let me preface this by saying my own mother and my only sister (not to mention one single family member) will not discuss this w/ me let alone talk about it, "it" being: childbirth & everything that comes w/ it. shame, sad & such a missed opportunity i know, but there it is. soooooooo i need to know from you whom have good advice/ research. bc i'm freaking out a little:

A) how soon after the birth does the afterbirth happen (plancenta)? if you have an epi, do you feel this afterbirth?? is it like an actual labor all over again?

...did your husband witness this part of birth?

B) how badly can you tear (epitomsony -sic)?

C) how often do defecating accidents happen? should i ask for an enema or just deal w/ it if it happens?

D) how long after birth, will they allow you to breastfeed the baby? do they ask you or just bring the baby to you and expect you to do it?

....and what if you can't do it or are so freaked out you don't know how to?

E) if you had a mirror placed there to look at your delivery, did you look?

F) was your partner 'engaged' in your whole process? (i.e: did he cut the cord, help you breathe, watch you pushing, see the head coming out, etc, etc)? or did you partner almost pass out.

AGH, when OH when will i learn not to surf the internet at 3:30 in the morning when i can't sleep. i've managed to get myself so worked up, ugh!!! these are true & honest concerns and questions i have so plz be honest back. TIA!

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