My mom-in-law calls the house. I didn't answer, was with Lil Soe. I called her back and she answers with an attittude. Her first words to me were, "You know-you are ruining your marriage". I was so beyond myself. I basically told her to go F herself. She was referring to the pregnancy. I called William, he was out picking up desserts for our Mother's Day afternoon lunch we will be having. He told me he called to tell his mother we were pregnant since he was excited and thought it was a nice way to share my 1st Mother's Day. He said she acted (key word acted) thrilled. He called her up and tore her a new one, but now she has decided she will not come to our house for the lunch party. I really did not intend on telling anyone about this till atleast 12-13 weeks. I am so upset. The set on her!! I can not believe the nerve she had to say that stuff.

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I'm soooo sorry she ruined such a special moment for you. Anytime I kept talking about being pregnant to my MIL, she kept saying things like, my son never wanted kids, like I tricked him into it or something. DH set her striaght and I finally talked to her last night. She apologized! I hope your MIL comes around. Regardless, enjoy your Mother's Day!!!

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Wow. That's pretty freakin' ballsy of her to say something like that to you, aside from the fact it isn't any of her business--who wouldn't be thrilled to have another grandchild?

I'm sorry she ruined your day. I don't blame you one bit for telling her to go F herself. Give me her number. I'll call her & tell her that too!

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~Julie~

Me 33, Dh Jimmy 41, married 4 years
Ds Jack 2, Born November 19, 2005
Baby Bean Due January 5, 2009

Well and just to let you know that all MILs are slightly insane, let me tell you this one: My DH was raised by his grandparents. His mom was a little well, unfit shall we say, so they took him & his sister from her when they were little kids. So my MIL is really my Dh's grandmother.

So when we were TTC our son, I told her that we were trying for a baby. She said, "Oh honey. I wish you wouldn't do that. We're too old to be raising anymore kids." Like I was having kids & would be unfit myself? O-K, whatever woman.

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~Julie~

Me 33, Dh Jimmy 41, married 4 years
Ds Jack 2, Born November 19, 2005
Baby Bean Due January 5, 2009

I am so sorry you had to hear that, especially on Mother's Day. Don' t put up with her! I think you did the right thing by telling her what you thought of her comment. With my ex, I put up with all sorts of nastiness from his mom, when we got divorced I was happy to get rid of her.

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What a witch with a capital B. I can't believe she could have the nerve to say that to you. You're a better woman than I, I would try and strangle her through the phone if not go to her home and slap her for the heck of it regardless of where she lived. Some things are uncalled for and some people really need to learn just when to keep their mouth shut.

The good news is, none of it concerns her, so try not to let it make you feel miserable. It's definitely not the start to Mother's Day that you wanted. But really, if that's the way that she wants to act, then her opinion obviously doesn't matter!

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But I'm a princess daddy!

I'm sorry you have to deal with that.
Just try to keep in mind that she is obviously not a very good person, and opinions of stupid people shouldnt concern us
It's good that d/h is on the same side as you, that makes a world of difference.

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aww poor thing! i had the same thing happen my mom refuses to speak to me and i told her about a week ago.. it wil get better all that matter is what you and your man think and feel.. and if she feels that way then dont let her have a say in.. just ignore and push her out... this is your life.. if your thrilled then be thrilled

IM THRILLED! for you... happy mom day

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Julie's right - all MILs are slightly cooky . But, yours needs to be put in her place. Good for you for telling her off! How, it's your DH's turn.

Any issues I have with my MIL I sic DH on her. He won't hesitate to tell her she's wrong and to mind her own f****g business. She's a good woman and not a bad MIL in general, but she has some depression issues that creep in a make her say cooky things that she wouldn't normally say. I can fight with her all day long, but she backs down to DH, and I think it's because she realizes that he will always be on my side, even if I'm wrong.

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I'm so sorry for all of us! It sounds like we all have crazy MIL's When we got pg with K, DH refused to tell her and she found out through the grapevine. She has always hoped we would get divorced and was certain we should not have children together. She told me that the sight of my prenant body "repulsed" her and she refused to come to my shower or even visit K until she was 3 months old. She has seen her 8 times her entire life.

This time we sent her a card with the news for mother's day. Her response was "Don't get excited, 50% of pregnancies end before 12 weeks. Did I mention she's an OB nurse? Anyways, I try to take it all with a grain of salt because she will die someday a bitter old woman, all alone since she pushed everyone away and I have a wonderfull husband who loves and supports me. Did I mention "2" lovely little children too!

What can we really say? They raised some wonderfull men!

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wow!
Reading your posts makes me very thankful for my in-laws.
They treat me just as kindly or more so than my own mum.
They were SO desperately wanting to be grandparents that they paid for half of my tubal reversal surgery so that I could have a child with their son. They will be so thrilled when they find out about the newest addition. We just arent telling them until we are a bit further along due to the m/c possibility.
My ex mil was a different story.
Her son (my ex) was a nightmare, yet she defended him to every extend and blamed the break up on me.. she said nasty things to the children about me (the children i had with her son before i got my tubes tied)
I know MIL can be awful... mom's in general can be. Just because they were able to give birth doesnt make them miraculously wonderful loving people... sometimes you look at these women and wonder how the heck they can stand themselves!

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That is so rude and inconsiderate! I'm a blunt person so I would have told her where to go and how quick to get there. Ugh she has some nerve. My MIL does not know yet...heck I haven't even told my mom yet. I'm just trying to wrap my mind around it myself and as soon as I do that I will let family know. **HUGS**

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A little update,

MIL came to our house and informed our whole family, 25 people at lunch I was pregnant!
I am pissed off.

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WTF, that's just rude and inconsiderate. I am furtunate that my mother in law was nothing like that, unfortunately she passed away a year before DH and I were married (though she knew we were planning on it, we had just bought our house together and had been together for 4 years). She was always beggning us to get marrie dnad have babies and get this, move in w/ her. We sometimes regret that we waited but we got pregnant w/ Mj a few months after she passed so we kind of always thought it was ehr way of coming back to us. ANYHOW, sorry your MIL is so rude, I mean why can't people keep their opinions to themselves. I mean here we are expecting our 3rd under what some people don't consider the best circumstances, (even my mom had just been lecturing me jsut before I told her abuot the pregnancy, she was saying I know you want more but you have your boy and girl and you should really just be happy with them) but when I told her she was happy and supportive even though she didn't agree. I guess I am lucky, (and thankful). Your DH will just need to have another talk w/ her obviously!

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I am soooo sorry you had to deal with that!! What a B......... anyways...I am starting to think it's a MIL thing (well, the MIL for the guy anyways!). My MIL told my husband that because we weren't married in a catholic church we were sinning and that he could just walk away because it wasn't really a marriage. Then she followed by sending me a spreadsheet of all the expenses that her husband and her had paid for in terms of him..expecting me to pay her back for it!! Are you serious!! So...you are NOT alone in the MIL from hell..and feel free to rant to us..I think we all can relate!!!

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