MAYbe we should start a new CHAT THREAD...

[OverAnalyzer]

So I am.



I bought a new car yesterday. BRAND new. 09 and everything! LOL It is a Toyota Matrix. Shiny red. Hopefully less of a gas sucker than the Avalon we traded off. Sigh.

What is new with you ladies?

Joey is testing my patience like NOBODY'S BUSINESS this week. He is so SASSY and defiant. I mean...DEFIANT. Argh. How long does this stage last? He is tantrum-king. Very frustrating. Especially at bed time.

[heavensabove]

It just gets better and better
Ooooo, need pics of the new car!!!!!!

Sometime soon I need van, lol. Sienna or a Odyssey. Im going to miss my baby....err....car. I think Im gonna cry when I have to let go and say goodbye. My first ever brand new car, straight out of the factory, with 0 miles, and all I wanted in it (loaded). Got it in 2001, when I was 21.

[OverAnalyzer]

Originally Posted by heavensabove

It just gets better and better
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I'm gonna shoot myself. I can HEAR the sarcasm.



LOL

I love him to death. But I'm starting to understand the fine line between love and hate. OMG. OMG. He has taken to taking my nipple between his teeth and SMILING at me in an ornery way. He isn't HURTING me. He is toying with me. And it makes me so MAD. So I un'latch' him and cover up and say No nursing if you are going to hurt mommy and he either A. BAWLS like no tomorrow or B. laughs and smacks at me and tries to get back up my shirt.

HOLY CRAP -- yeah, you know I never had a plan for nursing, but sometimes I wonder how I am ever going to wean this child. I am not ready 99% of the time, but I do get frazzled. (Although -- the frazzle doesn't just surround nursing....he is generally testing me in pretty much every department....)

On a positive note......we are transitioning him to his own full-size bed on the floor in our bedroom. Last night he slept on it from 10:30-2:30 before he woke up crying. He actually woke up and settled himself back down a few times before that as well, but he didn't need me. This was after an up-down-up-down bed time (starting around 7:30) where he slept in his bed for 90 minutes then woke up scared, I nursed him down and he slept on my lap while I watched House (naughty, I know) but I viewed it as progress. (The 4 hours w/o a child in my bed, that is!) I truly believe he will get better at re-settling w/o having boobie access all night long. Tonight, he went down at 8:30 and has been sleeping in his bed since then (nursed to sleep then laid down).

So...........2 weeks is your prediction? Hmmmmm. I think we need a poll. Or prediction thread.

I'll post a pic of the car in a little bit. I love it. It is brand new as well -- 18 miles when we drove it off the lot. And we put half of those on it test-driving it. I vote for the Odessey. (sp?) I have ridden in one and it is super comfy!!!!!!!

[heavensabove]

Why think that for myself.....
Out of curiosity, I checked myself to see how low the head is, and well lets say I did not have to go far at all. Practically right there...EEK!!!! I won't have to go far and hard pushing when its time. Now Im more freaked out about not making it to the hospital when it is time and its only 3-5 min away. Guess Ill have to see what the dr says about all of his.

[heavensabove]

And then the more detailed..... (C&P from my DI board)
The babys head is EXTREMELY low (bad pressure from it, including rectal area). Been having constant B&H that gets crampy (AF cramps) in the evenings (owie). Sometimes timable (had a 3 hour one awhile back that I think started all of this) but I never really have regular/timeable contractions until its too late. My low back kills. Loosing pieces of MP too. Been feeling really nauseous and well emptying out lately. Only thing I don't have going on is spotting or show, which is good good good.

[OverAnalyzer]

yikes. Girl, you are only 35 weeks!!!!! Settle down baby. Stay put a couple more weeks. 37 weeks or later. 37 weeks! I am a little worried about you going fast this time too.

[LilLoveBug]

Ok, I made my prediction. Your little one seems ready to make an arrival. Stay in there... 2 or 3 more weeks would be good!

Lisa, I hear you on the baby attached to the boobie all night long. Alyssa doesn't even open her eyes... just feels around and will moan if she can't find what she's looking for at night.

