Friday is the big day!!!! I am so scared of the results of the u/s! I know it sounds crazy but I am scared to find out the gender because of what it could mean. I will explain my crazy thinking here:
I don't have such great luck with boys, I have had 3 m/c's and they were all male, and the one boy I did get to keep (Xander) was born with lots of heart defects and he is a miricle but a lot of heart ache and hard work (and expencive!)
My girls have been healthy and perfect! I have never had a problem being prego with my girls except the HG but they came out perfectly healthy and fine.

So my thoughts go like this: If they tell me I am having a boy I sit and wory about how the fetal echo goes next Tues and wory that after he is born there will be something wrong with him because of my luck with boys.
If they tell me I am having a girl I won't wory as much about the fetal echo on Tues and will feel more confident about having a healthy baby.

I know how it sounds but I am scared out of my mind!! Please pray that whatever the baby's gender it is healthy and please pray that we will know for sure what the gender is I really want to know!!!

Thanks for listening to my crazy ranting!

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Aww, you're not crazy and you don't sound bad. You have unfortunately experienced a lot of difficult outcomes with your sweet boys. The association is there...and understandable...but hopefully there's no truth to it. Of course, you could have a very healthy little guy...I'm sure you know that, too. No matter what, I'll be praying HEALTHY baby and peace of mind for you! <<<<<<<<<<<<OLV!!!>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Hang in there, mama!

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Carman,
So sorry you are having this kind of anxiety regarding gender, but from the history, it sounds as if you are justified in feeling that way. Could I ask if they determined if Xander's heart defects were genetically linked - male trait that could happen again in another male child or if it was completely a spontaneous defect that occured during development and not related to his genetic make-up at all? The reason I ask is that if there is no link genetically, then the likelihood that it would have a high % of reoccurance just because the baby is a boy would seem to drop significantly. This might not be something you wish to discuss publicly and if not, I totally understand. I was just trying to give you something positive to hold onto.

In any event, you know we will be praying that regardless of the gender, this baby is perfectly healthy in every way!!!!! Will they be able to tell you any info from the fetal echo at the time you have that appt or do you have to wait to find out results? I hate tests where you have to wait.

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((OLV's)))

Its a natural feeling to feel that (since you have btdt). Good luck with the upcoming u/s and I hope the baby is nice and healthy!

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Many healthy & open leg vibes for you!
I hope you will feel reassured after your u/s.

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I certainly understand and I agree with what everyone said. You have legitimate reasons to worry- however- hopefully no matter what they say the gender is, they also say those wonderful words- "you have a healthy baby!" Prayers your way!

I think to some extent we all worry about having a healthy baby. Sometimes we have reasons to, and sometimes it is just because I think it is just nature to hope you are carrying a healthy babe! I think it is just part of being a mom. So, no worries about worrying! LOL

I do hope no matter what the baby is, he or she is 100% healthy.
OLV and good luck!!!

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and and Hunter Grayce~born 6/7/2008 7 lbs 6 oz, a fabulous water birth
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The day you deliver, outside will be warm. Your baby will arrive in the evening.After a labor lasting approximately 5 hours, your child, a girl, will be born. Your baby will weigh about 8 pounds, 15 ounces, and will be 17-1/2 inches long. This child will have blue eyes and dark hair.

Keep thinking happy thoughts. Everything will be just fine!

{{{{{{{OLV}}}}}}}}

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Thank you all so much, and no Xander's problems couldn't be explained so I do have some hope that I could still have a healthy baby boy. I should get the results of the echo at the same time they are doing it, that's how it was with Xander.

Only a few more hours until my dr appointment, I am going to shower, shave, and try to pass the time until bed time and then get up and do my hair and makeup and drink lots of OJ LOL, I am also hoping I don't forget to bring my VHS tape with me so I can get it all on tape! I will put it in my purse now so I don't forget (pregnancy brain, it's bound to happen LOL)

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