.... of a child you're acquainted with, if that child is at least 3-4 years or more older than your baby?

I'm having an insomnia night - can't get comfortable - and of course the thing on my mind is naming this baby. Go figure.

So here's the specific case - without revealing the name. We have some friends who have a grandchild that is about to turn 4 I believe (perhaps even 5) - I can't remember for sure if she was born when I was PG with Ava or if it was when I was PG one of the times I m/c'd. She has an uncommon name that is very "perky" sounding - for lack of a better adjective to describe it. A happy sounding name - like Emily sounds to me to go with my MIL's name of Christine (which will be the middle name - as you all know from my previous posts). We never have seen this child, don't live in the same town, and only see our friends (her grandparents) occasionally (3-4 times a year).

Do you think it's ok to use the same first name in this case? If so, would you run it by our friends first or just use it? Good grief, I think I'm going crazy over-analyzing all this naming business. You girls probably think I'm nuts too! Thanks for any input.

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I totally over analyze things like that!! one of the names I like is a past friends name and even though I havent seen her in like 6 yrs I am not sure if thats weird or what she would say if we ever crossed paths again. I think what it comes down to is the person... If you think they are the type that will be flattered or the type who wants the child or grandchild to have a really unique name and will think you are stealing it or something. I know how nowadays it feels impossible to hear a beautiful and unique name. I would run it by them.. you never know right! I think there is a good chance they will be fine with it!! lots of love and luck!

Well, if it were a common name, I would say that it would be fine to just use it. But, since it is a unique name, I think I would ask first. Some people might be offended if someone stole their name they worked so hard to come up with, but being that it is a friend's grandchild that you never see, they may not mind at all.

Good luck!

KUP!

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I guess it depends but I would think it would be okay. We actually sort of did have this happen with Kylie's name. Dh's grandmother was keeping a little girl named Kylee when I was pregnant with my Kylie. We had fallen in love with the name without even thinking about the fact that it was her name. When we realized it we seriously debated about using it simply because we didn't want anyone to think we stole or were copying her name. We knew the parents somewhat too but not really well or anything. Their Kylee is 2 years older than ours. We did end up going with our name choice and no one even batted an eye.

When Kylie was 2 months old we all had lunch at dh's grandmother's house...including the other Kylee and her parents. They thought it was cute that we named her the same thing and never even once thought we stole or were copying her name. At that time their little girl was the only Kylee we had ever met. Now we know 3 and 2 of them were born within months of ours.

Of course we weren't close to this girl's parents so if you are really close friends with the other child's grandparents and are worried that it will bother them you could always ask their opinion beforehand. However, my honest opinion now is that it is your child and as long as you like the name then it shouldn't matter. 5 years from now you may not even know that other couple anymore (we haven't seen the other Kylee or her parents in 2.5 years now! They moved.) and you might regret not going with that name. Just a thought to further confuse you! GL!

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I agree with all the above postings and was going to say pretty much the same thing. I guess it depends on how close you are to the grandparents. Although I suppose it is true- we all end up with names that other kids have, and it is hard especially when we know someone with that unusual name.

when I was trying to find a name for Breylan, I had a friend online and I loved her son's name. I asked if it was ok if we used it if dh liked it. It was Sawyer. We ended up using it as his middle name. She was ok with it and actually thought it was neat that I used it. Since they live in CA I don't think we will ever run into each other lol.

I suppose it is a judgment call for you. If you love the name and it really works for you, I would say if you feel you need to ask this friend of yours if they would mind- but explain that you really like the name and it was one that you and dh both agreed on, etc. I'd love to know the name you picked!


How about Sophie or Sophia?

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The day you deliver, outside will be warm. Your baby will arrive in the evening.After a labor lasting approximately 5 hours, your child, a girl, will be born. Your baby will weigh about 8 pounds, 15 ounces, and will be 17-1/2 inches long. This child will have blue eyes and dark hair.

I love both of those. However, I loved them so much - when I never thought we would be having another child, that I named one of my dogs Sophie. She got stolen, but now I couldn't name a child that name.

I'll be sure to tell the name, once I run it by DH whether he goes for it or not. Might be able to by the weekend.

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not at all. I think the only off limits names are ones that your siblings have used.

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That's kind of the way I feel. I wouldn't use a name that anyone in my close family had used on one of their children. Thanks!

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Here's my two cents. I'd say since your friends are the grandparents and not the parents it wouldn't be a big deal. I would feel funny naming my child the same as a close friend's child but if I had close friends that had grandkids I don't think that would be a big deal. I guess if you feel like you should run it by them then go ahead but what if they are weird about it then you might be let down. If you really like the name and want to use it go ahead, if they are your good friends I highly doubt they would say anything after you already name your child. Good luck I know how hard it is coming up with the perfect name. I get ideas in my head about a name and then think I hope no one I know uses it before baby gets here. LOL

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One of my girlfriends from the school where I worked emailed me back and told me that if a name wakes you up in the middle of the night and won't let you go back to sleep, it's a sign that that is the name the child should have. I think I'm really going to keep that in mind.

