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I'm a single mom by choice (no father, no babydaddy, no hassles; I conceived via at-home artificial insemination) with my bean and have been a single mama to my teens since I found out their father was a crack addict when they were five and two years old.
I have my share of sadness about not being able to be a SAHM and sometimes not having a partner does get lonely, but it usually only takes a bit of chatting with a married mama to realize that the grass isn't really greener.
I'm due in February. Was your little one born in July?
I just found this one, I have been posting on the DIA 08 board.
I am not single by choice but that I havent found the right man for me, I have kind of given that up.
I have been trying for 4 years by doing IUIs, My 2nd try in 04 ended with a MC at 7 1/2 weeks and then no sucesse the next few years. I could only afford 2 or 3 trys a year. I got luck this year on try #3 and I am due April 8th.
I am still sick to my stomach all day so I am happy with that and I feel like crud most of the time and I could sleep all day too.
I'm married. But I give you guys all so much love. My best friend is a single mom of a year old baby. He ex is a crack head and cheated on her so many times. once when she was 5 or 6 months pg. I hope you all keep up the good work and keep putting the babies and kids first.
Many kudos to your friend, nicksgirl, for having the courage to get herself and her baby out of the situation I was in when my teens were tots. I know it wasn't easy.
Codedriver, congratulations! My ms let up around 10 weeks with this little one. I fully expected this pregnancy to be difficult because of my age (I'm 42 and my second-youngest is fifteen years old) but so far it has been amazingly easy and healthy.
Congrats to you all. Yes I had my little one on the 4th of July He came early. In a nut shell the guy I was seeing for a year (nothing serious) abandoned us. Allegedly he got another girl pg and she was due before me(he hardly knew her but chose her over me go fig). Baby daddy and I haven't spoken since December of last year. I am a single mom (before getting pg again) to a 12 year boy and now a 2 month old boy. Now I have my two boys and no man to show for it.
P.S. I already filed for child support so we shall see what happens. Keep your fingers crossed he co-operates.
hi ladies.. im here killiangirl ur boys are dolls!
ive been checking up in here off and on and im not sure anyone knows much about me..
im holly, 23 yr and im graduating college next month. single mom by choice but my son's dad, luckily, is very involved. i remember the last child support discussion- glad u filed killiangirl!
OMG Kaeden is soo cute! I'm glad I finally got to see a pic of him. I miss the cuddly newborn phase ( Julian's in the crib screaming his head off right now cuz he doesn't wanna go to be lol!) I love my lil man though!
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25 Loving Mommy to Julian Malachi
Hello ladies, I am a SMBC, though I did not start off as one. I have a four year old, who's other half of her biology did not want any part of. He pays child support but wants nothing to do with her. He has never seen, heard or had any contact with her at all. So, she's mine...all mine.
I have two sisters and we are very close. I wanted my daughter to have the same kind of happiness that I did growing up (my mother was also a single mother) so I did AI, and did it work. Whenever I would ask my daughter if she wanted a brother a or a sister, she would say...yes brother, yes sister, yes please. Soon she will have both.
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Twins: Boy: Alec Nathanael and a Girl: Avry Michelle
No he did not, we had to get paternity test done, in which wrote that did not feel he should have to pay for, because he did not know if I was sleeping with anybody else. How sweet of him, to put that in writing on the parent plan, after he received his you are 99.7% half of her DNA. It took a while to get payments, but so far they are sent on a monthly basis. Hope this helps.
When she was born I did not put him on the birth certificate, later, the state put his name on it. However on my copy he is not there.
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Twins: Boy: Alec Nathanael and a Girl: Avry Michelle
Hon, there are millions of single moms out there, some by choice, some by circumstance.
Here's my question for any body who knows the answer...why don't they do episodes on TLC or Discovery Health that feature single moms. I have NEVER seen one show that decorated a babies room, show the first 48 hours, and I want to know why, there are shows on gay parents both men and women, but not on SMBC.
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Twins: Boy: Alec Nathanael and a Girl: Avry Michelle
great question haras. most of the people i know in real life who have children are single moms. so i dont get it. maybe they think if they sweep it under the rug it will go away. im surprised there is still such a stigma with a single mom. a woman on my did06 board said someting along the lines of, "your boyfriend got your pregnant and then dumped you" which is the complete opposite of what happened. so i guess people just assume such a negative picture.
The stigma kind of surprises me too. I never made any big secret out of TTC and a lot of people pretended to be supportive, but I think they probably thought I wouldn't ever actually conceive and were trying to be nice to the pathetic old lady who couldn't accept the fact that her kids were growing up and she was too ugly to attract a partner.
I waited until 12 weeks to tell people and was shocked at the lack of sincere, ubnconditional "Congratulations!" that married people get no matter how unexpected their pregnancies may be and how unprepared they may be for a new baby. One woman (Who KNEW I was TTC as a SMC) said that she hoped I had a reliable, stable partner who would stick around and then shook her head, looked sad, and refused to talk about it any more.
At least it's better than when I became unexpectedly pregnant in my 20s and a friend said I didn't DESERVE a baby and that she wasn't driving me to the clinic or loaning me any money for the abortion so I'd just have to get "whoever it was that knocked you up" to do it.
My mother kind of shocked me by responding to the news that dd was in a stable heterosexual relationship with, "Just make sure she doesn't get pregnant and ruin her life the way you and I did."
HUH? She and I both made some mistakes. We both got unexpectedly pregnant, both lost much loved children, both wanted families so bad that we married men we didn't know very well, and both wound up in abusive relationships. It was the marriages that ruined our lives, not the children. I'm sorry she feels that way, but I definitely DO NOT and have made a point of telling dd just how much I love her an assuring her that I have no regrets about her existence.
As far as why the tevee shows and popular novels never portray functional single parent families and continue to enforce the stereotype of the "slut who couldn't keep her pants on and ruined her life when she got knocked up", think about who that stereotype benefits.
The real life single parents I know, even the ones who have had difficult lives because of completely unexpected pregnancies, all love their children very much and feel that their lives are far better of now that they have little ones. It's actually fairly common for immature "party girls" whose lives are going nowhere to be able to turn things around and go back to school, get good jobs and succeed in them, successfully leave abusive partners, etc. for their kids when they couldn't do it for themselves.
As women, many of us would do anything for our children. When we believe that the best thing for our children, or the only way we can give them decent lives, is to stay with abusers, we find ways to do it. Many of us are downright heroic. Most of us believe the stereotype enough to be afraid of becoming it.
SMC4#3...I NEVER want to hear you put your self down like that again...
"I think they probably thought I wouldn't ever actually conceive and were trying to be nice to the pathetic old lady who couldn't accept the fact that her kids were growing up and she was too ugly to attract a partner."
All forms of life has meaning...I don't know who told you that you are ugly, but beauty is in the eye of the be holder...you should rethink who is beholding yours. If we ours dont believe that were are beautiful and worthy and esp in our selves...then we will believe anything that others tells...esp in the negative.
Sorry, I just HATE it when someone puts their selves down. I pretty much try to believe in everyone.
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Twins: Boy: Alec Nathanael and a Girl: Avry Michelle
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killiangirl ur boys are dolls! 
