My kids' dad (MKD...shorter) went up north to be with his gf because she had a C/S scheduled for today. She's been saying from the start that she's pregnant with his kids (twins) even though he was gone the entire month she got pg. I kept telling him there was NO way. They were 2 states apart and NO sperm is quite that mobile. So anyway, I've been going through jealousy issues from the start because of her. I do not like to be replaced, and I like our kids being replaced even less.

So this morning was the C/S. I told him he needs to get blood typing done before he signs anything, and they did that after the birth today. Turns out I WAS RIGHT. He's upset and I'm doing a happy dance lol. The mom is O pos, MKD is O pos, both babies are A pos. No flipping way is that possible if he's the dad. I've taken plenty of blood typing courses/genetics and such and know the combinations and how they work. He said on Tues that he didn't really care about the babies, but now he's bummed because he's the one that's been there from the start and his gf lied to him the entire time claiming she was loyal. Good joke.

I just gotta vent now. He confuses the bleep out of me. Last year he started dating her and I didn't like her (she didn't bathe, etc, gross). MKD and I talked about getting back together, but when I wanted to he didn't, and when he did I didn't. We're both too freaking stubborn to get along as a couple anyway and we both know it. We live next door to each other because we like our own space. It's messed up. We dated for 5 years, had two boys, broke up and went through a time of hell, and we've been friends since. Total of almost 10 years now. Makes it hard because we're each other's best friend, but we can't stand so many things too.

He says he loves her because she gives him "free will" to do what he wants. In their relationship it's ok for both to cheat (she goes for women usually) as long as they don't talk to each other about it. They see each other about 1 day a week, and supposedly live together, but she's 4 hours north of our houses. He just has some of his stuff there and owns half that house. His mailing address and everything is here. He doesn't want kids with her but was willing to accept the twins because he didn't want to hurt them like he did our boys when he walked out on us. It was BAD.

I know the idiot loves me, more than anyone else except our kids too. He knows this baby isn't his but he wants to claim her anyway. He stands up for me and was going to royally hurt the real father when he walked out. The two of them had been roommates and good friends. Not any more. He even says he loves me, and we have an agreement that if I want more kids later he's willing to be the father if I want (MY call tyvm lol). Only thing that he can't stand about me is I expect LOYALTY. And he can't keep his pants on it seems. The short one is the leader... I hate that. I told him if we do have more kids together it'll be through a dr because I'm not sleeping with someone that won't be loyal. He also said he doesn't want kids with anyone else but me, and he means that without a doubt.

Hey this is funny and gross. We went to Pierre (LONG drive) on Tuesday in his new truck, and I started getting sick feeling. I couldn't help it and threw up on the floormat. Thought he'd be SO mad; I would have been if it were my car! He wasn't! How odd. He also usually works road construction (12 years now) and Tuesday he quit. It's the only life he knows, and when our first son was born I went with him for 2 years so we could be a family. It was great. But now the kids are older and miss him so bad, and him being gone half the year makes things hard on our oldest because of the autism (he regresses; loses toilet training, etc). So he quit flat out and decided this year he'll start working where he can be home at night, even if that means a crap job.

Just had to say he's an idiot and it bit him in the but with his gf. I get distracted. Oh if you're curious his gf's twins info is:

Girl (Kaylee Marie) was born at 8:27 am, 6 lbs 1 oz
Boy (Justin Drake) was born at 8:29 am, 6 lbs 10 oz
and neither are his. HA.

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WOW Amy, that's a lot of stress on you. I hate to say it but, HA HA about the baby twins! Some girls will SAY and DO anything to keep someone in their life even if that means hurting them in the end. Obviously his current GF has some major issues to lie to him the WHOLE 10months.
It really does suck about the "no commitment" thing, I don't know HOW you deal with it. I'd be SOOOOO flipping jealous!
! Hope that he comes around and realizes he DOES want a long term commitment with YOU and his boys

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Wow that is crazy! I am in a similiar boat. I am hoping that is what happens when my baby daddy gets his paternity test. I say if he truly does have feelings for you then he should stop this halfway business and start talking seriously with you. Good luck!

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Thanks guys! I think I'm so freaking nuts sometimes. I told him the stuff he does confuses me SO bad, and the kids too, even though that's all they know. We went up north to the gf's place this weekend to get stuff ready for the twins and such. MKD said he doesn't know what he wants right now, but he did prove that I'm more important to him than her and her kids, even if they do turn out to be his as well. Was nice to know for sure, since I was feeling really replaced. I never have liked the gf much, but I've been REALLY making an effort to help her out, just can't seem to help a smartaleck comment on occasion. She had the twins on Thurs, and we went up there Fri, and MKD didn't go to the hospital at ALL to see her that day. We stopped in on Sat twice, both times with me and not for real long, and Sunday nobody went (we all had the flu and figured it wasn't worth the risk to the babies). Today I came home with our kids and MKD went to the hospital finally at 2pm to pick her up. If I were her I'd be SO mad, but HA HA HA I'm NOT her.

I was kind of upset the other day (we were cleaning the house up because she DIDN'T). I came across a box for a necklace that was the same as one that I was given by MKD and I thought he got her the same one. I asked him about it and he said no, showed me the chain he got her and said he won't be getting her one like mine no matter what. I got a pendant with the kid's birthstones in it, even the one not born yet. That was nice. I get SO jealous sometimes, but at least for good reason usually.

We went out and just had fun last night too. It was great! No kids, it was me and MKD and one of our friends and we met a bunch of other people up there. We were talking about stuff we did when we first met that we missed doing together so much. MKD told me that he got rid of the his other f*ck buddies too finally. I don't know what else to call them...that's all they are there for.

For the next two weeks he's only going to be down here for a few days each week, but I understand that. He wants to make sure his gf isn't going to go nuts and kill the kids or something over the top, and I put reference numbers on their fridge and made sure they have appts coming up to check on her. If she doesn't keep the twins, so be it, but if they're MKD's he wants custody. Right now he isn't sure how she's going to deal, but we both doubt she'll keep them long. He quit his job last week (road construction) and is looking for a regular job he can keep from home (HERE). That way if he ends up with them he can actually be a parent, and he can also FINALLY take visitation or joint custody of our kids too.

I have talked to him a lot. We both agree he has to grow up if he wants to be with me because I expect things like loyalty. Right now he seems to be figuring out if maybe it's time to quit screwing around all the time. Just wanted to update ya!

, posted something in your other thread! just wanted to give you another hug!

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I am so glad things are going well for you and MKD. We are pullin for ya.

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