Hi, I'm new here. I know this is a board for single moms, but even though I don't have kids I felt I could post here without being judged for not being married. I needed some insight on something and I hope someone here could help me. Reading through the posts, it seems as though u guys are really great with each other and don't judge.
Anyways, here is my problem.
I'm a single person, working as a cashier. I was with my ex BF for 4 years, and I broke up with him in April because he was doing drugs and not working. In July, I made the mistake of inviting him over for the night. About 10 days after we had sex, I thought I was getting my period because I had some spotting. It only lasted a day, though. Then in Augest, I got my period and everything was normal except it lasted 5 days longer than it normally does. (It is usually 5 days long, this time it was 10) I have not had sex with anyone since then. Well, this month I have not gotten my period at all. I am 3 weeks late, and I keep buying those dollar store tests, and they are all negative except 2, in which case one didn't even work at all (No lines showed up at all). And the other, I got the second (positive) line, but it it didn't show up right away. I took the test, and when the line didn't show up right away, I went back to bed for a couple hours, then I got up and looked again and the line was there. I have not taken a test since then. Money is tight for me since I am on my own, so I can't really afford to buy a 20 dollar test.
My old gyno moved, and my new one cannot get me in until Oct. 3rd. I am freaking out because I am worried that I am not PG yet still not getting my period. I know your period can skip a month sometimes, due to diet and exercise, but I haven't changed anything like that. So my question is, has anyone else here just skipped a period and not been PG, yet everything was still fine? Are those dollar store tests even reliable? The only symptoms I have had are ones u can also get while getting ready to start your period, like sore breasts, nipples, and some back pain. I have had a couple that I don't normally get with PMS such as hot flashes and nausea. Also, if I am pregnant, do I have a responsibility to get back together with the father? He has bettered himself since I broke up with him, because he goes to school now and gets grant money to help with living expenses, and he claims he stopped using drugs but I don't know if I can beleive him since he has claimed that before and was still using them. On the other hand, I told him I may be PG and asked him to buy me a good test, and he said he would, yet this was 2 weeks ago and I have not heard from him. Any insight on this would be greatly appreciated....

Sorry it took me a while to respond... here it is. It is my firm belief that the ONLY reason that two people should EVER marry is because they love each other and want to share every new experience together. If this is not how you feel, then NO, you should not get marry just because you are going to have a child. If it does come to pass that a baby will be born, the two of you will always be apart of each others life. It is much better to do so amicably then with bitter feelings if you marry for the wrong reasons and separate.
When I told him I was pregnant, I told that if your part of this, then your there from the beginning or not at all. It was a all or nothing, and I had no problem being a single mother.
If a baby is coming your way, you will know what is best for the both of you. No matter what you decide be firm in that decision, don't let any one talk you into second guessing your self.

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Is there a planned parenthood in your area? I think you can get a pregnancy test done for free or nearly free...give them a call. Here is a link....



Good Luck!

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sorry here is the link...


http://www.plannedparenthood.org/mid...counseling.htm

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Hey girls
Thanks for the insight.
There is a planned parenthood in my city-however, I don't have a car and since I am not familiar with the area it is in, I do not want to take the bus.
My appt. for the doctor is next Wednsday, so I will just wait it out. Still no AF, and still no positive tests. I'll keep u guys updated.

Sorry seems like I'm late for this topic seeing as how you will get results tomorrow. I agree with everyone here though. You are not obligated to stay w/father. If your not in a committed relationship already with the man now then don't force it. Good luck can't wait to see what the results are.

P.S. I missed a period before and wasn't pg, however I only had cramping

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Hey gals
Well, my doctor said I am not Pg, he said that I probably didn't ovulate in Augest which was why I didn't get AF in September. I didn't even know a person could go w/o ovulating. But he checked me out and everything is fine, but if I don't get AF again this month they are going to run some tests and give me medicine to help me start. Not that I miss her, I was just kind of worried about her not coming, but the doctor said it doesn't hurt a woman not to have a period.
Anyways, thankz for all the support and the words of advice. It was much appreciated.

I'm glad that things worked out for you.

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Mom to Maggie (March 23, 1993)
Ricky (October 1, 1994)
and Laci (March 21, 2008)

My big girl in her Britax Boulevard:

If your glad then I'm glad...let us know if you ever need more advise. Best of luck in the future.

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