When I think about it, I doubt DH will even remember that their grandchild has that name. I think if he agrees to the name, I'm just going to go with it and if they are bothered by it, I'll just try to compliment that child's name in a way that they would feel honored that someone thought it was pretty enough to want to use it too. Like I said, we see them at most 3-4 times a year. I doubt we would even see them until the baby is probably several months old anyway. I'm just going with my gut on this one. Now for DH to take a liking to the name. for that!

Thanks so much everybody for your input. I really appreciate it. I guess I worry too much about what other people think sometimes. If only those other people gave me that much consideration. Just kidding.

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Shannon- that's funny about Sophie! That's how I feel about Chloe- I love the name so much I named my cat Chloe. She will be 18 this year! I'd name my dd Chloe Grayce, but I don't know if dh would go for it especially since we had the cat. LOL Sorry your dog was stolen.

I hope dh likes the name!

I thought of some others- like Rose, Aubrey or Audrey.

Oh- how about Ophelia Christine? Audrey Christine...

Plus I like what your friend said- if a name wakes you up in the middle of the night, that is the name you should go with! Then you have a story to tell about it! LOL

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The day you deliver, outside will be warm. Your baby will arrive in the evening.After a labor lasting approximately 5 hours, your child, a girl, will be born. Your baby will weigh about 8 pounds, 15 ounces, and will be 17-1/2 inches long. This child will have blue eyes and dark hair.

Just skimmed through the other posts, but, IMO, I wouldn't think it would be a big deal. I guess the real question would be just 'how unique' (or different, uncommon, etc.) the name is? If you think that the other girl's family would automatically assume you used her name (not just 'the' name), then I might mention it beforehand. (You never know...they might be honored!) Otherwise, it seems safe to me.

I was going to say something else regarding this, but alas, preggo brain has taken over once again...my brain is mush...

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Personally...I avoided using any names of kids I knew, relatives, inlaws kids, friends kids, etc. I even avoided using online friends kids names.

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Haven't read any replies just yet.

As the acquainted and tell her you really like her kids' name and you were thinking about using it as a first name (change the middle name, though). If you never see her or the kid, I don't see a problem with it. I'd be flattered if someone my mom was friends with liked my DSs name and wanted to use it.

I like this and I think I agree with it!

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Well I agree with most of what has already been written. If you aren't that close to the kid and don't see them then I don't see anything wrong with it.
I know there were a couple of names I really liked but I had acquaintances who used them...so I didn't want to. I also shared the boy's name I loved last year, and my friend used it for her son (although I told her she could). So that was off the table this time~I won't be doing that again.

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I thought of some more names you may or may not like

Charlotte (that would be cute with Ava)
Alyssa
Alisa or Alysia (I have a friend with that second spelling and it is pronounced like Alisha)
Kira
Rose
anything with -ana or -bella or -ella at the end. Graciella, Graciana...Isabella... something like that...just as an example.
Maya
Miranda
Mia
Avery
Scarlet

There were others but now I can't remember them!

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The day you deliver, outside will be warm. Your baby will arrive in the evening.After a labor lasting approximately 5 hours, your child, a girl, will be born. Your baby will weigh about 8 pounds, 15 ounces, and will be 17-1/2 inches long. This child will have blue eyes and dark hair.

Just wanted to report that I ran the name by DH and told him about the dream too. He was ok with the name, just wondered how it would be spelled. I gave him the two possible spellings I was considering and told him he could decide that part. Now if I just don't change my mind . I don't think I will though. All my friends that I've told the name to think it's great.

DH didn't even think about the other child being named that, so that goes to show how observant he is about such things. LOL And I really think our friends will be ok with it. I'm not going to make it a point to call them about it, but if we run into them, I will tell them that our plan is to use the name. I won't be announcing the name right now on the public board, but might on the PB. Thank for all the input, it really helped me to think things through about if it would matter to them or not and I really don't think it will. I think if anything they will be flattered.

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I had some more names to throw out to you! LOL Going to check the private board!

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The day you deliver, outside will be warm. Your baby will arrive in the evening.After a labor lasting approximately 5 hours, your child, a girl, will be born. Your baby will weigh about 8 pounds, 15 ounces, and will be 17-1/2 inches long. This child will have blue eyes and dark hair.

It's not there yet, but I'll try to post it later today. Got errands this morning, so I don't have much time.

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