This is a total selfish baby post. I jsut want to get it out and feel better for it.

I guess you could say i am a bit bummed. I remember the glory days of being preggers with #1 and all the gifts and things you needed you would go and register for and people would be so generous. I am a bit sad to see all the showers lately...not jsut on here. It is hard because there are some things i need and we just don't have the money to go and spend. To ask for anything too, is just too awkward in my eyes. So, i have my list of things i still need, but, i don't know what i can do to get it. They are stupid little things too, like butt balm, wipes, and a thermometer binkie....small things, but, how do you request those things without looking like a selfish person? What makes it worse is having an opposite sex. I have some generous friends who have given me hand-me-downs, which i suppose will be my gifts. I wanted to participate in the SS here, but, dh is such a mieser with money, i couldn't do it. I feel like this kiddo is getting the raw deal with no excitement, including from his own family. They are excited for a new baby, but, no at all like Leah.
And, gosh...i want some stinkin CAKE! Baby shower cake is so unbelievably awesome! i drool at the thought.
Sorry about my absentminded ramblings. I don't want to sound like a jerk, but i think it came across that way anyway!

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You don't sound like a jerk at all! I thought for sure I would't get a shower either. It turns out I am getting 2... I feel bad for having them though because I don't really need any little things- everything I need is high ticket items, and honestly a few of those things are wants.. and not needs. I know hand me downs aren't as great as new stuff- but since you are having a boy too- I have a TON of baby boy clothes that I will NEVER use all of... I would be happy to send some your way! Maybe somebody is throwing you a shower- and it is a secret?? Hint around to your family- mom or sister and see if they bite- there is still time to plan one!!
and IF I could send you some cake I would! Just go buy yourself one- and have it for dessert one night (and maybe for breakfast the next day!) :-)

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I sympathisze with how you feel, this is my 6th child and I have been surrounded by so drama lately that I feel this baby is getting the short shift. I need so much stuff, we haven't even begun to purchase anything for her due to money constraints. My youngest child was a boy and I gave away everything to my grandson when he was born, so I am starting over again. I am having a shower though, my BF and daughter are giving me one, against my DH feelings (he is from the Carribean and views showers as begging for gifts) because I want one. I believe in the end all will work out though so I will keep the faith for both you and I.

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Cathy

i wish there was a secret one...but really there won't be. My mil in in surgery as we speak for a total knee replacement. She is outta commission for at LEAST a month. My mom does NOT believe in 2nd showers and is kind enough to get me anything i ask for...but, i hate to ask my mom for stuff. I am not in any permanent job as a substitute, so i don't have a consistent group of people i see everyday. Thank you for the offer on the clothes!
Cake, it would be awesome just to get some. Maybe i will have to get me some! LOL!

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Definitely go buy yourself a cake. You deserve it!! I think it is tough when you are having a 2nd child of a different gender, and/or with more than a year or two between children because so many people figure you don't need anything when in reality you do! A friend of mine just had her 2nd child - a girl - and the 1st was a boy. Luckily they kept most things from their son, but they still need little girl things too. Nobody threw her a shower either, but I know several people bought gifts anyway. I would have offered to give her shower, but being pregnant with my first I just didn't have the time, energy, or money to do so. I did buy her a gift though.

Maybe you can hint around to friends and family about the things that you need and keep your fingers crossed that they will pick up on them and get them for you.

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Michelle
Married 10/6/07
Due with our first child 7/26/08





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Adria, I know exactly how you feel. I get all sad seeing people have showers on here because I know I am not getting one this time and I loved my first one. . I am ok with that but there are little things I would like that we have buy on our own and we are strapped for cash too. I also feel in a way that my little girl isn't getting welcomed like her brother did, only because she was born second. I kind of feel selfish thinking that way but I guess it is human.
I also feel like my in laws aren't very excited for this baby either. My FIL will ask how I am doing but my MIL hasn't really said anything to us. They also haven't offered to buy us anything for this baby like they did Jack, which I guess is ok if my family hadn't already pitched in to buy us some stuff. I feel like my in laws are upset that we are having a baby so soon after the first one. Oh well. What can you do.
I hear you on the cake! Maybe I will go buy one and eat it myself too. What a great idea.
Hang in there honey. I know exactly how you feel.

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I feel you...but this time it's baby # 3 for me.....there will be no shower...no cake (the thought of cake right now....I'd cut off a toe for it...)....if baby needs it, it will come from us....not from a babyshower...not from friends.....

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LillyAnna Marie~10-26-02
William Lloyd~11-06-03
Ethan Robert EDD 17-Jul-08

Okay I ran to the grocery store for lunch and wanted every cup cake I saw! So why don't you go get some cake or cup cakes for yourself!
What about your stimulus check? Maybe you and DH could go get all of the things, even if they are ordinary little things, you could go get them and have a little date going shopping for them.
I completely understand about the shower thing though. I am shocked I even got one and guess I need to stop complaining about mine.

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Brandie
Co-host DIJuly
Married to Christian
Mommie to Cristina


Expecting #2 - Braden Lee

I feel it a little bit too...
I am thinking we might have a welcoming the baby party though.
We have most of what we need thankfully...but it's the principle of this baby being as special as the 1st that gets me and I want to honor her with a party like Angelina had.

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Dude. Get $15 and go to the grocery store and pick out a cake for yourself. A nice one. Invite some friends over and just eat cake. Every baby deserves to be celebrated, and every pregnancy is a beautiful thing. Tell them "no gifts" and just get together.... some will bring gifts anyway

If you were closer I'd throw you a shower!

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I wish that we lived closer to each other. Then we could buy a cake and split it. I know what you mean. If it wasn't for the fact that my brother gave me some stuff back and that my mom has been buying tons of stuff. I would be in trouble.
With my first she had so much. This time most of the clothes are onsies.

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Dawn

I am sorry. I wish i could throw you a shower!!!

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Stacy
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Ryker June 28th, 2008

I know how you feel, I'm not having one either. This is going to sound awful but I don't think the ladies at work (at least in my small part of the office) like me very much so I'm not forseeing a work shower either. I'm not a bad person I swear, I just don't put up with their lazy crap.
Anyway, all this to say that I've been trying to spend a little out of each paycheck and hope to have it all bought by the time that he arrives. Dh and I have seperate accounts and he had a heart attach when I spent a whopping 50 bucks out of his account on cloth diapers last week. Seriously? If he knew how much money I've shelled out for Adan so far and plan to before he gets here he'd hush his mouth about that 50 bucks
As for the cake , I can't have any right now anyway but I'm going to get dh or my mom to get a welcome home baby cake for when we bring him home and we'll have our own little party.
Oh, and as far as requesting things the only people that I really feel comfortable suggesting things to are my mom and sister and I sent them both the link to the swing that I want w/the suggestion that they go in together for it. So, we'll see if that happens or not.

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Amy - mommy to Anna-Rebekah 12, Logan 11, Christian 6, Ethan 5 and Adan due July 23rd 2008.

I know exactly how you feel. I really thought my BFF would throw a party for me but nope. I think my sister and mom plan to do a party but not until after the baby is born.

BIG HUGS mama!

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I'm sorry. I thankfully my family feels the need to have a shower with each pregnancy no matter how many you have.

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