First of all just to let you all I am kinda confused but not stupid (I actually think its just my heart that a lil confused)

I came home last night and had 3 messages from Nuke trying to get in touch with me. I had seen him earlier while I was downtown with Kaaliyah (I had went to domestics to file for CS) which I didnt tell him at the time. (must have slipped my mind LOL) so I called him back and here he goes "I love you please wait for me" HUH what the hell are you talking about???? Just to refresh/catch everyone up Nuke is with someone and they have a 4 month old baby together (We were already together when he found out she was prego, shortly after I found out I was prego we broke up and he went back to her) So I told him I would never be with him again and he jus kept sayin he loved me. I told him he was drunk and not to call me back.

Well when I talked to him today I told him to apologize and he said he needed to talk in person, (I told him about CS and he wasnt mad) so he came over and was just playing with Kaaliyah (which she was LOVING him for some reason she was smiling and cooing like crazy, it made me kinda mad like I take care or you, and you dont talk to me that much LOL) But anyways finally I was like what did you need to talk about?? He said it was not the right time. Well when he was bout to leave he told me he loved me and I was like yeah right. Well he went into a whole thing about how hw has been frontin and lying to himself and how he wants to be a part of me and kaaliyahs life and how he wants to take care of us and whatnot. But also Does not want to hurt Lashae (his GF) I told him Im not second to anyone and me and Kaaliyah deserve better. He said it wont be forever that he would be with her.

I told him he is one of the most confused people I know...I hate when he does things like that because I do still love him BUT know me and Kaaliyah dont deserve that, he told me to sleep on it. Im confused (my hearts confused) But I know whats right....I THINK!

Thanks ladies sorry its so long I needed to vent!!!!!!!

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It must be contagious or something. I've had my own situation lately with the father of my baby. It's amazing to me how they can do the ultimate wrong and then just show up one day like all is well and "the still love you". My BD (lol) Has been leaving " Hey baby, I love you" messages on my voicemail lately. And I'm like , HUH? R U kidding?! I mean, I see absolutely no reason why he and I cannot get along well because we do have the common bond of this child. But just because we can be in the same room, laugh together and have a good time, does not mean that I want to be with him. It's hard because I do care about him as a person, and want nothing more than for him to become a better man, but God has shown me that he is not right for me and I have accepted that. It is almost like he sees this in black and white, either we can be together and get along great, or we have to be apart and hate each other. And I think that is an immature way to look at things. I applaud you on doing what you have to do for Kaaliyah. CS, if he isn't willing to provide for her on his own, is what she deserves. And I pray for God to give you a clear mind n this situation, because I know from experience that when love is involved it can mess with your mind and better judgement. In light of everything I hope that you can forgive him, because forgiveness is the only way you can move on without a heavy heart. But that does NOT mean that u have to be with him. And he seems so confused, that maybe he just needs to be by himself anyways. Neither of his children, or their mothers deserve a man like him. God Bless

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Melanie
25 Loving Mommy to Julian Malachi

I agree. He can't go back and forth between the two of you when it's convenient to him. It will only hurt you in the end. If he is no longer with her and you choose to give it another try then that is different but to be honest I wouldn't know how to get past the lies and cheating myself. Be strong and we are here for you should you have a moment of weakness

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Hey Kristen! I can relate to part of your situation. O's Dad doesn't really care that he's not a part of her life BUT he does call every now and then, leaving voicemails on my cell abou how much he misses me and that he wants to be with me...blah blah blah. I never return calls though cause as soon as I do, the "door", to what once was our relationship, re-opens and complicates everything.
Having Nuke come in and out of your life is hard not only on Kaaliyah but also yourself. He's tugging at your heart strings and making your life more complicated than it needs to be. Ultimatly it's your decison and the outcome is how you choose it. I want to send my love and thoughts to you and Kaaliyah though. Keep your chin up and don't let thingsl ike this get you down .
Myself, Melanie and Killiangirl are here for you anytime you need people to vent to who understand your situation.

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