So, I'm officially going back to work on May 1st. I've been bawling all week about the thought of it. And it's not like I'm going to be in every day. I have to go in for 1/2 hour on Friday, and we have an annual all-day meeting next week. Other than that, it's just prepping for fall classes. I'll go in for maybe one or two half days a week. My mom will watch Alyssa. So, it's hardly like everyone else who has to go back to work, but it's the principle. I don't want to have to leave her. And it all went too fast. My baby's growing up.

My mom wants me to wean her. She thinks it'll be easier on everyone, but, mostly, I think she's really looking forward to having Alyssa be able to stay with her overnight. I tried this week to give her less boobie. Not too bad during the day, but even then I gave in. I'm not ready. And I know Alyssa loves the close time. At night, when she wakes up, she likes just a quick sip. And in the morning, nothing else will do. So, I don't know yet... maybe we'll wean... maybe we'll wait until the end of this year. No real plan. Just going to see how it goes. I just don't want it to be too hard on her when I am away at work, and suddenly no mommy, no milk. Plus, judging by my scale, she isn't gaining weight fast enough anymore. She's losing her baby folds too. So, maybe it is time to wean. I'm just not ready yet, but maybe she is.

I'm thinking of bringing her crib into my room to see if I can get her to sleep there for most of the night. I agree, Lisa, that she might settle herself if she doesn't have "access." See how it goes, I guess.

Sigh... she's eight months already. I just can't believe it.

Ok, I'm rambling... back later when my brain can form complete thoughts. Hmm.. that might be a while! Maybe I'll come back sooner to do some more whining and rambling.

[OverAnalyzer]

LOL here are some incomplete thoughts of my own....

the decreased weight gain doesn't mean 'wean' FWIW....it may mean she is getting more active. Joey lost a lot of his chub (not all of it LOL) when he started crawling/pulling up. She is about at that stage. Don't let grandma pressure you if you are not ready. (But then again, don't let me pressure you if you are!) I truly don't think Joey is ready to wean right now. And I *neva* *neva* *neva* would have thought I'd be in this position back in 06 when I was posting on my DI board about whether or not I thought I might breastfeed. But I'll tell you what....it is such a useful tool. And it is good for them. You know all that. The immunities and the other benefits of breastmilk just don't compare to anything science has tried to come up with. (IMHO) As a mommy who had to go back to work, I know what you're talking about....but I will tell you that J manages just fine w/o me during the day. At night is a little different, and it varies depending on the situation. He was at our sitter until 11:30 Saturday night. Put himself to sleep on their couch. So....she will manage. (This is the child who has never gone down w/o a boob or back patting at home).....ahem. He lays down on the floor at daycare and takes his nap. And grandma will find some other way to comfort her. I'd say you'll want the BF'ing closeness while you are making the transition to returning to work. But again....JMHO....you gotta do what you gotta do. (Jesus, when did I become such a lactivist? LOL)

[OverAnalyzer]

ps what is she eating for solids? if you are worried about weight, what about trying some fattier/denser food there? Avacados, etc....

[LilLoveBug]

Lol... I appreciate all your advice!!!!

Before I had her, I thought, for sure, I'd be ready to wean by 6 months... but I'm not.

I'm not sure exactly how much she weighs. Her next appt isn't for another 6 weeks. I'm just guessing by my scale, weighing myself, then both of us. She just looks skinnier, and she was never that rolypoly to begin with. But she is active. She never stops moving. even sitting/lying down, he feet are constantly kicking.

She's never tried avocado. Mostly she eats very low-cal stuff - apples, pears, peaches, carrots, corn, some beef and chicken when I have it (but very small amounts). So, you're right, I have to try to get her to eat more calorie-dense foods.

[tai]

My mom wants me to wean her. She thinks it'll be easier on everyone, but, mostly, I think she's really looking forward to having Alyssa be able to stay with her overnight. .......Before I had her, I thought, for sure, I'd be ready to wean by 6 months... but I'm not.

we have 2 weddings coming up and my mil is pushong for me to stop pumping and wean bethany! so freaken selfish! she thinks we just need to leave bethany with her...my baby is still way to young for that imo....one wedding is in el paso and the other IL. the IL one is my dad...how do you think my family would feel if i didnt bring bethany?

i keep saying im going to wean at 6 months...im half way there and im starting to rethink it....


i say keep doing what your doing momma!

rachel.....i think your lil one wants to give you the best mothers day gift of them all! KUP!

oh and goey be nice to mommy!

