Finally here....my Aunt passed away....

skysmama · #1 (**permalink**) 07-23-2008, 10:37 AM

We are finally here at My Mom's and getting settled in. This will be our last "vacation" before Scotty is here! I can't believe it is getting to the time where I am not "allowed" to travel! This pregnancy has flown by! With my other two, it seemed to go so slowly....must be because we have a 1 year old!

We were planning on coming in last night, but actually had to leave on Monday as my Aunt passed away unexpectedly. She was ill, and 70, but it never seems to be expected, I guess. She was my Mom's elder sister by 12 years, and there is alot of family strained relationships, so she is nervous to go today. Mom had actually only spoken to her once in the past 5 years, and that was this past Christmas, so she feels she got to really mend some fences before her sister passed away which was just amazing. They don't have much family on that side - and my Mom ended up having to pay for the cremation, make all the arraingments and I wrote the obituary. They have a small town newspaper that wanted $70 for just a few lines. I thought all towns put in an obit for free - but not this one. Our little town does, and so does my Mom's. She told them forget it and put it in one town over (where my aunt lived at the time she died anyway) and it was free. They do have paid one's, but they are always really long and have pictures, etc. This was just a simple one and no pic's. It was $1,500 for cremation, and $450 to place her urn next to my Grandma's grave.

Anyway! It made it a bit harder for us as I wasn't planning on coming so soon, and we are going to be away from our home for 3 weeks so I had to scramble to get the house-sitter informed, etc. and get everything packed and I had a WIC appointment in a town the totally opposite direction (of course) Monday morning. Summer does terrible in the car (where are all these kids who sleep in the car? I've never had one!). We finally pulled over in a little town - followed the direction's to their city park and I literally spread a quilt out and laid down on the ground with her for almost an hour. We all needed it! I didn't care how fat I looked spread out there for all to see - LOL. I am turning into such a whale - it has been hard not to diet, though I know this isn't the time to do so. I see the numbers rising on the scale and I just start freaking out. I went from gaining nothing to 4 pounds in June and now almost 5 pounds in July. Ack!

My Mom should be back on Thursday night or Friday morning and then we are going to his Dad's for a few days and then back here. My Mom has the next 2 weeks off for vacation so it should be fun. She got tickets to go and see the Dark Knight with our 13 year old at the Imax theater in Spokane so they will have fun. We are going to stay in a hotel over there for about 3 days and go to the amusement park (Silverwood) and DS's girlfriend and her Mom are going to meet us that day. I also got my 3D u/s rescheduled for August 7 so that my Mom can go with me. She has never been to an u/s before so she is looking forward to it. I have been having to go to all mine alone as they won't let DD in and she won't stay with anyone besides DH or me so they always wait in the waiting room. This should be my last u/s in Spokane, Thank God.

After the u/s on 8/7 I have to start the stress tests and u/s every two weeks and then the last 4 weeks I go in twice a week for u/s. Anyone else have this many? I don't know why they watch me so closely. Must be the diabetes and age thing. I get tired of going 30 miles twice a week that close to delivery. I'm not looking forward to doing it again. I did have low fluid once with Summer though and they thought they were going to have to deliver me early. Thank God they were able to get my fluid level up.

So that is what happened to me the past couple of days! I'm glad to "be back" and able to check in here at Mom's. I thought about this board a lot! We packed the laptop on Sunday night so I didn't have access on Monday at all.....

I've been doing some shopping for my secret sister - that has been alot of fun and kept my mind off of things. I plan to mail mine out the end of next week (Aug. 1st). I found the cutest little thing - had to buy one for Scotty too. *smile*

Hugs,

Melissa

BeckyJ · #2 (**permalink**) 07-23-2008, 11:07 AM

Wow! Wishing you as much relaxation as possible!!! Glad to hear from ya! Funny--Terran does sleep some in the car, but it's not an automatic--I think you're the 1st person NOT to say their kid sleeps in the car the entire time!!!

Hope all goes well and look forward to updates!!

skysmama · #3 (**permalink**) 07-23-2008, 02:39 PM

Thanks Becky! I was thinking of you the past couple of days! I've always heard everyone say how their kids sleep in the car and mine just won't. I don't know what it is! I saw a "bringing home baby" the other day where the toddler son wouldn't go to sleep and the dad put him in the car to drive around the block because he always falls asleep in the car, and I thought - "must be nice!". We were on the road for 5 hours, and she did sleep for almost 40 minutes, so we were excited. Last time she was awake for both trips - there and back, and screamed for the last hour on the way home - not fun for anyone! She wants out of her car seat, and that isn't possible so we try everything to make her happy. Skyler really hated car rides too as a baby. At that time we were only 1 1/2 hours from family, and lived in the same town as my parents so it wasn't as bad as it is now.

Whew! I went on a little here! It is nice to hear from someone whose kids don't fall asleep in the car immediately either! I thought my kids were a little strange or that we were definitely doing something wrong!

Hugs,

Melissa

PTCmom · #4 (**permalink**) 07-23-2008, 05:27 PM

My eldest loved the car, but Kieran HATED it. Screamed the entire time he was in the car until he was one and we turned the car seat around. He's still not crazy about it.

myrmom · #5 (**permalink**) 07-23-2008, 06:03 PM

glad to hear you made it safe and sound...sorry Summer didn't do well in the car that is never fun. I hope you have a wonderful holiday!!

I was like that with u/s with my last two...and it drove me batty and I felt it was highly unnecessary...one of the reasons I refused to be tested for gd...didn't want the lable and all that went with it this time....I will monitor my sugars at home same as last time....if there is a cause for concern I will let my mw know.

staceymp · #6 (**permalink**) 07-23-2008, 06:19 PM

hugs. im so sorry

MBD · #7 (**permalink**) 07-23-2008, 07:19 PM

Sorry to hear about your aunt. It sounds like you have been having a rough few days. I hope things start to look up and settle down.

JaysMommy · #8 (**permalink**) 07-23-2008, 07:51 PM

I am so sorry :-(

skysmama · #9 (**permalink**) 07-24-2008, 05:42 PM

Thanks so much everyone! It is so nice to have somewhere to come to and talk things out a bit and know someone is there listening!

I appreciate it so much!

Big Hugs,

Melissa

skysmama · #10 (**permalink**) 07-24-2008, 05:48 PM

I was like that with u/s with my last two...and it drove me batty and I felt it was highly unnecessary...one of the reasons I refused to be tested for gd...didn't want the lable and all that went with it this time....I will monitor my sugars at home same as last time....if there is a cause for concern I will let my mw know.

Maggie - I am definitely refusing all testing for GD next time (if we find ourselves blessed again). I got into an argument with the perinatologist's receptionist because I didn't want to go and see the geneticist (had already seen her for my pregnancy with Summer), and then got sucked into a one hour meeting with their dietitian when I went in. I finally told them that I wouldn't come in and do the u/s if they wanted me to see the geneticist and low and behold it suddenly wasn't a requirement. I swear this office tries to milk every penny out of my insurance and give their staff a reason to exist. They actually wanted me to switch to Insulin injections (which would have required me to deliver at their office/hospital instead of in the town of my choosing with my doctor who is not an OB and our hospital doesn't have a neonatal nursery, etc.). My sugar's are fine - I test daily, and I'm careful with what I eat. Sheesh!

It is unbelievable how invasive some doctor's will try to get unless you practically throw a fit every time you see them - then they try to make me feel like a horrible patient/mother. I can't win!

Little rant - LOL.

Melissa