Last night we were at my aunt's house when her neighbor came by for a visit. She looked at me and "Yep, you can definitely tell you are having a girl! You've gotten fat all over!"

WTH!!! You don't tell a pregnant lady she is fat! Plus I was kneeling on the floor with Max, so my legs probably looked bigger, because she then said, "Especially in your legs and face."

I had no idea what to say!! I've tried so hard to not gain a ton of weight this pregnancy. I'm up 15 lbs so far at almost 30 weeks. I was thinking that wasn't SO bad, but now I feel fat and frumpy.
Why do people have to open their big ole' mouths!?

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Yikes...etiquette! You don't tell a non-pregnant person that they're fat in the face and legs, so why would you tell a pg person!?! Your weight gain is awesome! I'm floating around the 20lb mark...now it makes me fear what I look like to others.

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Im sorry, thats an awful thing for her to say!!
A couple of days ago my SIL and I went to a chinese restraunt for dinner and the woman that worked there asked me if I was having twins and I told her it was only 1 and she said "O big baby, big baby". I was like "yeah, I have big babies".
I still dont know if I should be insulted or not... I do have big babies... Not HUGE though. My daughter was 8 lbs 1ounce and my son was 8 lbs 13 ounces.
I would be pretty mad though if someone told me I was fat. Thats just awful. And you ARE doing a good job with your weight, I have gained 30 lbs so far.

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I can't beleive someone would actually say that! I probably would have started crying on the spot but I can't seem to control me emotions anywayl. lol.

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Oooh I hate when people say stuff like that! When I was working and pregnant with Ava customers would basically fight with me over the gender. "What are you having?" - Oh a girl - "No It must be a boy your stomach is so pointy!!"

Thanks a lot people. Now my self esteem is that much lower.

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that is so mean!! I don't understand why it's ok to say that to a pregnant woman! You should have said "What's your excuse?" or more passive-agressively: "Yeah well at least it's pregnancy and not just neglectful weight gain (coupled with a sideways glance toward HER belly)."

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That's just awful, I'm so sorry, why is it people don't think before they speak??
We ought to be allowed to smack people, we need a "pregnant lady smacking pass"!

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Thats an awful thing to say. I hate stupid people.

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OMG! People suck!

15 lbs. at 30 weeks is awesome!! I'm jealous! :p

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~ Rebecca ~
Drew 04.09.04
Landon 02.21.06
and Max 05.28.08

omg that is terrible... was the lady older. My grandmother is 90 and she holds no bar...if your fat she will tell you! lol pregnant or not. She is so rude. But she is 90 so we let it all go. She hasnt seen me in a long while. WOnder what she would say... SHe wasnt kind when i was pregnant with stone and that was 4 and half years ago already....SO.... oh well.

People are rotten.

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People can be insensitive to begin with...I just don't understand why it gets worse when you are pregnant. That would have totally irked me. Lots of things people have been saying irks me. I think you look great Brandi!

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THAT’S crazy!!!! I am so sorry she said that!!!! People are sooo rude it makes me sooo MAD!!!! You truly have done AMAZING with your weight!!!! Do not let her words into your thoughts at all!!!!!

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Amanda, James & Sweet Mackenzie

7/17 -3rd Laparoscopic Surgery for Endometriosis
8/07 femara & ovidrel First Cy..... 8/24/07
(After trying for 6 years on and off)

Stupid people suck!!! 15 lbs is GREAT!!!!!!! I have gained 20 something by now

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I'll vote for the smacking pass. People don't stop to think that things they say can hurt. As a parent we would correct a child, but adults are rude and get away with it.

Your weight gain is awesome, I'm closing in on 25. Stay healthy for you and the baby.

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Sarah & Natalie

I seriously don't understand why people think it's ok to say these things....to pregnant or non-pregnant people! It's rude either way.

I say that 15lbs is excellent weight control and we all know it's more important about what's best for the baby!!

You're doing great

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I don't get it either - and most of the people who say these things have been pregnant themselves! Don't take it to heart, she was just rude.

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OMG, what an IDIOT!!! I am so sorry she said that to you. I totally agree with the other ladies, there are a lot of stupid comments floating around out there. When I was pregnant w/my first dd, complete strangers would say, "oh it must be a boy, your stomach is sticking straight out in front." Yeah, I'm sure the 3 ultrasounds saying she was a girl are wrong then. Plus, I don't even know you...why are you inspecting my stomach???!!! I don't know why people say the stupid things they do. Sorry. BTW, 15 lbs is awesome, I am closer to 25 too.

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Ann-Marie

try to let it slide. Dh and i laugh b/c I swear in the same day I get some random person INSISTING i'm only 14 wks pregnant...instead of 31 and then someone else will INSIST i'm have AT LEAST twins LOL

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Dean (30) & Janice (27) Married May 27,2000

Our first princess: Tirzah Liberty November 6,2003!
Our baby in Heaven "Little Miracle" lost at 4wks July 6, 2004.
Our little "Angel Boy" Zion Courage arrived July 9, 2005 8lbs 7oz (2wks early)
Beautiful little Azlan Honor born September 13, 2006 8lbs 4oz (1 wk early)
Princess Azahria Peace born April 26, 2008 7lbs 12oz (2 wks early)

Our colorful family~little Azahria at 16days old

yeah I agree...why are people so rude? I male teacher at school the other day told me that I am getting biggier and bigger everyday. Now I expect that from my students but not from someone whose wife has had 2 kids

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Emersyn Cecilia

People should just zip it if they do not have anything nice to day. You look great and have done wonderful on the weight gain. I would just ignore her comments. Yesterday I was at my cardio appt and a lady told me wow, you could drop that baby any day. I just smiled and said, well I have about 3 months left. She didn't say anything after that:-)

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