[OverAnalyzer]

you know...you are a skinny girl too. no reason to expect her to be 'roly poly'. and i'd definitely try at least some of the good fats (avacado is what keeps coming to mind right now, but there are others. but joey really loves guacamole!) anyway, all I am saying is that you are not doing anything to hurt her weight gain by breastfeeding. From her diet, I'd say you better keep it up b/c that sounds like her main source of fat/calories/nutrition. And that is appropriate -- BM or formula should be the main source of nutrition until 1, IIRC. Have you tried beans or peas? Like legumes. Good fiber and protein. Whole grain spaghetti? (Fun and messy!) Joey actually really likes rotini noodles the best, and they are less messy than reg. spaghetti. Anyway...you are doing great.

alright i am off to get an allergy shot and then to work. i've been dawdling here waiting for my dr to open. not excited about it as last week i ended up with an epi shot and a dose of benadryl. EEEEEEK.

[OverAnalyzer]

i had to pop back on to respond to your post Michelle...........ITA, that is BS for someone to push you to wean at 2 1/2 months! Holy crap. First of all you have worked so hard at it and she is so tiny yet! WTH? My mom is pressuring my sister to wean for the same reason. Of course, her son is 21 months. But in all seriousness..........it is YOUR business. (Weaning or not!) Ack. That just makes me mad! My MIL hasn't even tried that yet and she is CRAZY. She does tell us we can send Joey to her in the mail for a week 'anytime'. LOL Weirdo.

Now I'm REALLY leaving. Really.

[OverAnalyzer]

PS I said six weeks when I started. Then six months. Then a year. Now I am saying 'done by 2' (which I will be b/c if I ever want another child......well, you know....) But I am just saying that the whole BF'ing thing is curious, and once we got it figured out, the hard work was done. I didn't see a reason to stop at six months. It just didn't make sense for us. I know, I know. I've become some crazy neurotic lactivist over here. But I have sort of evolved into this person over the last 18 months. Who knew I was so crunchy underneath it all?

[heavensabove]

As expected it was a long night. Carson whined for 2 straight hours because of his drainy nose, ugh. And of course ll he wans is dh. So yes, Carsons cold got worse. He is a HUGE whiney baby, OMG. He is AWEFUL. Worse than men when they are sick. Hope his sicky whines get better as he grows.
He's starting to wheeze/work hard breathing and is coughing up a storm so he is having a breathing treatment right now. He wants to do it himself...no help.

Nice day...highs in the lower 60's. Sunny start but I guess clouds and rain is coming later. And guess what???? More wet snow for this weekend. Yes in MAY of all months.

[heavensabove]

Danielle-Isaac was 5 hours and Carson was 2.5 hours.

[tai]

i hope he starts feeling well soon!

Now I'm REALLY leaving. Really

i see your lil green light is on lol you cant leave can you!

[OverAnalyzer]

Originally Posted by tai

i hope he starts feeling well soon!

i see your lil green light is on lol you cant leave can you!

LOL I was really gone by then, I swear.
Even my computer is addicted to SK.

[tai]

rachel how are you hon? i hope that baby is staying put!

[bubbly_1]

where have I been? This thread is already going lol

I went to a photog seminar last night in KC. Didn't stay the night just a "quickie" up and back. I really enjoyed it, so glad I went!

Lisa~ wow and 09 you must be makin the big bucks now Can we see a picture?
If you figure out the weaning, let us know! My friend's 11 mo (S and her are 17 days apart) will not take a bottle and does not want to wean. She will drink water out of a sippy, but not formula.


Rachel~ we just got a 2002 odyssey 6 wks ago and LOVE it!! The back seat folds down even with the floor, the "trunk" is sunken so the groceries don't "creep" under the seats. Both sliding door have automatic sliding (which is great when carrying lots of things + baby.


Don't let them talk you into weaning if it's not what you & baby want. I weaned at 8 months because the night feedings I just couldn't deal with anymore. My hips were aching too much to even be on my sides for 20 mins (they still ache). Plus my milk was disappearing. You have to do what's best for the two of you not what others say. Ppl always have "advice" and have to get their 2-cents in.