up with custody within a year. I'm thinking of taking bets lol.

Part of the issue that I TRY to get along with people my ex dates is that we're still friends (usually) and he was the only guy I'd ever dated until last summer. I know his GFs will come and go and they tend to use him bad and he's too blind to see it so often. I'm kinda the reality check for him. He hates when I'm right, which is almost always ().

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You are great I think I would break down eventually and at least do it for the 2 little babies invloved. They didnt get to pick their parents. I really hope, whether it's her or another family, those lilttle ones get the loving home they deserve