Pity Party

Rubia25 · #1 (**permalink**) 05-11-2008, 09:04 AM

Isn't Mother's Day a great day for a pity party??? I know I promised I wouldn't complain for a week - its been a week

I spent the entire day yesterday in tears, and I am really not a crier. I am so uncomfortable and so frustrated right now!!! We fully expected to have this baby around 35 weeks, and the days just keep ticking away and still no baby. Last week was really perfect - we got so everything taken care of that we needed, the house was in order, I felt in order (nails/hair done etc), we had made huge strides with some behavioral issues with the kids, my husband got a bunch of stuff accomplished at work, we were just very very excited about the baby and connecting in a great way about it as a family. And now....we are grumpy, my husband has had it with the kids cause I am just a mental wreck and can't even handle life, my youngest has a bad cold....I so wanted this time to be good because when I had my youngest, it was not a good situation and it made me so sad (very rushed and confusing and my oldest was very ill and things were not in order cause I had been on bedrest). Now I feel like all I do is sit around and wait and wait and grow more and more uncomfortable by the moment. I purposely didn't schedule anything for us this week or last week cause I was sure we'd have the baby by then. So I have nothing to even take my mind off it. All I do is walk, drink raspberry tea, eat pizza, DTD, and think of other ways to bring on labor. For nothing.
Thank you for letting me get that off my chest, I wish it made me feel better but it didn't. I really don't handle pregnancy well, I'm glad this is my last one....
Monica

amanda84 · #2 (**permalink**) 05-11-2008, 10:41 AM

I know,,,,Waiting totally sucks. Especially when things dont happen when you had expected, then every day seems unbearable (speaking from experience, i when 9 day "overdue" with ds...those were horrible days) It does seem to help to vent here though doesnt it?

I hope you end up having a great mother's day anyway.

heavensabove · #3 (**permalink**) 05-11-2008, 11:06 AM

The babies know that youre waiting and getting upset about it. Try not to think about it. Itll come when youre least expecting it, when ITS ready, not you. Makes your body tense too which doesn't help. A relaxed one does. Also, every pgcy is different and can be. It doesn't mean that all of your kids will be born early. I known many that had kids early (32/34 weeks) and then had some at 39/40 weeks. You just don't know when they will arrive.

Myself and the dr thought this baby would have been born a week ago, and here I still am, baking away. Surprising to everyone.

Hang in there. You know that there is an ending sometime, so you know you won't be pg forever.

Rubia25 · #4 (**permalink**) 05-11-2008, 12:07 PM

Rachel, I know you are so right, I need to just forget about it and trust that it will happen when baby is ready....but I am a very obsessive person by nature and also like to be in control. So letting go is so hard!!!! I am trying to busy myself with stuff. I have no baby room to fix and all the clothes (like 6 things) are washed, I didn't have much baby prep to do which probably would have helped. I have only cried once today so that is at least better than yesterday

Monica

Rubia25 · #5 (**permalink**) 05-11-2008, 12:28 PM

I think the other thing is (sorry for rambling today, I honestly am going a bit crazy) I am so terrified about having three kids that I just want to get into it already and see how its going to be. Every day that passes makes me a little more freaked out, and also makes me more worried about the delivery - which is something I never had thought about up until a few weeks ago. The last thing a person like me - obsessive - needs is more time!!!
Monica

ashlee007 · #6 (**permalink**) 05-11-2008, 12:55 PM

35 is too early anyway - you may have had to leave the baby in the NICU and then you would've been miserable about leaving the hospital without your baby. Think of this as a good thing!

katie0608 · #7 (**permalink**) 05-11-2008, 04:53 PM

Don't stress about having three kids. My others were all two years apart, so I had one june 95, june 97, aug 99. And it really fell into place. I myself didn't see much difference between two and three. So don't get hung up on that, it will be ok! The good thing with already having two is they already have each other to help entertain themselves. I totally am feeling the time go by slowly. I want this baby out so my pelvic pain goes away, but I know that it is best it stays in. So for now I am trying to be content with the pain. Hang in there!

renee86akalisa · #8 (**permalink**) 05-11-2008, 07:31 PM